情感咨询：挽回不了的婚姻怎么挽回

　　wanhuibuledehunyinzenmewanhui，ganqingchuxianwenti，haoduorendediyifanyingbingfeilixingfenxiyuangu，fanershixuanxieqingxu、huxiangmaiyuan，zhengzhibuxia。

　　xinlisuibukenliyi，quexiwanglingyifanggaibian，zheimingxianshibutaikenengde。

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　　yiner，zenmewanhuilaogongjueranbilidehunyinshenghuo，yinei5gewanhuihunyinzhengquegousiganhuozhishi，xiwangduidajiayoubangzhu!

　　一、保持理性，不能让心态变成击垮婚姻生活的最后一根稻草

　　dangmianduinaoxindeshiqingshi，renmenwangwanghuijuedexinshenbuan，sangshilizhi。

　　cike，jiaruwomenrangxintaidaipao，zuodejuedingkenengdailaibuliangyingxiang。

　　yiner，yaowanjiujushi，shouxiankongzhuzijidexinqing。buyaojizhexingwei，buranqingxuhuaguanlijuecezhihuishideqifan。

　　jiarunijuedexintaijiangyaowufakongzhi，nenggouchangshiyixiediaozhengqingxudebanfa。

　　biru，paiyipaituihuoshou，weizijianzhu“tingzhijian”，genjujianchilianxilaizhangkongqingxu。

　　chucizhiwai，ruguonigandaomimanghuofanzaobuanshi，nenggouliquyuandibudong，chuquzouyizou，quebaozaiqingxujidongdeqiantixiaheduifangjianmian。

　　zhaoyigeqingjing、qingxindediqudaizaijiali，quebaozaidachaodanao、shileng、fanmendequyusisuo。

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　　zaipiqibaozaoshi，buyaoxiangairenfaxiefennu，fouzekenenghuisunhailianggerendeganqing。

　　二、逻辑思维扭曲——解决问题行为主体就是你，而非另一方

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，womenchangchangjianrenduozhongjiaose，rongyihulveyigezhiguanzhongyaodejiaose——neibianshiyouzhejijituposhilidecongmingnvxing。

　　womenyexuxiguanxiwangairenjiejuesuoyouwenti，suihouyoubeidongdengdai，danzheiqishishiyizhongcuowuguannian。

　　womenyinggaiyishidao，zishencaisuanshimingyundezhuzai，hunyinshenghuodezoushiyexuyaowomenzijiquzhangwo。

　　yingduihunyinlidekunhuohekunhuo，womenbuyinggaijinjinshiyinweiairenyouwujiubazishenshizuoruoxiaohuoshouhairen。

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　　我们应该深度思考：

　　xianzaideganqingdaodizaoyushenmeyangdewenti?zheizhongwentidezhengjiejiujingzainali?dajiashifouyounengliqupojiezheizhongkunhuo?womenzijideairenzaihunyinshenghuozhongshiyandejiaoseshibushifuhewomendeqidai?dajiashifounengwangjiguoqudefenqi，zaicijienahekuanrongtamen?

　　danggezhongwentikaolvqingchuhou，womenjiukeyigengyouzhenduixingdifuzhuxingdong，gaijinfuqiguanxi。

　　womenyinggaiyishidao，bingmeiyoumeimandehunyin，yemeiyoushiquanshimeiairen。

　　womenyinggaijienalingyibandequedianyubuzu，bingxuehuiyongzhihuiyuaiquhuajienanti。

　　weiyouruci，dajiajiunengchengweihunyinlidejieweizhurengong，cainengzuodaozhenzhengbawohunyinshenghuodezoushi。

　　三、逐渐消除、化解矛盾，让他看到婚姻生活有好起来的期待

　　jibianhunyinshenghuozaoyuyouzaiduodewentiyukunhuo，zhiyaoshuangfanghaimeijuedingfenshou，neiyangzheiduanganqingbianyirancunzaiwanliuhehuifudekenengxing。

　　zheishi，guanjiandeyidianshifangzhihuoshangjiayou，buyaozaijiutuobujue。

　　bulunshiguanyuxuesheng、qiancai、jiawuhuohuoshipoxizhijianjiandemaodun，zhiyaoniyuanyiwanliuzheiduanganqing，jiuxuyaobimianfanfutijigezhongwenti。

　　meiyicidefanfutanji，douhuijiashenbicizhijianzhijiandegehe，shitagengweishuyuanni。

　　goutongdeshihou，yaozhuyifencun，fangzhichizeheweiqu，changshiyongwennuanheguanhuaidekouqi，huailianguoqudemeihaohuiyi。

　　wanhuibuledehunyinzenmewanhui，biru，yuqishuozeguaitahuijiataichi、neixinmeiyoujia，bibushanghuailianguoqutazaohuijiale、lianggerenhuandudemeihaohuiyi，suihouwanzhuandixunwentarujinweishenmezhuangkuangyousuogaibian。

　　renrendouyoutaderuodianhejingshencengmiandequedian，yongwenwandefangshilaidadongtadeneixin，wangwangnenggouhuodehenhaodexiaoguo。

　　jinliangbimianyujulideruilihejiansuankebo，neiyangtacaihuifangxiafangbei，xiangyaofenxiangjinitadezhenzhengxiangfaheganshou。

　　四、明确提出合理诉求，展现女性善解人意的一面

　　fuqiliangzhijianchuxianyaoqiulidemaodun，xuyaoxunzhaojunheng，erbushiyiweidinaopiqi。

　　zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia，xianghuzhichihejiaoliuzhiguanzhongyao。

　　rutongdangyifangxuyaoshouhou，erlingyifangyouyugongzuoxuqiujiaojishi，bunengdanchundizhizeduifangmeiyoujiyuzugoudeguanhuaiguanzhu。

　　meigerenyoumeigerendegongzuozhonghezhize，bingqieyaoqiutamentiantiandoupeibanzuoyoubingbuxianshi。

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　　danzaiqiyushijian，zeyingjiduifangzugoudeshijianyuzhichi，lejiezijidegongzuoyaoqiu。

　　duiyuyigenvreneryan，wenwantinghuadibiaodaduilaogongdexintengheganji，huihenrongyishinanrenxinruan。

　　biru：“zhangfu，zijiweijiazhongfuchudenulitaiburongyile，woxintengbuyi。ganxiewomenhainengtengchushijianpeizhewo，younizaiwoshenbianwoshengantebiexingfu。”

　　neiyangdebiaodafangshi，budanhuirangduifangganshoudaozijideguanhuaiheqingyi，yucitongshiyenengcujinbicizhijiandejiaoliuyulijie。