我出轨了，怎么做才能让全世界原谅？心灵出轨的女人的结局有哪些

 chuguinvren，bingbuyidinglaiyuanyupanbianxinlizhuangtai，haikenengshiyibuxiaoxindeluoshui：nvrenchuguiyingxiangzhangfucaiyunma？zainanshengzheierwufadedao，tabianxinhuaiqipan，nandiyinyou。xinlingchuguidenvrendejiejuyounaxie？

waiyuhou，zheiyifenqipandedaomibuhedadao，keciwai，qipanyouhuikuozhang，kuozhangdaoyaoyuchuguinanrenxiangbandaolao。

 zaizheicipanbianzhong，nanrendexinshengdiaoleyidi，huotiaoxuanrenzhejiena，huopobudeyipolieguanlian；nvxingzeshenshoujingshenshizhidecuican，budanfuzhenglizisan，haixuyaojianfuzhehongxingchuqiang、shuixingyanghua、buzhilianchidengtuoma。

 chuguinvrenshenhoushibushiyecunyouyixiebunengshuopodekuzhong？chuguinvrenshibushijiushiebushe？yeyouchuguinvrenhou，ruhezuonenggourangnengzhongguijiazhongqiuqulaogongdeliangjieni？

 nvrenchuguiyingxiangzhangfucaiyunma？xiaohanjiushiwoshoudaodenvxingchuguishilizhongyinxiangjiaoweinanwangdeyige。29suidetashiyimingxinwenjizhe，zhuanyezhishisuyang、luojisiweinenglidouhenhao，jiaojiquanyehenguang，shitebiegaozhiliangdenvshi，quezaihunyinshenghuoshangchuanledagendou。

dangtazhaodaowodeqingkuangxia，zaoyibeilaogongjiatingbaolidaoshanghenleileideshuiping，yongyoumingxiandeqingtuchongdong：

 “woshixinwenjizhe，tashijingyuan，womendoushilianaiziyoude，jiehunsannianduo，youyige2suidehaizi。shenglebaobaohou，dajiajiuyizhifenchuangshui。

dajiafuqixingshenghuobingbuhexie，yigeyuejiusiwuci，youshiyilianggeyuecaiyici，taxihuankanapian，zishenjiejuekunnan。

 henzaoyiqian，tamamajiuguoshi，tashifentingtafuqindehua，yetebieyikaowo、hennianjia，rutonggenanhaieryiyang，pengdaonantiyebuaiquchuli，banshituola，xingzilailaduixiaohaiyebutaihao。

worenweitabulunshixintaihuoshishenglixue，doubunengmanzuwodeqingganxuqiu，yinciwochuguile。

 wodewaiyudeduixiangshiwodeshangsi，youqizhi、youjianshi、youdiwei，bingqieqingshangzhishangfeichanggao，duiyuwofeichanghao，jiusuanshirujinyinweiwohennanwangjita。

 zhihou，taxifuzhidaodajiawaiyudeshier，naodaoqiyeli，wohaipagenjudisanrenchuanruzhangfuneibian，tahuichibuxiao，wobiangenzhangfutanpaile。

 tabingmeiyoubashierduiwaikaifangfabu，zaiwomenyanqianyekanbuchulaimeimu，dansixiadajiajibenshangbianshibuhangsheng、lengbaoli，dancihouhoutaduifeidajima。

 xiaohaihaibuda，erqieweilegenghaodilianmian，dajiayedoubuyuanyiliyi。shijishangdajiayouyidingdeganqingjichu，keshiwobuyuanyiguozheileixinjingdanzhan、weishouweiwei、weitashiyiderichangshenghuo。

woyexiangtakeyiyueguozheizheiyiguan，xuehuifangxiaxinlizhuangtaidefudan，wanghoumianyiqiyunyingwomendehunyin，haohaoguorizi。”

xiaohanqingtuleleisi2geduozhongtou，tinghouhou，wotiqileyigebiaozhun：

 “dajiabuzuoguitiannan，nenggouliyi，danbukeyiwururenge。fancuowushikeguanshishi，sunhaizaoyidaozhi，dajiaxiangyaobingjijihuiguohetianbu，danzheibingbudaibiaozherenmenjiudirenyideng，zuoweirenderengezunyanherengetezhi，womenbunengdiu。”

然后从大环境到本人，我来为她深层分析了“外遇”身后隐匿的缘故。

第一，社会因素。

 2016nian，woguodezhongguolihunlvtongjifenxidadao9%，beishangguangshendiyushi33.3%，quanguogedicuzhongguolihunlvgengdadao2.8‰，shujuxinxidezhuanbianzhanxianchushehuifazhanduiliyijushudedaodeguannianzaibijiaoyanzhongxiajiang，dajiaduiliyidejieshoudushangsheng。

 waiyumanmanfazhanweizaochengliyideliuxingyaosu，shehuigongdexinniandequeshao，dajiaduihunyinchuguiguandiandechangtai，zheiquanshi“waiyu”deshehuiyinsu。

