wanhuihunyinzenmetanpan,hunyinjiushiyichanghuxiangjiushulvcheng,danshidangguanlianchuxianliehenshi,henduorendouhuixianrumimang——mingmingshenailingyifang,quezongshiyinjiaoliubuhelirangmaodunjihua;mingmingxiangxiufuguanxi,quebuzhidaocongherushou。shijishang,wanhuiqizideneixinconglaidoubushiyichangdanfangmianquyue,ershiyongkexueheli、zhenzhidegoutongjiaoliuzhongjianxinrenyulianjie。
xiaohuobanmenhao,wojiushizhongyuanhunyinzixunjigoulizhuo。jinri,womenweinichaixie4geyouxiaogoutongfangfa,bangzhuzijiyongshijixingdongzhengshigenggai,yongwenzichuansongzhenxinshiyi,rangmianlinposuidehunyinmanxuefuhuo。
一、方法1:聆听≠闭上嘴,反而是使她憋屈被看见

genbenyuanze:xuehuifangxiabianbo,rangxintailiudongxing
henduonanshengwurenwei“lingting”bianshimobuzuosheng,erzhenzhengdelingtingbixujijicanyu。ruguonilaopoqingtubumanyishi,tagengxuyaodeshibeirenlijie,bingfeimashangchuliwenti。birutamaiyuan:“nizongbahuanxiyifuluandiu,jiazhongxianglajizhanyiyang!”jiarunixiayishidibianbo:“wodegongzuozheimexinku,jiubunengkuanrongyixiama?”fanerhuirangmaodunjihua。
正确的做法:
yongshentiyuyanchuansongzhuanzhuyu:shentiqianqing、muguangjiechu,diandiantouhuifu,rangtaganshoudaonigaoduzhongshi。
zhuanshuquedingtihui:“tingshangqunizuijinhenlei,jiawuhuoshiniyalifeichangda,duibudui?”
xunwenxiaoxijie:“zheiyangdeshiqingshenmeshihouzuishinixinfan?woruhefanerhuirangnikeyixie?”
shili:wangxianshengyinzhangqijiabanhulvelelaopoqingxu,yicizhengchaohoulaopomingquetichuliangdifenju。tameizhenglun,fanershizhudongshuo:“wohuoxuyizhimeiyouyishidaonijianxin,nenggaosuwojinqinajianshiqingzuigufunima?”laopogengyanzhetanqiduzidaixiaohaizhibingdeyeli,tazhenchengdaoqianbingjichudiaozhengjiezougan。zheiyichanghuihuabianchengguanliandazhuanzhe,laopomanmandakaixinfei。
二、方法2:表达感受≠忍让,而是通过情意找到出口

genbenyuanze:yong“wo”qudai“ni”,jiangdidikanggan
chizeshihunyinshenghuodeyuanxiong。dangnishuo“niconglaibuguanzhuwodeganjue”,duifangjiuhuibennengfanyingfangyuli;erhuanwei“wojuedegudan,xiangyaoniduopeibanwo”,zegengrongyiyinfatonglixin。xinliyanjiushuoming,yineixinganshouweizhongxindebiaoshukeyijiangdi60%demaodunjilv。
具体步骤:
cuowuzuofa:“nizonghushiwoshengri,genbenbuzaiyiwo!”
tishengbanbenhao:“shangnianshengrinijiwotiqianzhunbeiyiwaijingxishi,wotebiegandong。jinqijihuiweinengyiqiguo,woyoudianshiluo。”
shengjiefangfa:zaiyuyanyaoqiuzhiqianxianhaowuyiwenlingyifangyoushi。biru:“niyizhihenshanyuzhengtiguihualvyou,cicijiariruguokeyiyiqishifangyali,wohuijuedetebiexingfu。”
shili:yangxianshengcengjingyinweilaopohuijueqinjinerkunao,tameiyouzhiyi“nishibushibuaiwole”,zhishishuo:“woqianjitianjuedebicizhijianyouyixiejianju,youshikanjiannipibeibukandemoyang,woxintengbuyi,queyehaipazijinaershininanshou。”laopotingdaohouluoleizhiyan:“wojiushidanxinzaiduxinhan。”cicihuihuaranglianggerenzaicishelileqingganlianjie。
三、方法3:防止冷暴力,用“停止键”取代“停止键”

genbenyuanze:jixintaijianwen,erfeijiguanlianjianwen
lengbaolishihunyinshenghuodemanxingzhongdu。meiguohunyinshenghuoyanjiuzhuanjiagetemanfajue,zhangqixinglengbaolidefufuzhongguolihunlvbijiliezhengchaodefufugaoyu47%。dangjihuamaodunshi,yuqishuoouqibuyan,bibushangdongde“celvezhongzhi”。
实战演练计划方案:
tizaochengnuo“lizhianyu”:birudangyifangjiangchu“womenyinggaizantingyixia”shi,zhongzhizhengzhi15min。
wanhuihunyinzenmetanpan,tongguowenziqudaiyuyanbiaoda:jiarudangmiangoutongjiannan,keyichangshixieyiduanhua:“womingbaidajiaxianzaifeichangjidong,wobuxiangshanghaini。dengpingjingxialai,zanmenjiuhaohaoliaoliaohaome?”
shengchanzhizaoqingxuhuancun:zhongzhiqineijijizuoyijianxiaoshi,lirudiyibeiwenshui、qingqingdixiangyong,chuansong“wobuzaidikang,danzaijiejin”xinhao。
shili:zhangnvshiyinlaogongwangdiaojiehunjinianriridachaoyijia,laogongbingmeiyouzhenglun,fanershimomoditiqianzhunbeizuiaidetianpinhebixiexinyongka:“womingbaizheiyitianduinihenzhongyao,wocuxindayirangnishiwangle。mingtianwoxiujia,womenzhongxinzaojiuguishuyuwomendejinianrihaome?”zhangnvshidenuhuozaitiandianxiangweizhongxiaorong,liangrenzuizhongduguoleyigeqieyidebuwandianli。
四、方法4:积极修补≠服软,反而是为了爱按住重启键
genbenyuanze:bamaodunzhuanhuaweifazhanqierudian
hafodaxuezhuizongyanjiubiaoming,mingbaijijixiufuguanxidefufu,hunyinshenghuomanyilvbiyibanfufugao82%。xiububingbushichengrencuowu,fanershichengxianjiejuewentichengxin。
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