遭到家庭暴力后，还被指责，如何正确自保

 zaizheigeshijieshang，quanbunvxingdoubuyuanyijiagexiaijiatingbaolidenansheng，danshijiyizhiyixiebujinrurenyi。zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？zhongjiu“zhirenzhimingbuzhidaoxin”，xiaijiatingbaolidenanshengbingmeiyouxiezailianbu，yincinvxingzaiwanhunyiqianmeibanfafenbiannanshengaibuaijiatingbaoli。shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolihunyindeyuanyinyounaxie？

 zhenduinvxingjiehunhoupengdaojiatingbaolidenansheng，yinggaizenmeban？wojuedejuedaduoshunvrendoushitiaoxuanliyi。danyeshiyixiaobufennvxinghuitiaoxuankuanrongnansheng。zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？zhibuguoshi，yixiejiatingbaolidenanshengshifenshifenkechi，tadaguonvxinghou，haihuijixujuedeshinvxingdecuo，neiyangmashanghuirangnvxinghenxinhan。xiangxiabianzheiyinvxingjiupengdaoleneiyangdeshier。shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolihunyindeyuanyinyounaxie？

阅读者写信：

 doushuohunyinshenghuozhizhongyixiecuo，fufuwuxuquzhengzhi，keshihunyinshenghuodeshijianzhangle，zaisuonanmianweiyixiexiaoshierdadanaonao。eryinweiwogengshiyouyuyixiexiaoshierhezhangfuzhengchao，yincichangchangbeitajiatingbaoli。

 wohaizaizuowodexinniangzhangfuyiqian，congbulejietashiyigexiaijiatingbaolidenansheng。tangruolejiedehua，woyibeizijiusuanshibuchujia，yebuhuitiaoxuanjiajita，danzheiyishijieshangmeiyoutangruo，zhinengshiji。

 shijishang，wonengjiagezhangfuzhiyouhenzijimingku，youyuwomenjiachukaipinkun，jiemeihaishifenduo，yousanjiemei，keshiwoyeshijiazhongdelaodajie。yinciwohaizaizhaoduixiangzheixiefangmianmeiyouguoduotiaoxuan，youyuwoxianggujideshiertaiduole。

 youshiwohenxianmujidurujindenvhai，youyutamenshishangdidechonger，bujinchushizaiyigenanduonvshaodeshehuifazhan，haichushizaiyigejingjixingwangdeshehuifazhan。tamenbujinzaizhaoduixiangcengmiannenggou keke，keyimingmuzhangdandeqiyanansheng。

 wohaizai23suineiyinian，babamamajiugangkaishibihunle，youyurenmenneishihoushinvduonanshao，feichangshaoyounanshenghuiqubushanglaopo，yincinvshideyingxianglixiangduieryanjiaoweidi。eryinweiwogengshiyouyubabamamadebihun，yincihezhangfuxiangchuyigeyuejiujicongcongjielehun。

 wohezhangfuwanhunbushang3geyue，tajiudongshounenglidaguowo，youyinshiyibian20kuaiqian。wozuishaodeqinmeimeizaishisuishengchenneiyitian，babamamabingmeiyoubanjiuxisheyan，jinjinrangwomenyijiarenjuyiju。

 jinguanneishide20kuaiqiansuanbushangduo，keshizhenduixiangcuneryanyesuanbushangshao，yincizhangfuzhizhunyuwojiqinmeimei10kuaiqian。keshiwoyinweimeiyoutingzhangfudehua，jileqinmeimei20kuaiqian。yincihejiefuhuijialehou，tahenhendaguowoyidun。

 zhenduizhangfuyibian20kuaiqiandawo，yinweiwoshangxinyujue，danchongfenkaolvzishenyeshicuo，yincijiuyuanliangle。yaowoxiangbudaodeshi，zaiwohuaiyunqijian，zhangfuyoudaguowo，yuanguguaiwotaixutaole，tashuowoyigenvrenbuhaohaoantai，yitiandaowanduitajijiwaiwai，yincigaida。

 wobeilaogongdaguoliangcihou，duitagangkaishiyixiedanxinle，youyutameiyicidongshounenglidawodeqingkuangxiameiyouyiqieqinghezhong。bingqietadaguowo，yinweiwobuganliyi，zhongjiuneishideguannianmeiyourujinduiwaikaifang，yincinvxinghunhou，jichuburongyitiaoxuanliyi。

 xiaohaishengchulaihou，wobabamamabangwo200yuanqian，suihoubeilaogongdapaishulele。wolaizheiyishierjiumaletajiju，jieguotayoudaguowo，haishuoyaoyaowobabamamakongsu，woshuota，“nidongshounenglidaguowo，yeyaoyaowobabamamakongsu？”shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolihunyindeyuanyinyounaxie？

tashuo，“daleni，neijiushinizixunfannaode。”

 tingletadehua，woneishihouqueshihenxianglihun，danhuanshibiezhule。woshuota，weishabangwoqinmeimei20kuaiqian，tanenggou dawo。zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？tarujinshudiao200yuanqian，wozenmejiubukeyimatajiju。jieguotashuo，meiyouweihe，zongzhiwozhixiangyaoganshuotabudui，jiushishuozishenzhaoda。

 zhenduizhangfushigemanhengwulideren，wozaoyixiguan，zhenduitaxiaijiatingbaoli，woqueshiyixiechibuxiao。youyici，zhangfubadalediliubixuelianzhonghou，wozhaodaowomama，suihoukuzheduitashuo，“ma，wolaogongxihuanjiatingbaoli，woxianglihun。”

mamajiandaowoneiyangyehenxintong，keshiqueduiwoshuo，“bieliyi，yaoguaijiuguainimingku。”

 youshi，wotingguaizijidemama，youyutabujianrongwoliyi。danyoushiyinweiwohenxintongta，youyutabudeyi，zhongjiujiatingtiaojiandeyuangu，tazhiyouquanwoyulaogongbulihun。

网编感情提议：

 jinguanrenmenrujinchangchangshuo：nvxingyaoshipengdaojiatingbaolijiugailiyi，danxianshishenghuozhongquebingbushizheiban。xiangneiweiyueduzhepengdaodezhuangkuang，xuduonvxingdoujingliguo。jibianxianrujinxuduonvrendiguannianyulaiyuleguan，danhuanshiyixienvrenzaijiabaohouhuinilaishunshou。

 duiyunvrenzaijiabaohou，zenmehuitiaoxuannilaishunshou，wojuedeyuanyinshifendeduo。biru：weilebaobao、yibianzhimingdu、weileai、yibianrangbabamamabudanyou，youhuoshishidanyoulihunzhihou，tarenkanbuqizishen。

 jiuwobenrenjuede：nvxingzaipengdaojiatingbaolihou，zhinengyizhongyuangunenggou tiaoxuanbuliyi，neibianshinanshenghuizhenxinshiyidehuiguo。tangruonanrenzaijiatingbaolihou，burongyitiaoxuanhuiguo，zhishiyierzai，zaiersandijiabaonvren，neimanvxingjiugailiyi。

 yigenanren，buguanyouyushishenmeyuanyindoubuyinggaijiabaonvren，youyutameiyouzheiyizhipeiquan。zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？yigenvren，zaihunyinshenghuozhongzaoshoulebugongpingdegongzidaiyu，buguanyouyushishenmeyuanyin，doubuyinggaitiaoxuanfangrennansheng。