第二，家中要素。

laogongdebabaduitayizhiquanshishijiaduanqichashidewenhuajiaoyu，liangrenbingmeiyoujiaohaodehunyinguanxi。

 muqindequshi、fuqindeqianghan，cushizhangfudebenzhihaiweichedibianchengyigenanren。xinlibuzixin，zheicaihuichuxianzhanxianziwodewaizaiyantanjuzhi。

 xiaohanshidunv，zixiaofazhanhenchangshun，youjiaoqianghandegexinghua，richangshenghuoyouziyidebiaozhunhexiangfa。danchengzhangjieduanzhongqianqueyutongxinggoutongjiaoliu，bumingbaizenyanggoujianqinmiwujianlianluo。

yiner，liangrenjiazhongyaosudechabie，bianhuizaochenglianggerendeyouhaodubugao。

disan，nanxingderenshengjinglihegongzuowenti。

 congrendebenxingfazhanqushihexinlixuejiadeshijiaokanlai，nanxingershijingliziwei，danmeiyoulijiqiadangzhuanhuachengyigehaodefuqishenghuo。zheiyangzi，nanxingbianhuibuzixin，yincitamenhunhouxingshenghuobingbuhexie。

 chucizhiwai，nanxingshijingyuan，gongzuoshijianbuguilvxing。zaiyidingshuipingshang，zheiyehuiranglianrenjuedekumen，shenglixue、xinlixuqiuwufadedaojizaodedadao。

第四，女性缘故。

 xiaohanzaijiehunqianduizhangfubingmeiyouhenlingrenmanyi，yiner，jiehunhouqiqianzaixingdezihaoganzuoguai，wuxingzhizhongbianhuirangzhangfujuedeyayigan。

 richangshenghuodebuhexie，xiaohanzaochenglexiangwaixunzhaoanfudeniantou。zheishihou，yigegaoqingshang、keyidadaotaqingganxuqiudenanxingdefasheng，tadewaiyujiukeyishuochengbennengfanyingposhile。

diwu，zhangfuyaoqiuwufadadao。

 zhangfuzaihunhourengbeibabajiatingbaoliguo，ertadexiaojingyulianmianguanguozhong，chedihulveleziyineixinshenchudezhenshiyaoqiu，yewufadadaonanshengbennengfanyingdexuanxie，yizhiqizairichangshenghuozhonghuiyibaopiqidefangshirichangshenghuo，qingshangzhishangyefeichangdi。

 zailaobayanqianwufadedaohaowuyiwendezhangfu，zaixiaohanzheierdoumeiyouhuodejizaodezhongshi，tadeneixinshenchushiwanqude。yinerqizichuguihou，tabianhuiyiyizhongjiduanhuadeshentigerenxingweihuojiatinglengbaolilaixuanxie、cijixingxifu。

dajiashuo，bingmeiyouyouyuhunyinchuguierzaochengjiatingmaodun，zhishiyouyujiatingmaoduncaihuichuxianhunyinchuguidechansheng。

 xiaohanhezhangfucaiyong“manbaobieren”dezuofa，jinguanweilianggerenxiubuguanlianjianshaolewaibumocazuli，danneiyangrichangshenghuojiule，zhinengjiajubicidexinlizhuangtai，naizhihuichuxianrengefenliezhengdequxiang，jibulijiazhongchangguidefazhanqushi。

 chuguinvrenhouxinlizaiqianyishizhongdouyouyizhongkuijiuheaohuidexinlizhuangtai，keshi，jiduanhuashiyouyoupoguanposhuai、jinzaoliyiyeshiyizhongbaituodexinlizhuangtai。

 zheierzhongfenqidexinlizhuangtaibianhuidaozhitamenxinlishidiao、tongchu，kanbudaoxiwang。yiner，wobianyong《daodejing》laijitazuoxintaideshutong。

 “tiandizhouzhimeizhiweimeisieyi，zhouzhishanzhixingshansibudangyi。youwuxiangsheng，nanduxishuxingxiang，zhangduxiangxing，shengfuxiangqing，yinshengxianghe，qianhouxiangsui。hengye。”

quanshijiezenmehuiyoumeini？ruguonijuedeyoumeilideqingkuangxia，bianhuiyouchou；ruguonilejieshenmeshishan，zheijiuyongyoue。

 youhewuxianghuzhuanhuan，nanherongyixianghuzhijianchansheng，zhangduduanxianghuzhijianchengxian，gaohedixianghuzhijianfengfu，yinhexianxianghuzhijianhemu，qianhehouxianghuzhijianjiesui。

 huanjuhuashuo，womenyaobianzhengdiqukankannanti，bukeyijiupingdingzishenfanleshiebushedecuo，zhishishuowomenyaolejiezenmehuiwaiyu？

waiyubingmeiyoumouyigerendaozhide，tayouqilixingdeyaosu、jiatingguanxideyuangu，yekenengshiliangrenfenbiedexianxiangsuozhishide。

