中国女人出轨率越来越高逃不过哪3种心态？女人出轨率是多少

 zaidianshilianxuju《anjia》libian，youyigeyaowoyinxiangshenkedeshexiangjingtou，nvrenchuguilvshiduoshao？luobanyandexuayi，beizhangchengchengdaileyidingjidadidailvmao，zhuajianhouhaobuyouyutiaoxuanfenkai。mengjianmuqinchuguishenmeyuzhao？

zhangchengchengkuzheshuo：“wozhishifanlequanshijienanshengdoushifandecuo，zhibuguoshiwoshiyigenvxing。”

zheijuhuayixiazichongdaoleresoubang，wangminmenbaokaileguo。

 shoukanleyiquanwangminmendeliuyanbanliuyan，wofaxianle，zaijuedabufenrendewuyishilidoujuede：chuguinvrenbukeyuanliang，chuguinanrenxiyiweichang。

 nvrenchuguilvshiduoshao？duia，dajiachangchangtandaochuguinanrendehuatitaolun，quefeichangshaoqianshedaonvxing，dajiadourenweishiyigehenmanzhangdehuatitaolun，zhizhipansuimingzhuanjiajiaoshoubatadediaochatongjishujuxinxibaifangzaiwomenyanxia：

 shijishang，zheixienianwoguodehunyinchuguizhanbiyizhichixuzengzhang，youqishinvxingchuguidezhanbi，zaoyizuodaolequanqiuzuidadejilv，junzhimei7.5gelaopozhong，jiuhuiyouyiweiwaiyu。

尽管这仅仅一份统计调查，但是結果早已充足令人震惊，更别说也有很多人会由于各种各样原因，隐藏自己外遇的客观事实。

 yiqian“yishengyishiyishuangren”demeilichengnuo，xianrujinkanshangqujingyouyixieqinglenghehaoxiao，buqingchucongheshiqi，dahuoertidaohunyinshenghuobianshiwunengweilidexintai，daodishiweihe，ranghenduodenvxingqueshileduihunyinshenghuodexiwang，maixiangle“hunwailian”zheiyibuni？

 jigeweigongxiangyigezhenshigushi，qiuzhuzhesunxiansheng，2021nian35sui：“bawoxifudaile2cidailvmao，keshiwohaitiaoxuanlekuanrong。”

下列是孙先生的自诉：

 wolaoposhiyigeyouqiqingxubuwendingdexiaonvzi，jinguanwomenjiehunlezaoyiwunianduole，tahaihuiweilegenghaodiyidiansuoshiyuwofapiqi，zhizhiyinianqian，tachedifashengbianhuayifuyangzi。

 zhiqianwozhixiangyaohuijialewanle，wulunshiyaoqujiaojihuoshizaijiabanjiadian，tadoushihuinaopiqi，bangwoshuaimianse，jieguorujintafanerhuilaikuanweiwo，jijibangwozuoyexiao，danshiyeliqueyizhiyigerenhuaizheshoujiwanyouxi，feichangshaoyuwopapayixia，meiyiciwojuedequantazaodianxiuxi，tayizhiyifujinghuangdemoyangshuo：“likejiushui，nixianshuijuejue，wulunwo。”

woyuexiangyuebutaidui，haoqixinxiawodengruletadeqq，fajueletahedaxuetongxuedemimi。

 tamenliangdangshijiuzhiquxiangtou，changchangyiqicanyudaxuedezhutihuodong，zhibuguoshishuangfangdoumeiyouchuopochuangzhi，zhidaobiyehouhoujiumeiyouxiawenle。

 xiangbudaorujinyoulianluoqilaile，erqieneigerenxiwangzhixianquanshihuayanqiaoyu，xifuhaoxiangyehenxihuanta，changchangjijiguanxintitie。

 huozhizheigeguohou，wohenbunengxingxiongdexindouhuiyoule，xiangbudaoxifubangwodailezheimedayidingdailvmao，keshiwohaiyiweitashiyouyuaiwocaiguanzhuwode，xianzaiwoxiangqilaidouganjuequanshenfadou，neiwandeqingxu，queshitaimanzhangle。

