挽回男友丢人吗？

 buguancengjingnimendeaiqingderuhedetianmi、ninongwonong，chuxianmaodun、zhengchaodeshihou，shifouhuifaxianduifangturanjiuduinihenwuqing？mianduinanyouyijingsixin，juejueyaogennifenshou，nihuikaolvnanyoufenshouwanhuima？haishijuedewanhuinanyoudiurenma，ruguoxiangrangzheiduanganqinghuiguidangchudetianmi，neimewomenshixiaguinengwanhuinanyouma？haishiyongsinengwanhuinanyouma？daodigairuhewanhuini？

一、切忌不要问为什么，而是要找到原因

 zaiqinggandemianqian，womenmeigerendoushicuiruode，wulunnishiduomelizhiderendouhuibeiqingganchonghuntounao。henduorenzaiyuaiderenfashengmaodunfenshouzhihou，zongshihuishuowobuzhidaoweishenmeta/tayaoyuwofenshou，zongshiganjuemomingqimiao，ganjueduifangwuliqunao。wanhuinanyoudiurenma?budiuren，danshizaifenshouhoudediyishijianzongshizhejidequwenduifangweishenmeyunifenshou，keshizainizuolezhihoucaifaxiannibujinmeiyouwendaonixiangyaodedaan，fanerrangduifanggengjianaonule。nihenkunhuoweishenmehuizheiyang，zheibushinixiangyaodejieguo。meidangzheishinijiuhuilisuodangranderenwei，niyuta/tafenshoukendingshixingebuhezaochengdeba!ranerzheiyangdesiweifangshishijiqicuowude，niyuduifangfenshoudeyuanyinyouhenduo，yexushinimeiyoushijianpeiduifang，yexushihenduoshihouhulveleta/tadeganshou，yexugenduifanggoutongdeshijianduanzan……xiangxiangnanyoufenshouwanhuima，zaizheizhiqiannixianyaolejieqingchuduifanghenifenshoudezhenzhengyuanyin，zheiyangnicaiyougengdadebawoquwanhuiduifang。

二、分清对你的态度

 yibanfenshouzhihou，huiduiqianrenyouliangzhongtaidu。yizhongshibijiaojuejuede，ta/tahuizaidianhua、weixin、qqdenglianxifangshishangjiangnilahei，qieduanyuniderenhelianxi，congcixingtongmolu。lingyizhongshibijiaowenhede，ta/tafenshouzhihouhuiyunixiangpengyouyiyangdexiangchujiaotan。duidaidiyizhongfenshoufangshi，qianwanbuyaoduiduifangqiongzhuimengda，neiyangzhihuirangta/taduinigengjiadeyane，rangta/taliniyuelaiyueyuan。nixuyaozuodejiushijingjingdidengdai，dengdaizheta/tadeshihuai，yongniaita/tadexinquwennuanta/ta，quchudongta/taneixinshenchuduinidejuannian，duinideai。duiyudierzhongfenshoufangshi，nisuoyaozuodejiushiyaozhongxinrangta/tayongyouaiqingdeganjue，rangta/taxiangshoudaolianaidetianmi，erbushilaofulaoqibandelianaifangshi。suoyi，fenshouhoushouxianxuyaofenqingta/taduinidetaidu，jiangdiduifangdedichuqingxu，danhuanizaiduifangxinzhongdefumianyinxiang。

三、生活上、事业上不断努力进取

 womendoushiputongren，bushifuerdaiyebushiguanerdai，meiyouneigeshazihuidaotieguolai。zaizheigexianshideshijieli，woxiangmeiyouyigerenhuixihuanbuxuewushu，ziyiweishidenanrenhuoshinvren。zaishenghuoshangheshiyeshangnulijinquderen，huijirenyizhonganquangananxingan。bijingyiduanaiqingyiduanhunyinbushixiaohaiziguojiajia，ershiyifenzerenyifendandang。huanweisikaoyixia，nixiwangnidenanyouhuonvyoushizenyangdeyigejingshenmianmao?woxiangmeigerendouhuiyoubutongdedaanba!danqizhongyouyigekendingshiduidairenshengdetaiduba!jijixiangshang，nulijinqu。shixiangyixiasheihuixihuanyigetuifeibuxuewushuderenni?suoyiyongyouyikeshangjindexin，zhihuirangniwanhuiaiqingshibangongbei。

