依恋的意思是什么，太过依恋一个人怎么办

dajiazhidaoyiliandeyisima？jintianxiaobianjiuyaoweiraoyiliantanyitan，dangduiyigerenyilianyisitaiguoqiangliegaizenmebanni？

一、依恋理论

 yiliandeyisishishenmeni？lilunzuichushiyouyingguojingshenfenxishibowbly(1969)tichude。erzhanqijian，xuduoertongchengweiwurenzhaoliaodeguer，bowlbyfaxianzheixiejinrugueryuandeguersuiranzaishentishangdedaolekanhu，danrengranbiaoxianchuyanzhongdexintaizhangai，yinci，taconggueryuanzhongyouyumuaiboduodengyinsudaozhideguerdexintaizhangaideguanzhukaishi，zaishengtaixuehejingshenfenxidejichushang，tichuleyilianlilun。yiliandeyisishishenme， bowlbyrenweizaigetiheyilianduixiangdeshijijiaowangzhongxingchenglegetihekanhuzhezhijiandeneibugongzuomoshi，zheizhongneibugongzuomoxingshiduizaoqiyilianjingyandeneibubiaozheng，erzheizhongyiliandeneibubiaozhengyouchengweiyouerjianliyouguanziwoyutarengainian“neizaigongzuomoxing”deyuanxing。yiliandeyisishishenme？yilianguanxidegongzuomoshishiyizhongrenzhiqingganxingdegouzao，shizaiyoueryuzhaoliaozhexingweijiaohuzuoyongdeguochengzhongfazhanqilaideduitarenheziwodexintaibiaozheng。youerduizhaoliaozhedeyilianxingweibingfeizuoweiyizhongcijixingdexuyao，ershicongshuyuyigedulideyiliandongjixitong。yilianduixiang(keti)buzhishiyigehuanjiequlidegongju，tabenshenjiushiyigezhongjixingdemubiao。

 brehtartno(1992)tichu，youerhuizaiyuzhouweirenhewubuduanfuzahuadejiaowangzhong，jianlileyigeneibudegongzuomoxing，zheizhongmoxingneihualeduiyilianduixianghezijiyijiliangzheguanxideneizaibiaozheng。ertongzaizheigemoxingdezhidaoxia，jianlizaibutongqingjinglidefanyingfangshi。zheizhongxingweimoshiyidanxingcheng，jiujuyoulehenqiangdebaochiziwowendingdeqingxiang，bingqiehuizaixingweizhuti(youer)deqianyishizhongqizuoyong。yishangjiushiduiyiliandeyisizuoyigejieshi。

二、恋爱时太过依恋一个人怎么办

1、每一天都很普通

 lianaishitaiguoyilianyigerenzenmeban？yilianyisitaiguoqianglie，gaosuzijimeiyitiandouhenputong，birunimengangkaishimeitiandoutongdianhua，houlaibutongdianhua，nijiushoubule。niyaozaimeitiantongdianhuadeshihou，gaosuzijilaibulaidianhuadoushiyiyangde。buyaorangtadeyanxingjuzhiyingxiangleziji！

2、yizhizhuzijidechongdong

 yilianyisitaiguoqianglie，yaodongdeyizhizhuzijidechongdong，nixiangzhudongjitadagedianhua，nibutingdekanshouji，jiupacuoguoletafalaidexiaoxi。danshinineixinyidingyaobahaoguan，yidingyaoyizhizhuzijidechongdong，buyaoquzhudongzhaota。

3、分散注意力

 bashijianhejinglifangdaobiedeshiqingshangqu，chuquguangguang。quzhaopengyouliaotian，quchihaochidedongxi，qukandianying，zongzhirangzijimangqilai，jiushibuyaoyigerenduizheshoujidengtadexiaoxi。

4、做自我心态建设

 zaineixinlibuduanhezijiduihua，gaosuzijijiusuannizhudongzhaotale，tabuxianghuini，huozheshuomianqianhuini，youyisima，haizhihuirangtagengfanganniduitadeyilian。

5、zhaoheshidejihuisushuo

 dannimenshilianren，nizheiyangyazhizhuzijideganqingshibuhaode。zainimenbijiaotianmideshihou，nigaosuta，nineixinlihenyilianta，danyoukongzhizijibuqudaraota，kankantashishenmefanying。

6、不合适就分

 ruguonanyoudefanyingshi，henxintengni，yaoniyihouzhiyaoxiangtalejiuyaolianxita，ziranshimeihaojieju。haishibiciyinggaiyoudulidekongjian，neimejiunigaikaolvyixia，zheiyangdenanyoushibushinizhenxinxiangyaozhaode。lianaishitaiguoyilianyigerenzenmeban？yishangjiushiyixiezuofa，xiwangdajiaxihuan。