gaozhizhuiqiunidenanhaiziniduitameiyouxingquaihao,youshihouhuilingnibushufu,wulundajiashixianghuhaibutaishu,yihuodajiazaoyiyouhuiguosanci,quanshizheiban。sunhaitarendeqingganzhongjiubingbushiyijianhaoshi,keshiyidanbakeguanshishishuochulai,niyejiuhuiganjuehenqingqingsongsong,guangzhouhuazhenqinggangongsikaopuma?erlingyifangyekeyixunsudixunzhaoxiayigezongtimubiao。jiarunilejieyaoduitashuoxienaxiejiqizenyangzhangkou,niyejiunengjinliangwenrouwanzhuandihuijuetadeqinggan。
1、决策你是不是要当众对他说。
xingba,jiarudajiayijingyouhui,queshi,niyinggaidangzhonghetatitichufenshou,neibancaisuanshiyoulimaodezuofa。keshijiarutagenjushoujixinxihuodianziyoujianlaiyueni,huoshishigenjuxianshangyuehuiwangzhan,zaineiyangdexusiqingjingzhonghuiyingtajiujiaoweishihe。neiyangzuodajiashuangfangdougengnengfangzhinankan,erqieyekeyimianchunijiandaotabeishangbiaoqingdetongchu;lingwai,zheiyekeyijiaojitadaliangdezizun,bingfeijiniyinzhengtazaitingjianxinxihouyouduomededebenkui。danjiarulingyifangjiushinihenqinmiwujiandepenyou,huoshidajiazaoyiyouhuile2gebanyue,neimaniyejiubixujitamendagedianhua,kanyixiazenmezuoshiduitagengweizhongshide。
•yaozhuyaobiaoxiandewanshanxie,wulundajiashifoudangtanhua,bixuqinzihetatan。rangnidepengyoulaidaihuahuishitajuedebushitaihaode。
2、要直言不讳自身讨厌和他相处。
jiarunitaoyanzheiyinanhaizi,niyejiubixuchengxindishuochuniduitameishenmexingqudekeguanshishi。jiarutayueniquwan,ninengshuoyixiexiangjinxiabiandehua:“wohenbaoqian,keshiwoqueshibuganjuebicizhijiannengyounaxielangmandeshiqingchansheng。”huoshi“woduinimeiyouneibandejuede,keshiwoqueshiganjueduinihao。”rangneiyangdehuihuajinkenengjianjiemingle,keshiyaoshitalejienibuxianghetaxiangchu,neiyangtajiuburongyiganjueyihuo,yebuhuizaizainipangbianjiuchanbuqingzhenini。
•tahenyoukenenghuibiwenniyuangu,dannibingbuyidingjiangnitaoyantadeyuanyinsuoyouduitashuo。zheihuishitajuedegengzaogaode,guangzhouhuazhenqinggangongsikaopuma?yinci ,jibian lingyifang“juede”bixuwengedaodi,yeqingbangtamianchuzheileicaogaodejuedeba。
3、得出一个有效的原因。
jiaruniduitameiyouganjue,jiuduitashuo。jiarunirujinlinshibuyuanyurenyouhui,jiushushibiaoming。jiarunizaoyiyouxihuanderenle,haiyaoshitalejie。jiarunijuedetayidianyebumeilidongren,naizhirerentaoyan,yinerqueshitaoyanta,neinijiunenggoubazheizhongguanjiandianmanbaoqilaile。jinguansahuanghuoxugoutuocilingrenhenbuyukuai,keshimeirenhuiyaoxiangtingjian“woshibuxihuanni”neiyangdehua。xiangyigeyouganranliyouburongyitaizhishangdeyuanyinba。
•tizaoxiangniyaoyaoduitashuonaxieyuanyin,neiyangjiarunisahuang,yebuhuibeitafajuele。
•jiarunibingbushiqueshixiailingyigeren,jiububiduitaneiyangshuo。taxunsubianhuifajuede。
•ciwai,jiarunizaoyixiailingyigeren,jiububishuohuangshuonihaimeiyouzhunbeihaojienayiduanganqing。ruguotazaidajiajiaotanhoumeiduojiujiukanjianniyulingyigenanshengquwannaizhiyouhui,tahuiganjuezishenxianggeerlengzi,youyunimengpianleta。