 wocheyenanmian，xiangxianghenduozhongduoyangjieguo，zuizhongwofaxianle，woyagenbuyuanliyi，doubuqidaihaizidechengzhangzaidanyidejiatinghuanjingli，gengbuyuanwofumuyidabanianlinglehaixuyaoweiwocaolao，yinci，tianliangwobianzhaoxifutanpaile。

 tayikaishihenshengqi，zhiyiwoweihetoukuitadeshoujishang，liangrenchaoleliangjuyihou，tazaisandiweiwodaoleqian，shuozigehuichuzhihaozheijianshiqing，zhihoubukenengzaihetalianluole。

yinweiwoshuominglexintai，xiangjitayicijihui。

 jieguomeiduojiu，wozaidukandaoletamenliangrengzailianluodezhijiezhengju，neigerenshuozishenyidinghuizhidaolaopoxieyilihundeneiyitian，yaoburanlishibubashou。

 cici，wojuedehendadequru，jirantaneimexiaiwaibiandenansheng，wohekujianchibuxie，woguoduandizhichuleliyi，xiangbudaoxifuciciyizhizaiqiuwo，haidangzhongwodemianlaheilelianxidianhua，fuwuchengnuozishenzaiyebunengzuohutushi，zheixiawoyouyourouguaduanle，buqingchuhaixuyaobubiyuanliang。

kanlesunxianshengdexiaogushi，nijuedetamenkeyizouxialaima？

wodedaanshi：nenggou，keshiyexuyaotourubixiangxiangzhongduoyixiedechengben。

 wojintianjiwomentiaozheiyilizidegenbenyuanyinjiuqujueyu，nvxingchuguiduibinanshiwaiyueryan，keyizhanxianchugengfengfudeshijicaozuo，yegengweijiannan，youyuchuguinvrenhechuguinanrendedongyinchedibuyiyang。

 nanshengdaliangdeshibeireqingheshenmiganduoxiyinzhu，duidisanzhejinjinzanshixingdefuchuhuoli，tamenxinzhonghenqingxijiazhongcaisuanshizuizhongdetiaoxuan；erchuguinvrenzeshizaiyidianyidizhong，jianjianditupofangxian，jinguanlejiewaiyudebudui，danhuoshikongzhibulezishenbeinazoudexin，jitongchudiyaoxianggankuaijiejue，youxiangyouzhelingyigerendeguanzhuhetengxi。

一般有下列几个多见的状况：

01、nvtuyongwaiyulaibuchonghunyinshenghuoliqueshideai

 nvrenshiyizhongshifenlixingdeweishengwu，tamenyishengdoushizaizhuiqiuwanmeiai，ernanshengqueyouyushijian，jianjiandibaaibianchenglexiguanxinghuoshishizhenqing，lisuoyingdangdejienaqizideyiqietouru。

 quebuqingchu，nvxingzaiyingduifanzadepoxizhijiannanti、haizijiaoyunanti、benshenxiyindequeshizheixiejiannanshi，duomedeqipannanshengkeyijiyujinmideguanxin。

 jiaruzaizhangfuquezhendeqingxingxia，nvxingdezhouweifashengleyigedongta、lejieta，keyijitalianaishideguanhuaideren，tahenshoubuzhuzhufangyu。

yincineiju：“chuguinanrenshiweilegenghaodixing，chuguinvrenshiweileai”，bingbingbushixinlingdujitang。

02、nvtuyongwaiyulaibiaomingzigedefengcai

 dajiadoulejie：“nvweiyuejizherong”，tanlianaideqingkuangxia，nvhaihuiweilegenghaodiyiciyouhui，yongxinchuanzhedabanhenduozhongtou，dengzhenifajuetajinridaileershi、tajinrihuanledanxiangshuihou，tahuishifenxiangyouguanjiandianshangdeguanxin。

 danshidangnanpengyoubianweizhangfuderenwujiaosehou，dajiadoubuhuizaibaquanbudezhongdianfangdaobierendedeshenshang，tayongxingoumailejianpiaoliangdeshuipao，huanlegexindetouxing，jieguonanshengjibenjiudoumeiyoufajue。

 dangnimendeyingxianghenzhangqidougudingbudongzaitongyizhongfangshizhong，jiushiqushenmideshineikongjian，jiaruzheigeshihouyouyigenanren，huilijidifajuetadebuyiyang，jiletadaliangdeguanxin，duigengweijiazhongnvxingduiliefengdehunyinshenghuodexinhan，jinerfashengmingxiandenifanxinlizhuangtai：nimeixihuanwo，duodeshirenxiai！

