一个出轨的女人自述

nizenmeduidaiwaiyuzheiyigerenxingwei?chuguidenvrenyibanshishenmejieguo？yigewaiyunvrendezixushuotachuguile，tafanfa，dajiaruhekan?yigechuguidenvrenzishuyuanyin，quemeiyourenjianxin，eryixienvrenchuguizishuyebuzuo，quebeibierenshuobeibierenma，yaozenyangrulini？nvrenchuguihoufeichanghouhuizenmeban？

一、一个外遇女人的自诉

yishengyaoyanzangshiduoshaomimicaikeyiwendingdurini?yigenvrenchuguizishushuozishenfanfa，chuguile，shizuima?chuguidenvrenyibanshishenmejieguo？

yigewaiyunvrendezixu，wohezhangfushizaiwo27suishixiangqinyuehuilejiede，neishihouganjuenianlingdale，richangshenghuojiandan，womenjiaziranhuanjingyebudahao，babamamabutaimingbaitengxiaohai，womeiyigeyuezhuandeqiandoudejiaojiazhong，yincidao27suiwoshenshangjinyouliangsanqianyuanqiandechuxu。

 neishihouqingxuhenyayigan，youzaiyijiakekedeyoudianerchaojibiantaideqiyeshangban，dajiagongzuoshoujishangbukeyiqidong，diannaomeiyouhulianwang，gongzuobukeyixiantanzheixie

……neishihouxinlizhuangtaiyebutaihao，xinjizhewanhun，yizhipazishenzhaobudaonanpengyou。

yincijiuxiangqinyuehuile，jianwanhouganjuehaihao，jinguanbutaigaojiubutaishuai，danhaitingganjingliluodeyigeren。yikaishideqingkuangxiayiqiedouhenhao，womenliangshunliditanlianai，shunlidilejielebicidepenyou，dayuetanledabannianyihoujiushunlidijiehundengjile。henyoukenengzishenyeganjueyoudianercongmang，yincibahunyandingzaileyinianhou。qishiwoneishihoudouyoudianerxiangjuhunle，buqingchuzheishifousuanshigebutaihaodechajuedao。nvrenchuguihoufeichanghouhuizenmeban？

zaichiyihefenqidexinlizhuangtaixia，wojiajileleta，danshijiehunhou.wofajuedajialiangrenhenbufuhe。tadewenpingjinyouzhongxue，guanniangenwobuyiyang，goutongjiaoliuhenjiannan。jiangdehuayoushijutingbumingbai。tingbuxiguandeqingkuangxia，bianhuichao。

wohenkanbushunyandebianshimeiyicijianghuadoushihuichanzazhexiecuhua，yejiushidajiabendidekoutouyu，youyuwomenjiazixiaodewenhuajiaoyudouhaijiaoweiruyaburongyijiangcuhua，yincizhenduitadekoutouyuwohenbijiaomingan，buxiangting。youshihouhetamenjiayijiazizaiyongcan，taqinrenyaoshuo，tayeyaoshuo，youyicitajiangdebijiaoduo，woyeshuota，nijianghuaruyadiana，biecuhuayidaduide。tajiuhuiyingshuo，niguanneimeduogansha，nibushiyehuijiangma?wozhendeshiwunai，dangtababamamademiantazheiyangzishuowo，wohaipagangajiumeizaiyingtale。chuguidenvrenyibanshishenmejieguo？

tashineileidadalieliedenanren，shashidoubufangzaixinli，jialijiawaidedaxiaoshicongbuguji，bianshigongzuoxiabanhuijiawanshoujiwandiannao，wozhenshibenkui，meiyicigentajiaodaishashi，shuoyibianerbianbierenyagenbufangzaixinli，zhuanlianbianhuiwangdiao，woruguoshuosanbiansibiantahaihenxianfan，shuowoxutaogebuting。doushuonanrenshishu，nvrenshiteng，woxinlishijishangbudanvrende，xiangrangnanrenxiangshumuneibannengweiwodangfengzheyu，ketazuobudao，nongdezijigenhanfuyiyang。