4、要坚定不移。
henyoukenengnizheigerenhenshanjierenyi,keshiniwubishitaqingxidigaoqingchu,niduitabingmeibaoyoulanmandeqingyi。jiarunijuede“worenweizishenrujinbuchuyuyigeheshilianaidejieduan……”huoshi“zheigeyuewodexueyequeshiguozhongle……”,neimatahenyoukenenghuiwujiewei,niyizhizaiduitashuo,jiarutazaijianchibuxiedengyilianggeyuebianhuigenghaiyoujihui。jitamenxubaodexiwangshihenbutaihaode,jinguanneiyanghenyoukenenghuishitaduanshijiangengqiangshouyixie,keshiyaohuadaliangduoyudeshijianlaishitayishidaotayunizhongjianmeiyougailv,zheihuishitagengshangxinde。
•queshi,zuicaogaodeshiermoguoqizhatazaicizhuiqiunile。yinci ningyuangengjiandingbuyiyixie,yebubikanqilaiguoduaimeibuqing。
5、不必屈辱他。
buyaoduitashuotabuzuconghui、buzuyouyi、buzumeilidongren,yinci peibushangni,buranninengshenshang“buzaiyibierentihuidehuainvhai”neiyangdeexing。jiaruniyaoxiangwenrouwanzhuandihuijueta,neimaniwubirangzishenjuedelingyifangshigefeichanghaodenanhaizi,yinci nimeikeyiquruta,jishiniyijingduitashuodeshiyigebingliangde、wufajienadekeguanshishi。
•zaidajiajiaotandeqingkuangxia,yaojiangniquanbudezhuyilijizhongdaotadeshenshang。jiarunikanqilaibunaifanhuoshibuduandiwanshouji,tahuigengyoubeirudejuede。
6、防止文不对题。
buyaoshuo“cuomeiyouni,zaiwo”、“nizhidezhaoyigebiwogengqiangde”huoshi“wozhishihaimeiyouzhunbeihaojienayiduanqinggan”neiyangdehua。quanbudenanhaizidoutingguoneiyangdehua,huanshibuzaisunhaitaguoduodezhuangkuangxiayichengxiangdaixianggaogengqiangyixie:niduitabianshimeiyouganjue。yongqingxideyongyushitagaoqingchunikendingbuhuiyaoxianghetachuduixiang,huibixiangtanianjingdiantaicilaidegengqiangyixie。
7、尽可能使交谈简洁明了。
yidannijiangchulenishuoqide,jiugaigebendongxile,wulunshiyongjiudehuanshiduanzanxingde。tahenyoukenenghaixiangranhoutanxialai,yaotingdaliangdebiaoshu,lainongqingweihedajiabianshibunengzaiyiqi,keshineiyanghuishidajiashuangfangdougengbushufu。jiarunijuedezheigewentihuichanshengzaizheigenanhaizideshenshang,niyejiubixuzhunbeichongfenhaoquanshenertuideduice,liruyaohepenyoupengmianhuoshiyougongzuoyaogan。jiarunimeishenmeyaozuodeshi,zhishiyaoxiangduobitaerliquhuikanqilaigengnankan。
8、假如你要和他再次做朋友,就对他说。
jiarunihezheiyinanhaiziqueshiyoushifenbaoguideyouqing,neimeninenggouduitashuozheiyiduanyouqingduijiniduoguanjian,dannibingbuyuancuihuita。zheibingbudaibiaozhenixuyaoxiangzheixiebingbulejie(naizhibingtaoyan)derenxuanyongyiyangdeyongyu;jiarudajiayiqianjiubingbushipenyou,danniduitashuo“dajiahuanshizuopengyouba”,neimatahuiganjuenijinjinzaikuanweita。keshi,jiarudajiazaoyishizuihaodepengyouyouyiduanshijianle,qiangdiaotaduinieryanshiduomedehaodeyigepenyouhenyoukenenghuishitagengqiangshouyixie。
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