03、nvtuyongwaiyulaidadaozishendeyaoqiu

 wulunshinanxinghuanshinvxing，jirantiaoxuanlewaiyu，yidingshiyuanbendehunyinshenghuofashengleqifubudingdenanti，erzheileifashengqingkuangdehunyinshenghuo，tongchanglibule“shouhouhegoutongjiaoliu”。

 yidantaruhunyinshenghuo，nimenlianggerendeqingganjiubianchengleliangjiarendegongchu，yidanyouyifangtuoduile，neimashengyudeneirenbianhuiganjueshenxinpibei，liruchangchangyounvxingmaiyuanshuo，wolaogongyouqidananrenzhuyi，wozhiyoushizhongzuncongtadefenpei，tacongbukaolvdaowodeganshou。

 zheileiyayiganhebumanyidexintai，huizaimouxieshishikekehuranbaofa，youyulingyifangchedimeifalejienideyaoqiu，nvxingzaizhangqixingwolidoudehunyinshenghuoliyizhichuyulieshideyingxiangli，zheileibupinghengdeguanlian，rangtashifenqipanbeikandao，yinciyejiujiletarendisanzhechazudejiyu。

 ziranzaiduodexingweidouwufabianchenghunwaiqingdetuoci，ruguonvrendianjizhekeyonghunwailianjiejiuzishen，neikendingshicuodale，yiyang，yingduichuguinvren，nanshengshucidekuanrongyebushiwanjiuhunyindefangfa。

 nanshenghuibazheijianshiqinghezizunguanxiqilai，ganjuezishenzaodaolehenyanzhongdequru，ernvxingyehuidanfugenggaodepindegongzuoyali，naizhishiwuru，suoyishuowulunshinanwanliunv，huoshinvwanliunan，doumeiyouyijianfeichangrongyishi。

 rutongsunxianshengyiyang，jinguantazaixinzhongtexiangzaicizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo，keshitarengranchenjinzainaonuzhongbunengziba，tazongshibuduandewenxiangtongdenanti：

“niweiheneimezuo，kuaijiwogebiaoshu！”

 buguanxifuzenmehuida，liru：“worenweihenizaiyiqimeiyoureqingle”，tahoubiandehuaquanshi：“zheijiunengbianchengniwaiyudeyuanyinma？nizenmeneimemeiyoubiaozhun，wozhenshiganjuediulian！”yincizhihouwuluntaruhewen，xifudouzhuanglongzuoya。

 shijishangzheiyeshiyizhonghenpubiandezhuangkuang，youyuzairenherenzhijianzaochengchuguiyihou，jiumeibanfajinxingzhenzhengyiyishangdehuihua，meiyougoutongjiaoliu，jiumeiyoubanfazaicizhongguixinlai，zheijiushiquanbuhunwailianwanliudenanti。

从2个层面教我们进行心理状态上的信赖：

01、chaoyueshehuidaodechize

 waiyufeichangrongyiheshehuidaodebangzaiyiqi，“waiyushiyouyutazhanhuarecao、taduijiazhongtaobizeren”zheiyeshizuibiaocengdeguiyinyufangfa，keshilizaixinlizixunshideshijiao，wogengqiwangzaihunyinguanxizhongdeliangren，chukaiyifangchize、yifangzhiqianyiwai，nenggouwanchengdaliangdehuihua。

liru，nimennenggouhaohaoditanyici，tiqianzhunbeiliangbazhuoyi，yibajiao“shehuidaode”，yibajiao“tihui”。

 dangzhangfuzuozhe“shehuidaode”chushi，zhiyoushuosanjuhua：“nicuole！”“nibuyaolian！”“nidaodelunsang！”dengbaquanbudeqifendoubiaoxianchulaihou，zaizuohui：“tihui”shang，wenyiwenxifu：“nijuedewomendehunyinsangshireqingle，yuanguzainaer？dajiahaohaodiliaoyiliao。”

 youyuwaiyuzheijianshiqing，rutongyimianjingzi，shuangfangdouzhituzhekanzishen，beiwaiyudeneirenbuduangaozhizishen：“bawosunhaile，tapanbianwole！”