nvrenma，yizhiqidaiyoudianerlanmanderichangshenghuo。kedajiajiehunhoudefuqishenghuoyidianyebuhemu，dajiajibenshangdoumeijiedaowen。tingbierenshuofuqixingshenghuobuhexieyibanquanshibierenwanhunshijiniandeshile，danshidajiacaijiehunyinianbushanga!bingqiedajiadouhuoshibushangsanshisuidenianji。

jiuhuiyouyiciwochangshijijiquyinyouta，quebeitafuyanleshidibaolebaoqinleqinjiuyibalakaiwanshoujile，neishihoudeqingxuqueshi……zhenduizheigewentidajiacengbuzhiyiciguangougenju，ertazongshishuotahengongzuozhongbijiaomang，tashentibushi，tafeichangleizheixie，youshihouhaihuijixuweizheiyifashengzhengzhi，rangworenweifangfozishenbianshiyigefunvyiyang。

wobuyuanyizuoqianghandenvren，woxiangyaozuogexiaonvren，xinlizhuangtaishangwohenleifeichanglei，cikeyouyigerenzourulewodexinli。dajiahentouyuan，yilaierqu，taguidingpengmian，yemeiyouhuijue，taneishihouqianlitiaotiaolaizhaowoliao，zhihou，dajiafashengleguanxi，neishihoubawotashenshendidexiyinzhu，tashineileiwaiguanhenyougaoyoudadenanren，henkushuai，youyizhongwanshannanrendefengcai。

zuizhongyaodeshihetazaiyiqi，wohenyouguishugan，shashiyewuxucaolao，tahenhuiguanzhunvren，neileiguanzhuhaoxiangbuzhibujue，danzeshiqieqieshishide，tayeburongyitianyanmiyu，womenyiqitaconglaimeiyoushuoguonaxieshanmenghaishi，meiyoushenmehuayanqiaoyu，kewohenxihuanneileijuede，xiaineileichanmianfeice，wochimiyutadeneileiqichang，neileifengfan。wochengrenzishenchuguilebushidui，danzheiyiqiedoushinanrenshifangchulaide，wobingbushiweizijidewaiyuzhaoyuanyin，woneiyangshuokendingshiyinlaihaoduorendewuma，danzheishiwoxinlidezhenzhengniantou。

buqingchunishifouhuiyifansudeguifangenwoshuo：tashicuowude，suihoujiangwozhongzhongdimayitong。shijishangyinweiwoganjue，neimezuohenbutaihao，danzheibingbingbushiwoyaode，yinweiwoyiqianlixiangzheyuxinaiderennengbaitouxielao、yongyuaihe，shubuzhimenghuixingdezheimekuai!genwoshuo，shifouneiyangdepingpingdandancaisuanhunyindebenzhi，huozhewodexiangfataiguohaiziqibuchengshu，huoshiwohenbuchenggongyizhisuotuofeiren?

zhenduizheinvrenchuguizishudajiaruhekan?

二、为何女人外遇后比男人更难学会放下

nvrenhenanrenchuguiyihou，weihenanrengengfeichangrongyixuehuifangxia?ernvrengengfeichangrongyidanxin?

shehuixinlixueshangjuede，danshishiyouyuzheisangezi：“xiuchixin”。

renmenhebiedexiaodongwudejiaodachabiebianshirenhuiyou“xiuchixin”，congerhuizaochengfuzuigan。

dajiahuiyouyuzishenzaigongzuonengli、rengetezhi、rongmaodengcengmiancunyouyihan，huoyouyuzishendeguannianhegerenxingweiweifanshehuifazhandefalvfaguihuobiaozhunerzaochengzheileixinlizhuangtaixintai。

