为什么女人也渴望婚外情？出轨女人回归的心理学

 chuguinvrenhuiguidexinlixue？yitidaowaiyu，dajiadaliangxiangqidedisanzhe、pintou，jibenshangquanshilizaichuguidenanrendeshijiaoquduidai。shuangyuzuonvrenrongyichuguima？

 keshijinrilaigongxiangyigelaiyuanyuchuguinvrendezixu，yigechuguinvren，youwaiyuzaoqidebumingxinxian、waiyuzhonghouqidehuanaichikuang、waiyuzhonghouqidebeitongyuzhengtuodequanguocheng，qidaikeyizaochengmeiyiweinvshidesisuo。dezixu：woshijiehunwuniandenvxing，yuzhangfuyuyouyinv，jiehunhouqiansannian，jiazhongwennuanxingfu。zhuanbianzaidisinian，zhangfugongzuozhongzhuanxingfazhan，yuelaiyuefanmangqilai，keshiwoqiahaoxiangfan，gongzuozhongyouranzidelechulai。

zheijiutupolewogenzhangfuyiqianchongyudexiangchushijian：banhouzhufan，fanhouyundong，yuxiaohaiertongyizhiyouxi......

 zhangfuqizaotanheidegongzuozhong，rangshuangfangdeyanyuyugerenxingweixiangjiaoquzhikeshu，youshihoudegoutonghuatitaolunyepoweidanerwuwei。

 chuguinvrenhuiguidexinlixue？woshenfunannengkeguidewenxunxingqingdejiqiao，zishizhizhongmeiyouxiangzhangfumaiyuanguo，qinfenzuoyigezhangfuhewaibuyanlidexianqiliangmu。

 neiyangderiziguoquledabannian，wohaizaichangqudekafeitinglipengdaolewowaiyudehunwaiqingrenahui，zaitaneibian，wozhaodaolechangkuaibiaoshudechurukou，yutagongchu，woganjuedaoshiwuqianlideshifangyali、zide。

ahuixihaopaishe，wohenxihuanmeishuhuihua，dajiayongyoushifenfuhedegoutongjiaoliu，woheahuiduguole6geyuedeyukuaisuiyue。

 zaiwoshengrideneiyitian，woheahuifashengleguanxi，xinlidadaoyoujinghuang。danshijihuizhihou，woduidaizhangfudechourong、guinvdejiaorong，woxinliyuahuihuanaidefangyubengkuile。

 yizhenzhendeneijiuyuxiuchiganbumanwoxin，zhangfumeiyoufajue，woshiquziwoquzhaoahuiqingtu，zheibanbuduan，yelitangzaizhangfushenpangdoushihuicheyenanmian。

woxiangzhangfuanshichuandiyixiewoxiangwaiyudeyuju，zhangfudoufengqingyundan，pingdingwoshibuhuineibanzuo；

tadezheigexintai，yaowonaonugunfan，gengweijingchangquzhaoahui，jieguobianshijiazhonglewoxinlingdeyayigan、zhengtuo、tongchu。

 waiyuyinianhou，wojiqieyaoxiangwanquandizhongguijiazhong，wanquanxuehuifangxiaahui，danshiyoumomeiquxinliduizishenwaiyude“wuzhuo”jiedi。wonengzuoshenmecaikeyixuehuifangxiaxinshendeshufu，zhongfanjiazhong？

 renshijianzhushitaobuleyinguoguanxiguilvxing，zaizheier，xiaoqidewaiyujinjinyige“guo”，yuzhixiangpipeide“yin”，shijishangzaoyizairichangshenghuolimaifulehenjiu。

 renyidandaozhongnian，yihunnvrenshiweishenmexianruhunwailiande？yougaizenyangkanduanbingzhongguijiazhong？jinrigenjutaolunpouxiyijingjiehunchuguinvrendeshenduyuangu，keyishiwomengenghaoderenshihejiejuewaiyudechansheng。

weishenmenvrenyeqipanhunwailian？waiyuchanshengtixidepouxi：

1、柯立芝效应

congwulixueshijiaojiang，rendaoaiqingzheiyijianshiershang，doushiyou“kandaoxinshougengyukuai”deshenglixuyao。

 shentidedanjianhuizaixinpinleidexiaoguoxiajihua，jinerposhidajiafuzhuxingdong，lirupeizhong、yuqinmijiechuhetanxian，zheijiushishehuixinlixueshangkelizhixiaoying。

zheiyinenggousuanshiyizhong“beilie”chushideshengwuhuaxuexinlizhuangtaitizhi，xiaoqibianshizaixinjiaoseyanqianzheiyangzishixianjinlaide。

 jibenshangrenhedefufudoushihuipengdaozheiyixiaoyong，zulanzhehunyinshenghuomeihaodezhangqi，youqinanrendewaiyu，wuyibushizheiyishenglixueyaosuzaizuoguai。

 shijishang，womenkeyiliyongyixiexingshenghuofangshiqujianqingzheileixiaoyong，lirushidudediaoqingjiqiao，huoshiduizishendeairenkaizhanyixiexingchongdong，jinertishengdanjian，tuidongganqingdezhangqiziyang。