可是这不是所有。

 youyuzhenduichuguinvreneryan，takanjiandehuoxushizaiguanlianzhongdejushu，huoxushiduizijijiazhidecaiyi，tabuxiwangzishenshizhongshiyigequanzhitaitai，taxiangyaoziyinengbianchengyigeyouxiyinlidenvxing。

 yinciwoyanzhongdezijitiaoxuanyongliangbazhuoyideyuangu，jinyoubapindehetihuidehuihuafenli，caiburongyiyizhisiyaozhe“waiyu”meifang，zhishibicizaibiaoshunaonu、caiyi、youshangshi，huixiangqidangniandexingfu，yehuisikaorujindeqingkuang，caikeyigengkuaidegaoqingchu：“womendehunyinjiujingjinglilenaxie？dajiarujindeqingkuangshizenmeshengchengde？”mengjianmuqinchuguishenmeyuzhao？

jinyoushuangfangdouxiangyaodakaixinfeile，qinggancaiyouhuizhuandekongjian。

02、xunzhaojianchidaodideyuanyin

wokanleguoduoren，doushuo“woshiweilewohao”，yincicaijiangjiuhenizaiyiqi。

 danshi，nirangbaobaorichangshenghuozaiyigechongchizhecaiyihezhengzhidekongqiaozijiazhongzhong，zhendeshiyinweitahaome？nizhibuguojienabushanghendadechiru：jinguannigufulewo，keshiwohaishiyuelaiyueaini。

 youyudanxinzaixiangjianxiangjindeshier，yincizhiyouzhuangzuomeineimazaiyi，rangzishendexinlizhuangtaihuodekuanwei，keshiwoshuojushihua，daishangneiyangdeqingxuchedimeiyouwanliudebixu，houbiandeluhuigengweinanao，niyiranhuibuduandecaiyilingyifang，yiranhuibazijifangdaoshouhairendedifangshang。

 yinci，yaoxiangzhenzhengyiyishangdexiufuhunyin，jiejiuhunwailian，nidexunzhaohelingyifangjianchidaodideyuanyin：wohaiaini/nikeyidailaiwoxingfudeshenghuo/wobuxianglikaini......

 tingyitingnixinlizhenshidexiangsheng，caikeyirangshuangfangdoufanhuichangguidedifangshangqu，tabuhuishihuairen，niyebuhuizaishishouhairen，neiyangcaikeyibicibaituo，caikeyizaochengzhenzhenzhengzhengdexinlai。mengjianmuqinchuguishenmeyuzhao？

zuizhongwojuedeweiyigenvrenyiliangjushizaihua，buqingchucongshenmeshijianzhujian，nvxingjinyoufangqicaihuibeizansong。

tamendechongdong、yaoqiu、shiyongjiazhidoushizaicunhuogongzuoyalixiabianchenglemanbujiangli。

yincixuduochuguinvren，bingmeiyouweilegenghaodiduifu，yebushixiangzhengshinaxie，zhishixiangsatuozidedeshenghuoyihui。

zhenzhenzhengzhengranghunyinshenghuofashengqingkuangde，bingbushiwaiyu，zhishidahuoerzaoyimeiyoutongyitiaoluguishang。

zaiyiduanguanlianli，nanhaihenvhaidoushiyouyiwuweihubaoyanghunyinshenghuo，qingbuyaorangtabianchengnvrendeaiyoushang。

 nvrenchuguilvshiduoshao？zaishehuidaodeshenliyiwai，liangrenyiqidongxidaohunyinshenghuodebing，xunzhaoguanlianlidezhumuchong，biruhedebaolixingweihuoqianrangdouheli。