那麼咱们该如何去纠正呢？

“shengxianchuqianshanzhishi，xingbuyanzhijiao。”

dajiaxianyaozuoziji，tishengziwo，zaiquxiyinzhu、dadonglingyifang，zuizhongweihailingyifanggenggainiantou。

 yusuzebuda，neixinshanghaidequanyu，yeshixuyaodeshijiande。yiner，womenyaojizhangfufaxieqingxudeshijian，yexuyaoweizijitigaodejiyu。

tingwanwodepouxi，xiaohanyetupolezishenguyoudeluojisiweikunjing，keyilixingdiduidaizhengjianshi。

 wojitamingquetichulezishendajiandejihuafangan，baohanmeirimeitianpaobu、qianglietuijiantaqukankanyuerjiaoyudeshu，zizhuxuexipengzhi，meiyigelibaitianzishenzuofan，jiatingbaomudaza，tishengzijiyujiazhongdeshiyongjiazhi。

 haixuyaoyugonggongkaizhanshengoutongjiaoliu，zhangwojiagongdeyaoqiu，zhangwozhangfudejiatingguanxi、yumamadeyilianguanxideng，duoqukuazanzhangfu，weihaidaojiagongbuhuizaiyigaodianyadefangshilaimianduizishendehaizi。

 lijing1geduoyuedeshijian，jinguanzhangfuzhujianjianjiandirentongxiaohandegenggai，dantadexintaiqueshiyoubuduan，youdeqingkuangxianaizhihaihuijixuyizhengtiandirumata。

 zheishihou，wojitashang《nvrenyouxiupinzhi》、《nannvchayi》、《nvxingqinzibuquedingxinggaodetezheng》dengkechengneirong，genjuziwopingjiahenanhaihenvhaizhaoduixiangdebiaozhundezhangwo，rangtafenbianzishenzuoweiyigenvrendabiaoshifou，chajuebenshencunzaidebuzu。

 congrengexinlixuedekanfaeryan，chuguinanrenshuzuiduoshidaiyigefeihunshengzinvhuijia，danchuguinvrenzeyoukenenghuirangzheigenanrenjuehou。

 rangtayonghuanweisikaolejiezhangfudecubaogerenxingwei，yucitongshi，《daodejing》diqishibazhangyeshuodao“shouguozhigoushiweijiangshansheji，zhushouguobuxiangzhizhaoshiweitiandiwang。”

 keyiweilegenghaodiwoguodeshouyierchengdanchiruderen，caikeyiyouzizhilingdaoganbuwoguo；keyiweilegenghaodishijiedeshouyierchengdanzaihuoderen，caikeyiyouzizhidangtiandidejunwang。

huanjuhuashuo，nikeyichengdanhendadewumie，jiunengchengdanhendadehuanhusheng。

neimayanshenchulai，jiarunikeyizuojiazhongdenvzhu，nijiuxuyaochengdanbierenduizhurendepipan。

 genjujichuzhishihesixiangjuewu2gelingyudeshutong，tagengnenglejiezhangfudefennugerenxingwei，tadexintaiyejianjiandiquyuwending。

 jiuzaishierwanghaodejiaodufazhanqushishi，youyici，zhangfuquezhichulekouhuodeguiding，xiaohanmeifajiena，beirenaodezhangfuzaiduduitashixinglebaolixingwei。

 zheiyici，xiaohannaizhidouqugoumaileyiliaoshoushudaopiantiqianzhunbeizijinle。womeibanfahetakaizhanchangguidegoutongjiaoliu，zhiyouyongcuimiandexingshirangtashifangyali，zaixiayishilijitajijizhudong、zhengliandeanshizhe，jihuichulaihou，tadexinjingcainenggouhuifu。

 neiyiduanshijian，wojihumeirishouhoutasangezhongtouzhishang，yong《daodejing》、《yijing》、《daxue》dengguoxuejingdianzhongdezhexuejibenwentijitazuojutizhidao。