2、婚后出轨恐怖平衡

 niyuwaiyudemubiaorutongzaizuoqiaoqiaoban，weilegenghaodizuodaoyidingdepinghengzhuangtai，bicizhijianbawozhetarendebashou，neiyangdehua，sheidoubunengsuibianpinsipinhuo。

 xiaoqihehuiquanshiyijingjiehundeqingkuang，tamentiyanzhehunyinchuguideyukuai，erbuyiyihuihuaizaiqizhongyifangdehunyinshenghuo，laijitadehunhouchuguiguanlianbianweifuqiganqing。

shubuzhirenshiduomianxing，bingbushimeiyouganqingdeshebei，doubudanchunxingjiezhubennengfanyingdexiaodongwu。

xuduochuguideren，zaiaiqingdekunaozhongjiqipanlixing，zailixingdejilvzhongyoukewangaiqing。

zaizheigefenqixia，xiaoqiduizishendewaiyuxingweichongmanlejudadeyizhiyuzhengtuo。

3、述情同理心阻碍

1、述情障碍：

yigerenmeifakeyifeichanghaomiaoshuzigedetihui，xiangxidichuandizigedeqinggan。

2、同理心阻碍：

yigerenmeifaqueqiedirenzhibiederendeqinggan，meifayubierenshenyoutihui。

xiaoqiyouyuzhangfufanmang、daijuan，xinlichongchizheyuanhen，eryoumeiyouhaohaodiyuzhangfuyichengxiangdaigoutongjiaoliu；

zaochengjiedirougedayuelaiyueda，manmanyuzhangfumeiyouhuashuo，shiqulianghaodegoutongjiaoliu。

erxiaoqidezhangfumeifaduixiaoqidexinshenxintaizaochengtonglixin，meiyoutiyandaoxiaoqiwaiyudeganqingtihui。

xiaoqimeinenghaohaoditixianzigedetihui，zhangfuyoumeifarenzhi，guanlianmaixiangexunhuan。

henduorenjiang“xinubuxingyuse”zuoweichengshudebiaoxian，shijishangtashilianaiyingxiangde“duishou”。

qidaixiaoqikeyiduizhangfuyichengxiangdaibiaoshuzigedeganqing，yuzhangfuzaochengqiehedeqinggantiyan。

weiheyihunnvrenyehuiwaiyu？chuguinvrendexinlileixing：

zongtilaishuokefenchenglaogongjingshenchuguiyuroutichugui。

 zaixiaoqideshenshangcongzongtishangyouzhongshenbanlvxing、haoqiyouguaixing、bulizhiduifuxing、buganxinxiankuangxingzheijilei。shuangyuzuonvrenrongyichuguima？

 xiaoqibuganxinyukumendeshushianyixiankuang，zaihuineibianxunzhaoyuzishenjingshencengmiandegoutongjiaoliu，tadiyishilaogongjingshenchuguiledabannian；

zhihoubeijingshenjiaoliuyouguai，fashengleroutichugui，bubeilaogonglejiehou，youdaishangjingtixinzaiciwaiyu。

zaizhongshidehunyinshenghuochangtaihuali，nvxinghaikeyishiqitarenwujiaose，danweidubingbushizishen。

xiaoqizaihuineibianzhaodaoyidingdezishen，keshijiarutiaoxuancongdisanzheneibianxunzhaogongmingdian，zhinengyanhuachudaliangnanti。

fufuzhixuyouyifangwaiyu，quanbujiazhongbianhuitanta。

chufeishifancuowuzhezhenzhenzhengzhengdichengrencuowu、huihenjipeichanglaixunzhaobingzhengdekuanrong，caikeyidedaozhenshidekuanrong。

hunwailianlidenvxing，“nijishilaofanglidefanren，yeshisuochidedaiguanren”：

 nirujinxianruzaihunwaiqingdelaofanglinanao，keshizheiyiwaiyudelaofangyejiushinixiujiande，yincinikeyizairenzhinengliganqingdeshiqingzhihou，zishenqinfenzouchuqu。

 《hunyinbuzhongxingweidezhiliaomoshi》libianyiqianshuodao：yinzangmimiyuanshifengkuangdegerenxingwei，jinyoujiangchuzhenshiqingkuangcainenggoujiejiukunjing，weibicizaojiuzhenxinshiyigoutongjiaoliudeziranhuanjing，jiyugerenjianchadejiyu。shuangyuzuonvrenrongyichuguima？

fufulianggerenyaodongdeyichengxiangdaishenjiao，lianghaodegoutongshishouweihunyinshenghuoguchengbaodelaogujudun。

yicipohuaixingdekunjing，youshihounenggoubianchengxindexiwangdedazhuanzhe。

youshihouminganhediguqishenhouqueyanzangzhehendadeqianli，weiyounizhenzhenzhengzhenglijingshinenggoukandaoqishiyongjiazhiyushijiyiyi。

yihunnvrenruonengzaizheiyiciwaiyuzhongcuozhihou，lejiedaojiazhongdezhuyaoshiyongjiazhi，caikeyizhongguizhenshidemeimanhunyin。

meiyigerenyifangmianyouzhuiqiuwanmeixinyingdebenxing，lingyifangmianyouyouzhuiqiuwanmeisuoshudeqipan。

henduorenyeshizaizheigewentidemaodunli，jiangzishendehunyinshenghuotuidonglezainandechujing。

nvxing，nidemingzi.jiaokaixin。

jiaruniyeyushanglezishenzheiyiduanjianxinqi，qingbuyaotiaoxuanhuibiheyayigantongchu，shiqixunhuanxitongebian；

 chuguinvrenhuiguidexinlixue？yaolijirenqingqinggandeshizhi，zhaodaoshihedetujinghefangshijiejue，haizishenyigewanquandexingfukuaile。