面对出轨的婚姻，聪明的女人应该这么挽回

 dangchuguinanrenbianchengyulaiyuguangfandeshehuiwenti，zaoshouhunwailianjiongjing，xianrutongchu，danxinbujidelaopoyeyulaiyuduo。shubuzhizhichihouyongyihou，juedaduoshulaopodeyouxuan，huanshibaoquanyigexiangxidejiazhong。-ruhe wanhui

 yifangmian，nvxingchuziyubennengfanying，doushiyaoweixiaohaibaocunyigexiangxidejiazhong。lingyifangmian，nvxingtongchangmeibanfasheqiyiwangdeqingganheyikao。hekuangfuqixingshenghuohenduonian，xianghuderenjiguanxihejingjifazhanquanyizaojiuwanyanquzhe，kunfuzaiyiqi，liyiduibiciderenshengdaolueryanquanshiyigeshangjindonggudeguanjianjuece。

 danshi，zhenduixiangwanhuilaogongdenvshieryan，congtoukaishihejibenjiansheyiduanzaozaoyigouyancanchuandeqinggan，bingfeiyijianfeichangrongyideshier。tamenhuichixuqinshenjinglixinlidefenqihelache，duizishendefourenheduilingyifangdeyuanqi，yihuiershuodongzishenyaoxiangkuanronglingyifang;yihuieryoubeixinlidetongchuluanyao，yaoxiangduifulingyifang。

 kemeiyigeqinshenjinglihunwailiantongchudenvshidouyingdanglejie，dangniyizhichenjinyuzaitongchuzhong，shibenzhimeiyougongzuonengliwanhuilaogongde。yaoxiangwanliuyigechuguinanren，niwubikeyibaozhengxialiesandiancaiyoujianghui。

第一点是学会放下自身的受害人心态状态。

 zuixianburongzhiyideshi，laopodequeshilaogonghunwailiandeshouhairen，youyulaogongmeiyoukeshouduihunyinshenghuodefuwuchengnuo，erzaoshoulebeipanbiandecheguzhitong。naizhiyaoyinciqinshenjingliduizishendecaiyi，duicengjingdewomenqinggandefouren，duijianglaidewuxiankongjuhemiwang。

 dancongciwaiyigeshijiaoeryan，chuguinanrentongchangshifufuganqingchuxianwentidejieguo，bingfeiyouyin。yiqieyiduanqingganquanshibicizhongjianhudongjiaoliudejieguo，fufubicidouyingdangweihunlianwentidanfufenbieyingdangdanfudeneiyibufenyiwu。jiarubeichuguinvrenyizhixianzaishouhairenqinghuailibunengziba，baquanbudehuolidouyongzaishenli、chizeheyuanqinanshengdeshenshang，zhiyoubananshengyuetuiyuelaiyueyuan，shizhongdoubutaikenengwanhuilaogongle。

第二点是把侧重点取回到自身的身上。

 qinshenjinglibeiwaiyutongchudenvxing，tongchangshifenzaiyilaogonghedisanzhedexiangchuquanguocheng，yejiqiediyaoxiangxunzhaocankaodaan，mingquezishenhedisanzhejiujingsheizailaogongdexinligengweiguanjian。tamenhaihuifeijinxinsiyiqiebanfaquchaikailaogonghedisanzhedeqinggan，qiwanglaogongkeyizaicizhongguijiazhong。

 shubuzhizheiyiquanguochengdetongchushuipingtongchangchaoguotamendechengshouli，shitamenchixushenxianbenkuideqingkuang。lingwai，zaizheiyiquanguochengzhizhong，youyuduilaogonghuaiyouxiwang，yincihuinanyibimiandiqinshenjinglixinhan，zaoshougengbijiaoyanzhongdeerciwaishang。

 yigeyaoxiangwanhuilaogongdenvxing，wubibacezhongdianconglaogonghedisanzhededeshenshangqianyidaozishendeshenshang，xuexipeixunguanxinzishendexintai，renshizijidexintai，zhaoguzijidexintaiherenti，caikeyixiufuchongzudedongnengquxiubufufuxianghuguanxi。

第三点是不必把自身心态的所有义务放到另一方的身上。

 dangwaiyuderenbiaoshuxiangyaozhongguideyixiangyihou，beiwaiyuderenxinliyizhixiwangzhenagewaiyuderenlaizhiqianbingkuanweizishen。qiwangneirenkeyilejiezishensuoyoudenaonuhenanguo，bingnuliqinfenlaifuweizishendexintai。yidanlingyifangzuodehebulaiqingyi，beiwaiyuderenjiuhuigengweinaonuhenanguo。

 shishishang，zaizheiyihuanjie，nagewaiyuderen，bingmeiyougongzuonenglibaozhengchedidifuweibeiwaiyuzhe。jiarutachengxinchengyidizhonggui，bidingyaoqinshenjingligendisanzhedefenlichulai，zishenzishenjiuhuiyouxuduoxintaibixujiejue。

 genghekuangxuduorenzheiyineishihouhedisanzhezhongjianyeshixuduoqianchechixudeqingyi。jiarubeiwaiyuzhechedibalingyifangzuoweizishenxintaidezerenren，zaisuonanmianchangchangwufakongzhi。zhinengdaizhuchajuequganshouzishendexintai，jizijidexintaidanqiyiwu，caiyoujianghuibaochizhenshidewanliu。

 zhenduiyiqieyiduanchuxianguohunwailiandehunyinshenghuoeryan，wanliuquanshiyichanggongjianzhan，zhongjiangtianmanzhetongchu。kemeiyigebeipanbiandenvxing，zhiyouqinshenjinglizheileitongchu，caiyoujianghuihuajianchengdie，chengzhanggengxinderenshengdaolu。