花镇情感咨询给退款么？穷追不舍的挽回，为什么等同于失败？

 xuduorendaowanliuqianqi，huazhenqingganzixunjituikuanme？shijishangshiyoushifenduodejiyude。huoxuyouxierenbingbuneiyangganjue。shubuzhi，keguanshishibianshikeguanshishi。

 wohaizaiyiqiandezaixiankechenglishuodaoguo：zailiangrenfenlideqianqi，xianghuneixinhuanshiyoushifenduodecanyuxintaicunyoude。yinci ，zaitichufenshouqianqi，shijishangyouhenduoshijiaonenggouzuoweiwanliudetupokou。

keshi，youderenquebayishouhaopaidadehenlan，yeranglingyifangyuelaiyueyuan。

例如，下边这一事例：

 ahebtichufenshoulianggexingqile，zaizheililianggexingqishijianli，bbuduangenjudianhua、shoujiweixin、dianziyouxiangzheixiegezhonggeyangfangfa，yaoxiangwanliua。keshi，bqueyonglezuicaogaodeyizhongfangfa：xinxihongzha。zaigezhonggeyangxinxihongzhazhong，byingyongleqiqiu、weixie、youshi、fuwuchengnuozheixiegezhonggeyangfangshi。zuizhong，zaikubukanyanxia，ajiaruheimingdanleb。zaiyihoudeyizhoushijianli，byoujinglileshangmenfuwumeiyourenlicai、tuopenyoudaixinbeiwanyanxiejuezheixiegezhonggeyangqingkuang。zaiblianluodaowoyihou，shuodediyijuhuabianshi：“tabenlaishuodeshifenlijirilizhiyixia，jieguorujinwanquanpaole，taguozhenshimeinaqiande!”

shijishang，zaishangmiandeshilili，bjiuguishuyuyingshengshengdebazijidelingyibanjizou，haifenhaobuzizhidezhonglei。

 congkeguanxingshijiaolaipouxi，azailikaizhihouchangshuode“fenlijiri”he“lizhiyixia”，wulunshiyinayigecengmiankaolvdaode，zuishaoshizaoyijizheiyiduanguanlianliuyouleyidingdejiyu。

 yinci ，azaifenshoushi，shijishangshicunyoufeichangdadekebianxingde。youkebianxing，jiubiaomingtashijishangyebushihennengmingqueliqubdezheiyijueceshibushiqiadang。

zaizheileiyouyubudingdeqingkuangzhong，wanliudeduiceshijishangshihenrongyishijicaozuode。

liru，bnenggoudayaoqiupai、datihuipai、dazhuiyipaizheixie，zheiquanshijiaoweigaoxiaolvdefangfa。

keshi，bquepianyaotiaoxuanleyongxintaiqugenlingyifangzuo“zhuangji”。

 congmouzhongyiyishangjiang，zailiangrenbujiufenkaideshihou，zaiqizhongyifang(beiwanliufang)tongchanghuizaochengyizhongjiaoweiqitedexintai：zishenshijishangshiyouhenduoxintailiucunde，keshi，queyizhizaizuo“xintaipingbidiao”defanying，wulunshuoxieshenme，quanshiyifuruanyingbuchideqingkuang。

 yinci ，zaizheileiqingkuangxia，xiangjiuchanbuxiu、jinzhuibushezheileihanyoujiweimingxian“xintaimaodun”defangfa，huazhenqingganzixunjituikuanme？zaizheileichangjinglizongshijuyoufanshijixiaoguo。ranglingyifangyuanbenbuquedingxingdexintai，xunsudezhuanhuachengmingqueerqieyaoxiangtaochudeqingkuang。

一直被误解的“挽留”

wanliuzheiyijianshier，shijishangzaixuduoguanlianzhong，beiwaiqule。

 youderenhuiganjue，wanliufeichangjiandan，yaoshibaliangren“yinweishenmeertichufenshou”zheiyijianshierbiaoshuqingxijiukeyile。keshi，ruguonineiyangfuzhushijianyihou，ninengfajue：biaoshu，shijishangchengguoweihuqiwei。

这是为什么呢?

 shijishang，zaijibenshangquanbudehunyinpolieshilizhong，tichufenshoudezhenshiyuangu，doubingbushizaocheng tichufenshoudemouyiexingshijian。erzaocheng tichufenshoudezheiyiexingshijian，zhibuguoyigebaofadianbale。

 jianyieryan，shijishangliangrenwangwangmeiyoubanfayunyingxialaiyiduanqinggan，haowuyiwenshiyouyuzaiqizhongcanzaerqiezhenzhuolexuduobufuhe。yikaishideqingkuangxia，zheizhongbumanyidefumianqingxubingmeiyouzhuyaobiaoxianchuqu，zhishibeiyayiganbeidunji。

 zheizhongbeiyayigandebuliangqingxu，zhangqidemeiyoubanfahuodechuli，bianhuibianweiyigejidadeanquanyinhuan。zaozhongwanhuizaiguanlianzhongyiyizhong“qianglie”defangfazhuyaobiaoxianchuqu。zheiyejiushizaocheng dajiatichufenshoudenagebaofadian。

 yinci ，“yaoxiangwanliujiudexianbazaocheng dajiatichufenshoudebaofaexingshijianchulihao”zheiyidianzishenbianshigewuhui。zhenshihelidewanliuduice，yidingshigenju“shizhiyaoqiu”yishangkaizhande。