 tayehuixiangxuduodeshoutuorenyiyangjizheyaoxiangjieguo，zheishihouwobianhuigentajiang“youwuhuncheng，xiantiandisheng。jixiliaoxi，dandububian，zhouxingerbudai，nenggouweitiandimu。wubuzhidaoqiming，qiangzizhiyue‘dao’，qiangweicimingyue‘da’。dayueshi，shiyueyuan，yuanyuefan。gudaoda，henda，deda，renyida，yuzhongyousida，errenjuhuanjingqiyiyan。renfadi，difatian，tianfadao，qingjingwuwei。”

 womendoushichuguile，keguanshishibianshizheiban，danyeshizanmenzhiqiandecuo，rujinguoquleyinianle，gaifanxiupianle，dajiajiuxuyaozaicifazhan。

 renshengyishi，mancaoyichun，yisuiyikurong，meiyigerenmeiyijianshijunyouqiguilvxing。dao，jiuhaoxiangyinianyousiji，renhuiyoushengsilunhuiyiyang。

nirujinchuyudongtian，beibierenlengdong，neimenizhiyouchenji，qiehesanqiandadao。ruguowomenshuahuazhao，fandaohuichuxianshanghai。

jiuzaizheiyiliuchengzhong，tafengbishiyiyuzhengdexincaijianjiandidakai。

 zheishihou，wobianjitashang《xiyinlikaiguan》、《aideyuyan》、《aidewuzhongnengli》dengkechengneirong，xuexipeixunzenyangyuzhangfuqudelianxi，zenyangyuzhangfukaizhanyouxiaogoutongjiaoliu，jiqiruhequtixianzishendeaihefajuezhangfuaidebiaoda，tigaotadehunyinshenghuogongchufangfa。

 zhidaotazishenjianshedaoyidingshuiping，xinlizhuangtaichengshoulichongzuyingduizhangfudefangongshi，worangtaxieleyifenpobingzhilvdexinhanjizhangfu。

pingshiweizhangfutiqianzhunbeigongchudeyifu，yaoyuezhangfuyitongcanyuqinziyoujiazhongrideng，bicizhijianzhujianshunlituidong。

 zhihou，zhangfufushangzhuyuanzhiliao，xiaohanyeshiqiyeyiyuanmenzhenliangcepao，zhangfuxiaohaidoubudanwudizhaoliaozhe。xinlingchuguidenvrendejiejuyounaxie？

 rendaohuanbingdeqingkuangxia，neixinquanshixiangduibijiaomingande。jiandaoxiaohanzheiduanshijiandegenggai，zhangfuyexiangtasikaolezigedebaoliqingxiang，biaomingjiwangbujiu，jianglailianggerenhaohaoshenghuorizi。

wanbianjianhou，youguan“nvxingchugui”，yinweiwowanchengleyifansisuo。

从社会心理学上而言，出轨女人会出现二种不正确逻辑思维。

yishiweilebaobao，woxiangdijiandiweihuzhehunyinshenghuo；

ershi，nvrenshixianxingfuhaiyouxing，yinerchuguinvrenhoubianhuirenweizishenbuxihuanzheigenanrenle，wubiyaopaofubiezi。

zhenduiqianmianyizhong，dajiashuorenshoushiyouchengdude，jiezhurenshouerbaochidehunyinshenghuoyebuhuijuedexingfukuaile。

 chuguinvrenbingbushifeidemahaobuchihuitoucao，danyidingyaoshizhendeganjuezhangfufeichangzhidequaicaiwanliu，zheicaisuanshizhenzhenzhengzhengdezhonggui。

 zhenduihoumianyizhong，yijushehuihuanjing，shishishangzheileipaofubiezidenvxingtongchangshizuihouhuimojide。xinlingchuguidenvrendejiejuyounaxie？

 lihunzhihoudetayudisanzhezaihunjiating，tahuibaqianrenlaogongdequexianquanzidongwangque，zhihaijideyoushi。fanguolaide，zhenduizaizhitajiuzhinengjiandaoqishoushangdequexian，pingbiyoushi。

neima，yigedoushiyoushiheyigedoushiquexiandenansheng，tazenmekenengbuaohuiwangri，maiyuanxiankuangni？

 shijishang，hunyinwanhuijinjinchuantongshixinlifudaodeyigezhimo，jiuhaoxianghunyinshenghuo、ganqingyejinjinshidajiayishengdeyixiaobufen。

yiner，dajiazhenzhenzhengzhengyaoquzhangwodeshidajiarenshengfangxiangzainaer，dajiaxuyaodeshishenmeyangziderenshengdaolu。

 nvrenchuguiyingxiangzhangfucaiyunma？zaiwomendinghaolarenshengdaolufangxiang，zaiqukankanrichangshenghuojidajiapaochuqudezheizhongqingkuanghexuanzexiangshi，dajiabiannenggengtanrandizuochulixingdetiaoxuan。