四、要清楚的认识到自己错在哪里

 yiduanganqingdepolie，yongyuanbuhuishiyigerendanfangmianzaochengde，ershixianghude。buguannichajueyufou，nidoubixuyaochengrenzheiyidian。xiangwanhuiaiqing，wanhuiniaideren，jiuyaonongqingchunicuozainali，ranhoucaiduizhengxiayaoqumibunideguocuo。woxiangcishicikeniyinggaizuoxialaizixixiangyixiang，nimendeaiqingshicongheshikaishiyouliehende，tongshiyeqingnibuyaoyiweidezhizeduifang，ershiyaozhanzaibicidejiaodukanwenti。qiejiwentipianmianhua，fouzehennanyishidaowentidegenyuan，shenzhizhihuirangmaodunjihua。woxiwangninengmingbaixiaguinengwanhuinanyouma,yongsinengwanhuinanyouma，shibukeyide，aiqingshiyaolianggerenyiqigongyangde，erbushiyifangdedandufuchu，neiyangzhihuimaizangaiqing，liuxianideyihan，cuoguozuimeihaodeta/ta。

五、重塑自我

 ajimidecengjingshuoguo“jiwoyigezhidian，wonengqiaoqiyigediqiu。”ranerwoxiangshuodeshi“jiwomenzijiyigezhongsuziwodejihui，gaibianziji，yeshiwanhuiaiqingdeliangyao。”shijianshideliaoshangyao，shijiandechendian，duinilaishuoshiyigewanhuiaiqingdeqiji。niyaomingbai，ta/talikaini，bingbushiwuliqunao，ershiyouliyoude。xihuanyigerenjiuyaobaorongta/tadeyiqiequedian，danta/tadebaorongbushinifangzongzijiquedianbuqugaibiandeziben。dangta/taduinidebaorongdadaolejizhi，niyuta/taeryanyijingmeiyouaiqingle，dengdaizhenidezhiyoufenshou。suoyiniyaoxuehuigaibianziji，tishengziwomeili，rangta/takandaonideyoudianrangta/tazhongxinduinipengranxindong。gaibianzijihennanma?qishizhendebunan。zhiyaoniyouxinzenhuizuobudaoni?zhongsuziwo，zaiduqihang，zhuihuineigejiangyaoshiquderen，wanhuiyuta/tadeaiqing。

六、分析对方的内心

 yigerenkeyiqipianquanshijiederen，danta/tayewufaqipianzijideneixin。neixinshishiyigerenzuizhenshidexiezhao。xiangyaowanhuinideaiqing，niyaolejiefenxita/tadeneixin。ta/taheshizaigennisajiao，heshizaigenninaomaodun……nibuxuyaowutiaojiandepeiheta/ta，ershiyaoxuehuichuaimota/tadexintai，zhidaota/taxuyaoshenmecaiqufuchu，erbushiwuweidefuchuquemeiyouhuibao。niyaocongta/tadexingweizhongkanchuta/tazuixihuanshenme、zuixiangyaodeshishenme，zhaodaonijidebushita/taxiangyaode，ta/taxiangyaodenijibuledeyuanyin。bijing，aiqingxuyaoxinlingdeqihe。

七、要拥有一颗强大的心

 shishangwunanshizhipayouxinren。jiranjuedingyaowanhuiniheta/tazhijiandeaiqingshi，nijiuyaomingbai，nisuoyaomianlindekunnanbujinjinshiliangrendexingefangmian，haiyaokaolvjiatingbeijing、renjiguanxidengwenti。wanhuiaiqingdelutushiyaoyuandejianxinde，bushiniyichaoyixijiunengwanchengde。nixuyaoyongyouyikeqiangdadexin，zhanduanyiludejingji，daodaaiqingdebian，zhaixiazuimeidehuaduo，songjinizuiaideren。