好几个追求者，如何选到佳偶？

yibeizineimezhangdouhuijigeyixingpengyou，renmengaizenyangzhaoduixiangni？

一、你可以掌握你自身，你心里期盼哪些。

 dangjigeyixingpengyougaobaishigaizenmeban？zuixianyaonahaoduogeyixingpengyoubizhao，suihounikeyilejiexinliqipannaxie，danshiyoushinizishendoubuqingchu。danghaoduogenanshengzhuiqiuwanmeiwoshi，yibanwonengcongtouyingdeshijiaokanlai，kanzhenibabamamadehunyinshenghuoshinaxiede，dangnibabamamadehunyinshenghuoshizhengchaoxingde，nijianghuihuixuan1geburongyizhengchaode，huoxubingbushishuoyaoquxuan1gexinggeneixiangderen，xinggeneixiangderenbingfeibuzhengchao。zaizheiyiquanguochengzhong，nikeyilejienizishenfangannaxie，lirunifumuchaojia，nifanganzhengchaoderen，danlingwainiyouxiai，youhuicaiyongzhengchaodefangfa，yincidaibiaonikeyizhao1gedongruhezhengchaoderen，caiburongyijinijuedewunai，burongyiyizhengchaojiujiqinidefangyuliguanlitixi。yincinibixunaxie，yanfannaxie，keyinulinaxie，zheishifenzhongyao，yeshifenguanjian。zheijuecelenijianglaizailianqinghehunyinshenghuozhizhong，ninenghuodenaxiedekaolv，nikeyirangtarenkaolvnaxie。nikeyibawozhuguanjiande、zhongyaodequshuo，dajiazhongjiancaihuiyougejiaoweihaodeshengzhishineikongjian，erbingbushidanchunxingbenbendikazaijigeyixingpengyougaobaishi，wogaixuannajiadenantishang。

二、对策

 chuduixiangrenmennenggouconglaibufangangangkaishi，shuoxiaisuanbushangxiai，shuofangansuanbushangfangan，kanshangqushushi，huoshinenggouquxiangchuyixiaxia。wojuedeyoudeneishihou，yijianqingxinyetingbucuo，zheiyiquanguochengzhizhongzaiyunidiyigezuodejiaoweihao，youyudiyigejichumingquelenidezeoubiaozhun。dierdianshiduice，shiwobutaixihuanni，jianghuimeiyouduiniyijianqingxin，keshiwobenyigennixiangchuyixiaxia，kanyixianiyeshinaxiederen，suihouhaoduogeyixingpengyoubizhao。

三、从本身的角度观察。

 yaoquzhangwotadebabamama，zhangwotamendehunyinshenghuo，zhangwobabamamashizenyangyangyutade，suihouzhangwotayoushenmedashijian，dangnizheizhongbumingbaidehuajiumeifazhenshichengwolingyifangshinaxiederen。youyunizhangwolingyifangjiushishuokannengfoupeidui，nizhangwozheizhongwupinjiushishuozaizhangwozheiyirendehunyinshenghuofangshi，lianrendegongzuonengli，hunhoushenghuodefangfazheixie。

四、要在恶性事件之中掌握。

 youyuzhinengzaiexingshijianzhizhongnenggouchengxiantaderengetezhitexing、tadairenjiewudefangfa、taduiexingshijiandexintai、tadairenchushiheduijinjiqingkuangzheixie，tashinaxiedezuoshifangshi 。tashiruhekongzhiqingxude，zenyangrongqiarenjijiaowangde，zheizhongshifenguanjian。yincishuozaiexingshijianzhizhongjiuhuiyoufenqimaodun，zhinengzaifenqimaodunzhong，nicaikeyizhenshiquchengwozheiyiren，youyudajiajianglaidehunyinshenghuohaowuyiwenhuiyoufenqimaodun。huoxuzaiexingshijianquanguochengzhong，yekeyitigaoxianghujiandezhangwohexianghuxinren，tigaobibizhongjiannanwangdehuiyi，suihougenjuexingshijianquhuxiangkaolv，youyiyudahuoerqumingquezheiyirenzheishibushinisuoxuderen。neishihouwoyehuidaziranlejiehaoduogeyixingpengyougaobaiwogengyingdangtiaoxuanshei。yaoshiyougegousihefangshi ，jiuburongyizaidanghaoduogenanshengzhuiqiuwanmeiwodeneishihou，wogaixuannajiadenantishangdanxin。