我如何对待我妻子的婚后出轨

 hunhouchugui weishenmehuichuxianzaixiandaidehunyinni？yinweixiandaidenianqingrenshanhunxianzhuangtaipubianduiaiqingyuelaiyuebufuze，duiqiziwaiyuyijingmeirenheganjuele。neimexiaobianxianzaijiuyaogaosudajiaruguobushidangchulizheixieguanxi，kenenghuiwujibifan！

一、如何正确处理婚后出轨

1、不被任何条件约束

 yibanhunhouyifangchugui，birunanrenchuguile，nvrenruguoguoduanxuanzelihun，yidinghuiyoutaiduorenquanshuo：weilehaizi，weilehaoburongyijianlidejia，weilenizijideyihoudengdai，bielihunxuanzeyuanliangba。jibendoushizheiyitaoci，keshidangshizhedeganshoufangnaer？kuangqiexianshizhong，weilesuoweineixietiaojianerxuanzeyuanliangde，youyouduoshaofuqizhendehuixingfu？suoyi，hunyinneichuxianchugui，buyaobeirenhetiaojianyueshu，weixinerlunjiuke。

2、不拿孩子说事

 buguanshimingxingyehaopingminyeba，hunhouyudaochuguiyinhaizierxuanzeyinrende，shizaishiduozhiyouduo，kanqilaihunyinwanmeiwuquezhongguiyuhaole，keshijiruhe，zhiyoufuqishuangfang，haiyouhaizizhixiaole。zouguohunyinduonianhouderendouzhidao，nahaizishuoshidehunyin，shizuizuibuxingdehunyin，haiziyeshibuxinghunyinde“xishengpin”。shixiangyixia，ruguonidehunyinbuxingfu，nidehaiziruhexingfu？

3、把抉择进行一个比较

 renzheibeizizuinande，jiushijuezeyijianshi，tebieshihunyin，buguanshinanshinv，hunyindoushiyibeizihenzhongyaodeshiqing。mianduihunyinlidechugui，wuwaihuliangzhongxuanze，yishijiazhuangwushixuanzeyuanlianghuozheyinren，yishishuihuoburongyidaoliangduanshenzhiduibugongtang。neime，daodigairuheniyaozuochuyigejueze，neizhongjuezeshijiankude，ruguonimeiyouneifenjuejuedeyongqi，nikeyibanidexuanzefenchengliangfangjinxingduibiyixia，ranhouxuanzeduizijishanghaizuixiaodeneiyilei。

二、如何看待妻子外遇

 1、querenshifouzhendechugui，neinizijiyaofanshengyixia，shibushisheidanfangchuxianlewenti，tebieshiniziji，renzongxihuantaobihuoruohuazijidezeren，qianghualingyifangdeguocuo。haishinimenzhijiandegoutongchuxianwenti。ruguoshinidewenti，ziwogaizheng，ruguoshigoutongdewenti，lianggerenzuoxialaihaohaotantanxin，ruguoshitadewentiqiebuhuigaidehua，wojianyinilihun，buguanniyoumeiyouzinv。suiranshuohaizibuyaozaidanqinjiatingzhangda，danwojuedeshenghuozaiyigemingheanlidejiating，duihaiziyebushihaoshi。

 2、querenyixianihaiaitame，ruguoaita，neijiubuyaorangtalinierqu。tanlianaideshihounimenkendingshihenxiangaide，buranyebuhuijiehun，jiranjielehun，zheizhongaiqingjiubianchengleqinrenzhijiandeai，niyaoxiangxiangnishifouaizheta，meiyoutanishifounenggourenzhendehuoxiaqu。

 3、zhaogeshidangdeshijiangentahaohaodetantanxin，wenyixiatanijiujingnalibuhao。rangtashuochuchuguideyuanyin，wenyixiatashifouhaiaizheni，aizhenimenzheigejia，bijingbuxingdehunyinhuiduihaizizaochengbuliangdeyingxiang，weilehaizizhexiang，buyaolihun。

三、如何对待出轨的爱人

1、冷静下来，换位思考

 zaigangdedaoxiaoxishi，buyaoyikuernaosanshangdiao，fouzebuhaoshouchang，shuangfangdoubuhaokan。yingxianxiangxiangairenzaishenmeqingkuangxiachugui（qingxing？jiuhouluanxing？tongku？）weishenmehuichugui，shiqingditaiyouxiule，haishizijijinduanshijianzuodebugouhaohulveleairen，jitadeguanaibugouduohaishipeitadeshijianbugouduo，sikaoyixianimendeganqingweishenmehuizoudaozheiyibu，ruguohuanweisikaoyixia，ruguonizaidangshideqingkuangxia，shininihuibuhuizheiyangzuo？ruguoxiangtonglezheixie，zijideneixinhuoxuhuimingleyixie。

2、 明确一下爱人是第几次出轨

 ruguoshidiyicichugui，tahuibuhuiganjuedaotongku，henixiangbisheigengtongku，tashifouzhenchengdexiangnidaoqianpeibushi，tajiangruhechulinimenzhijiandeguanxi（zheidianhenzhongyao)，shilihaishiheqingrenduanjueguanxi。

 ruguotayiqianyouguoguanli，bingqietaxiangnibaozhengguoyihoubuhuizaifan，zheicitayoufanle，budebushuo，takenenghaihuiyoudisanci，disici。。。dangmouyizhongxingweixingchengxiguanhoujiukepale，kenengyaozuohaosixiangzhunbeile。

3、给自己和爱人一段独立思考、冷静的时间

 zheiduanshijianneihaohaoxiangyixiagaizenmechulizheiduanganqing，ruguolilezijihehaizigaizenmeban，likaiairenyihou，zijinengbunengweihaizichengqiyipiantiandi，likaitayihouzijihehaizinengbunengguodegenghao，hainengfouzhaodaogenghaodeguisu，yihoudeshenghuogaihequhecong。ruguobulikaita，zijinengfouchengshouzhuchuguideairenyicicideshanghai，yicicidebeipan，mianduiliuyanhezhizhidiandian，zunyanyouhezai？