congshehuixinlixueshangshuo，xiuchiganshiyizhongtongchudexintaiganshou。

conggudaojin，nanrensanqisiqiehenyiqiezhengchang，nvrenzhiyou“jiagousuigoujiajisuiji”，congyierzhongfangweihaonvren，zheishiyinulizhidujiuzhujiandeyizhongguanxingsiwei，yinci，nvrenwaiyu，fuzuigandangranbinanrenmingxiandeduo。

yigechuguidenvrenzishu，keshi，conghuidenvren，yingdangyunyongxiuchixinerbushibeitajushu。

qiahaoshiyouyunitongchule，yincifuzuiganrutongshentidegaicuozuoyongyiyang，huijidajiachanshengyixieshunxiangdewupin。

youyuxiuchigan，yincidajiayongyoudaodeguannian，dajiahuiguidingzishenqiehebiaozhun，dajiahuilejienaxiekeweihebunengwei，jineryoujiexian，youzizundeshenghuozaizheigequanshijie。

danlingyifangmian，fuzuiganyihuirangwomenwufaquxuehaohaohaodeaiziji，yizishendihuihehuihuaidefangfakandaizishen，qianyishizhongjizijishengchanzhizaolebuxingfukuailedeziranhuanjing。

zaizheiyijianshiershang，nidedanxinqiahaoshizheisangezi：“xiuchixin”zaizuoguai，suiranzheizhongshier，nidezhangfuheqinrenbingbulejie，danshinizijideliangzhizoubuguoqu。

niyidingshiganjue：zhongjiuniganlebaoqianzhangfuyujiatingdeshier。

jiehunhouzhangfushishuyuduinidezhaoliao，jiaposhiduiniyouyixietaiguo，zaijiashangnishenghaiziyihoudenvxingjisujiangdi，danshizheibuhuiniyongwaiyuquchufatamen，shuodaodihuoshinicuole。

zheiqiahaoshi“xiuchixin”zaiquanjienitaruzhongguijiazhongdezhengdao。nikeyineimexiang，biaomingnishiyigeweirenzhengzhikaolvdehaonvren!

danshiganlebianshiganle，nimeifarangshijiandaoliu，neimajiuxuyaoxuehaodaqijiena“xiuchixin”chanshengdeshunxianggongxiao，lingwaibikaitadebuliangyingxiang，fangzishenyima。

“xiuchixin”shinizhicuojiugai，erqiezhihouyebuhuizaichanshengxiangjindeshierle，biaominglenidezizunziai，nidefazhan，nideqiangjing，tadiaozhengnidemudizaoyizuodaole，nimeiyoubixubeitajushuzhu。

zaizheigecengmian，nvrenshijishangyaoxiangnanrenxuexipeixun。jiadingyixia，jiaruzheiyixiangjindeshierchanshengzaiyigenanrendeshenshang，xifubuqingchu，tazijiyezhicuojiugaile，tashifouhuihuijialezhihouyingduilaopodehaoermeitiandanxinzaodongbuanni?

tamenbaifenzhijiushijiuburongyide，zheixiebuyuanzhongguijiazhongdenanrendouburongyi，hekuangganjuezishendouzaoyijuecezhongguizhengdaodeshanrenleni?

nanrende“xiuchixin”jihudoubinvrenqing，youwenhuadeyuangu，dangengguanjiande，worenweinanrenbinvrengengfeichangrongyijienazijidesuoyou。

neimanvren，qingyebubiyouyuzheiyirenshengdaoludewuzijiubazijidingzaichiruzhushang。

neijiushiniyiqiandeshuzui，ziranyeshiyiqiandebuzhengque，danshitianshangmeiyouyuyideyinhen，nizaoyilveguo，neimajiuheyiwangdezishenyixiaominenchou。

yigechuguidenvrenzishu，dajiameiyigerendouyouquehan，doushihuibujingyidifancuowu，keguanjiandeshi，jieshouta，genggaita，jinxingzishendefazhan，shandaiziji，zheicaisuanshishengmingzhongzuizhongyaodeketiyanjiu，zheicaiduideqishangneiyicibuzhengquedeguanjianshiyongjiazhi。