好几个追求者，如何选到佳偶？

yishengzheimezhangzonghuiyoujigezhuiqiuzhe，womengairuhezeouni？

一、你要了解你自己，你内心渴望什么。

 dangyoujigezhuiqiuzhebiaobaishizenmeban？shouxianyaonajigezhuiqiuzheduibi，ranhouniyaozhidaoneixinkewangshenme，buguoyoushihounizijidoubuzhidao。dangjigenanrenzhuiqiuwoshi，tongchangwohuicongtoushedejiaodulaikan，kannifumudehunyinshishenmeyangde，ruguonifumudehunyinshichaojiaxingde，nikenenghuixuanyigebuhuichaojiade，dangranbushishuoyaoquxuanyigeneixiangderen，neixiangderenbingbushibuchaojia。zaizheigeguochengzhong，niyaozhidaonizijitaoyanshenme，birunifumuchaojia，nitaoyanchaojiaderen，dantongshiniyouxihuan，youhuicaiquchaojiadefangshi，suoyiyiweizheniyaozhaoyigedongzenmechaojiaderen，caibuhuirangnigandaowuzhu，buhuiyichaojiajiujifanidefangyutixi。suoyinixuyaoshenme，yaneshenme，nenggoufuchushenme，zheifeichangguanjian，yefeichangzhongyao。zheijuedingleniweilaizailianaihehunyindangzhong，nihuidedaoshenmeyangdemanzu，ninenggourangbierenmanzushenme。niyaozhuazhuhexinde、guanjiandequshuo，nimenzhijiancaihuiyouyigebijiaohaodezengzhikongjian，erbushidanchunbenbendikazaiyoujigezhuiqiuzhebiaobaishi，woyinggaixuannagedewentishang。

二、策略

 tanlianaiwomenkeyicongbutaoyankaishi，shuoxihuantanbushangxihuan，shuotaoyantanbushangtaoyan，kanqilaishufu，huozhekeyiqujiaowangyixia。qishiyoudeshihou，yijianzhongqingyetinghao，zheigeguochengdangzhongqujueyunidiyitiaozuodebijiaohao，yinweidiyitiaojibenquedinglenidezeoubiaozhun。diertiaoshicelve，jiushiwobutaitaoyanni，kenengmeiyouduiniyijianzhongqing，danshiwoyuanyigennijiaowangyixia，kankannishishenmeyangderen，ranhoujigezhuiqiuzheduibi。

三、从自身的角度看。

 yaoqulejietadefumu，lejietamendehunyin，lejiefumushiruhefuyangtade，ranhoulejietayounaxiezhongdashijian，ruguonizheixiebudongdehuajiumeibanfazhenzhengchengwoduifangshishenmeyangderen。yinweinilejieduifangjiushikannengbunengpipei，nilejiezheixiedongxijiushizailejiezheigerendehunyinmoshi，airendenengli，hunyinshenghuodefangshidengdeng。

四、要在事件当中了解。

 yinweizhiyouzaishijiandangzhongcainengzhanxiantaderengetedian、taweirenchushidefangshi、taduishijiandetaidu、taduirenduishiheduiyingjizhuangkuangdengdeng，tashishenmeyangdebanshifangfa。tashiruhekongzhiqingxude，ruhexiediaorenjiguanxide，zheixiefeichangzhongyao。suoyishuozaishijiandangzhongjiuhuiyoumaodunchongtu，zhiyouzaimaodunchongtuzhong，nicainenggouzhenzhengquchengwozheigeren，yinweinimenweilaidehunyinkendinghuiyoumaodunchongtu。dangranzaishijianguochengzhong，yenengzengqiangbicizhijiandelejiehehuxin，zengqiangbibizhijianmeihaodehuiyi，ranhoutongguoshijianquxianghumanzu，youliyudajiaququedingzheigerenshibushinisuoyaoderen。daoshihounijiuhuiziranzhidaojigezhuiqiuzhebiaobaiwogengyinggaixuanzeshei。zhiyaoyouyigesiluhefangfa，jiubuhuizaidangjigenanrenzhuiqiuwodeshihou，woyinggaixuannagedewentishangjiujie。