我真的可以追求你吗？

你很好，只是我们不 适合 ……在表白中，最受挫的也就是这句话吧。你努力追求的人，却没有办法喜欢上你。但有时候，有这句话反而是件好事。至少，两个人都表明了状态。

一、 在没有确定的关系前，有另外一种可怕的状态。

 tajieshounidehao、jieshounideliwu、jieshounideguanxin、jieshounideyaoqing。niyiweitamorenlenidezhuiqiu，jiuzheimeyizhihaozhebingmorenzhe，nijiuzheiyangbuhaoyisiyerenweibuyongtiaoming。zhidaoyouyitiandangniwentaxibuxihuannishi，huozheqianqitadeshoudeshihou，tajujuelenidezhuiqiuhuozhenidexihuan。bingshuoleyiju：woyizhidoubanidanghaopengyou，bingqieshuole“nihenhao，zhishiwomenbushihe”zheijuhua。

 liuxianiyigerenzaineiluomoheshangxin。suoyishuoniyoushihouxuyaodadandeshuochuwokeyizhuiqiunima？jinjintongguoguanchayigerendefanying，lairenweitamorennidezhuiqiu，qishishihenbulizhidebiaoxian。caiceyigerendeneixin，xianbushuochayizaisuonanmian，erqiehenrongyichanshengwuhui，gengzhongyaodeshinimorenlehaojiuerrenjiazhishijuedenirenhaoerjinxiangdangpengyou，gaodezijihentongku。nimomodefuchu，bazheixiemomodezhuiqiudangzuobiaobai。youshihoubujinhuiwenbiaobaisuanzhuiqiuma？

 nanguaichangyouwangyoudiaokanzheixienvhai：buxiangzuorenjianvpengyou，ganmayaoxiangshourenjianvpengyoudedaiyu？haiyouyigeguanyuchihuohechihuodegushi；zaikfcliyiduinannv，nvshengchidehenhuanernanshenghanqingmaimaidikanzheduifang。guolehaoyihuihounanshengkaikoushuo：“keyihewojiaowangma？”nvshengxunsubajituifangxia，“henbaoqian，woyounanpengyoule……”nanshengdixiatoumaosihennanguodeyangzi，youguolehui，nvshengwen：“neiwohaikeyichima？”nanshengyilianwunaiditaiqitoushuo：“chibachiba……”suoyikeyikending“biaobaisuanzhuiqiuma”zheigewentile，momodezhuiqiuyoushihoubingbudengtongyubiaobai，yinweiyoushihoubingfeixiangnixiangdeneiyangfazhan。

、 为什么不愿意直接大胆的去表白呢？你是真的想追求真爱吗？

 dangniyuanyiquzhuiqiudeshihou，jiuyijingyouyibufenzixinle，buranniyebuhuiqubaifeili。diyicitadayingnideyaoqing，nijiuhuibiaoxiandexichuwangwai。diercitajieshounideliwu，nirenweitayijingjieshoule。disanciniqingtachifan，tafuyueleernizaiciqianghua，taduiniyouyixiangle。zishizhizhongnidoumeiyoubiaobaiguoyijuhua，yiqiemorendexiangfa，douzainizijidenaozilikaishijiagong、manmanfaya、zhangda，eryuduifanghaowuguanxi。zuizhongyaodeshinikenengyijingjuedenanyiqichi，xiangdengdaoshijichengshudeshihouzaishuo。zijichenjinzaizijihuanxiangchulaidemeihaoli，yicicixiandegengshen。suoyiniyaowenqingzijinishizhendexiangzhuiqiuzhenaima？youledaanyihou，jiandingdequzhuiqiu。

 nimendexiangfabingbutongbu，zhishinibuzhidaoeryi，niqueyiweixinzhaobuxuan。nimenyouzhebutongdexiangfa，nirenweijieshouliwudaibiaobiaobai，ertakenengyiweijieshouliwuzhishijieshounideguanxin。niyiwei，jieshounideqingchifanshiduinidemoren，ertakenengzhiyiweishipengyouzhijianchigefan。nimenduiyutongshizaizuotongyijianshidejiedubingbuxiangtong。suoyiniyizhibaochiyizhongziyiweidetaiduqumiandui，erbushidadandishuochuwokeyizhuiqiunimazheijuhua，zhongjiuzhihuirangniluodaoyigeziwochenzuidexiachang

三 、在追求当中你为什么会受伤？

 niduitadeqidaizaiyitianbiyitianzenggao，erqieyetaozuiyuzheizhongmeihao，niyuelaiyuequedingtaduinideganjue，kaishixinxiruokuang，neixindexiaotuzikuangtiaobuzhi。gezhongjixiangbiaomingcongnidiyiciyuetadeshihoukaishi，nimendeganqingdouzaijijushengwen。turanyoutiannifaxiantabingbuxihuanni，nidaizaineilijiuganjuedaoyiluoqianzhang。suiranzheiduanguanxibingmeiyouqueliguo，danshiduinilaishuo，queshiyizhongshilian。yinweizainideshijieli，nimenyijingcongxiangshidaolexianglian，dangzheizhongguanxiyidanbeidapodeshihou，nidezheigemengyejiusuile，suoyoudeaideganjuedouyuanlierqu。yejiushishuoniyizhizaijiezhetadexingxiangzaizijidetounaolidaoyanleyibulianaizhutidegushiju。nideqidaibingmeiyoushixianbingqiexiangchashenyuan。nisuoyoudenulidouchengleshuipiao，suoyinihuizaizhuiqiuzhongshibaidehuajiuhuigandaoshoushang。

四、当表白失败时你该怎么办？

 goutongyongyuanshilianaikaishidediyibu，bingqiejiangshizhongguanchuanyulianaiguochengzhong。zainixinlikenengyouyiwanzhongcaixiang，yiqianzhongqueren，jizhuneizhishinide，bingbushitade。lianaizuipa“woyiwei”。ruguonijuedewufashuochu“nixihuanwoma”zheiyangdehua，nihaipashijihaimeidao，shuolebeitajujue，nikeyishizhehuanyizhongfangshiqubiaoda：wokeyizhuiqiunima？nijuedewozenmeyang？ruguonihaishijuedeshijibuchengshu，nikeyizainidiyicichanshengtakenenghuijieshounideniantoudeshihouqubiaoda。

 duitongyijianshilianggerendekanfashifouyizhihenzhongyao。nideshijieguanzhishinizijide，bingbushiquanshijiedoutongyongde。qiebukeyiweinizheimeyiwei，bierenyehuizheimeyiwei。nikeyishizhequlejietadeshijieguanshishenmeyangzide。keyizhijiewenhuozhejianjiewen。birushuonikeyijitajiang“chihuohechihuo”degushi，huofashengzaishenbianleisiyunimendegushi，ranhouxunwentaduigushizhongxingweidekanfa，xunwentagushizhongzhurengongdexiangfashishenme。tahuidachudegushizhongderendexiangfa，qiaqiashitazijidexiangfa，congzhongyekeyikuitanchutaduinimendeshiqingdexiangfa。

 zuizhongyaodeshiwenwenziji，zaishenmeyangdefanweineinijuedenenggouanquanqubiaobai，youzaishenmeyangdefanweineinijuedezijibuhuitaishiyi。yexunihaibugoulejieta，danshinikeyixianlejiezijibingqiebaohuziji，ranhouzaixinxinbaibeidigaosutanideaiyi。

buyaozaihenjiuyihou，dangnizaizheiduanganqingyuexianyueshendeshihou，caitingdaozheijuhua：nihenhao，zhishiwomenbushihe。