面对冷暴力婚姻，夫妻应该学会做这4件事

 duihenduolianrenhefufueryan，lengbaolikendingshitamenzuitoutongdeshi。yumaodunhezhengzhiduibi，lengbaoligengweikongbu。lengbaolirutongyitiaobiaocengshangkanshangquningjingdanshishishangyanzangzhezhuangkuolangtaodejianghe。zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？youyulengbaoli，henduoqinglvzuihougebendongxi。yemangxingjuedelengbaolibingbukongbu，ruguonilejiezenyangjiejue，niyejiunenggoujinliangjianshaolengbaoli，jishilengbaolileyeshichulidefangfa。shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolilihundeyuanyinyounaxie？

不必冷嘲热讽。

 zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？renmenchangchangzaidianshishangjiandaoneiyangdejuqing，zuixianliangrenlengbaoli，suihouyifangjuedehenqi，mashanghuiyuelaiyuenaonuduilingyifangdashenghanjiaonaopiqi，fangfohuanlezhanglianyiyang。weihewonengxiaishanghenizheiyangderen？niqueshibuqizuoyong，yaowotaixinhanle，sanleba……zheizhongbeichengzuotanlianaijihuishihua，cishidoubeijiangguochuqu。shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolilihundeyuanyinyounaxie？

 benlaitashiyijianxiaoshi，nenggouzailengbaolidejirineidiaojie，fandaoyouyuzheizhonghuahuoshangjiayou，bianchengleyijianbijiaoyanzhongdeshier，zuihoubianchengzaocheng bicihunyinpoliededaohuoxian。jibianhoumiandeliangrenyanguiyuhao，danzheizhongyuyan，wuxingzhizhongxiangxiaodaoyiyangkaxinli，jishizhiyule，zuizhonghuanshiliuyouleshangba。

 yinciworenwei，lianrenfuqizhengchao，lengbaoli，yidingyaofangzhishuoguyidehua。huoxunineishihouqingxujidong，suojianghuadekenengshiyishichongdongdejieguo，yekenengshibujingyide。shubuzhi，shuozhewuxin，tingzheyouxin，lingyifangyiban huifeichangrongyibazheizhonghuajixinli，bijiaoyanzhongdehua，feichangrongyiweihaijinhoudejiaowang。yiner，lengbaolilengbaoli，niyinggaizaixianpingjingxialaizai“zhandou”，ningkezhuanglongzuoya，yebuyaoshuohenhua、shuoshangrendehua。shenmeshilengbaoli？lengbaolilihundeyuanyinyounaxie？

做一件相互的事儿。

 wopengyoucengyuwogongxiangguotade“baituolengbaolidefangshi”。neibianshi，liangrenshiqiangaohaochengnuo，zaoyujiatingbaolidezhengquezuofa？jiaruchanshenglengbaoli，jiuzailengbaolidezhuangkuangxiayiqizuoyiyangdeshier，zheinenggoushiliangrenpingchangdegongtonghuati，liruyongcan、kandianshiju、dayouxideng。tingqilaihennanyizhixin，zailengbaoliqinei，biciquanshihuxianglicai，sheixiangyiqiwan？

 danshijishang，zheigengshizhaozhunledajiadeneixin。liangrenzhongjiandelengbaoliyiban bingbushiyouyuzhengzhi，zhishiyouyuliangrenbuyuanyidixiatou，buyuanyixianxianglingyifangrencuo，shuangfangdoubuyuanyimeimianzi。shubuzhi，jiaruliangrenshiqianzaoyiyuanyizuoyiyangdeshier，tamennenggoupingjingxialaibieshengqi，yulingyifangyixiehudongjiaoliu，xiangxinzheiyidinghuijiasubicidiaojiedejiaobu，zheishiyigehenhaodefangshi。lengbaolideqingkuangxia，henduofuqiqingxidilejiezishenbudui，dantamenbuyuanyirencuo，zheiyifangshijiujiejuelemianziwenti。

从自身的身上寻找缘故。

 doushuoyibazhangdabuxiang，dangliangrenzhengchaoshi，tamenyiban duoduoshaoshaochangyoubenshendeyuangu。juyigejianyideshili，dangniqidaizaiyigedutedechuantongjierilijiedaoyifenlipin，erlingyifangmeiyourangni，ninengganjuelingyifangduinibuzuguanzhu。jiarulingyifangrangnilipinle，niyouhuiyouyulingyifangmeiyourangniyifenjinilingrenmanyidelipinerbugaoxing，yizhiyougeshigeyangdeyuangurangshuangfangdoubuyukuai，zheiyidingshibicidaozhide。yiner，renmenyingdangcongzishendeshenshangzhaoxunyuangu。

 zaitanlianaihuohunyinshenghuozhong，yidannishandaizijishengyuailingyifang，jiufeichangrongyizizhangfenqi。yiner，zailengbaoliqinei，jiarushuangfangdounenglizhisisuo，yexunantibingbudouhuilingyifang，neimatamenzenyangnengzuodegengqiangni？

为另一方找一个楼梯下。

 shijishangxuduoqingkuangxia，bubiyingchengzheqingmian，jilingyifangyigeloutixiatongchangnenggoujianqingbicizhijiandelengbaoliguanlian。shenmeshilengbaoli？biru，lianggerenlengbaolileyiduanshijianhou，lingyifangxianghuanjieguanlian，yincitagangkaishibujingyidiyuenijianghua，dangnizheishiyiqiezhengchangqudashan，feichangrongyirangxianghuguanlianfanhuizhenggui。fanguolai，jiarulingyifangheshuohua，niyaohelingyifangshuogunhuoshijiansuankebode，zheizongshirangdajiadeguanxijinzhang。yifangwaishenlehepingge，lingyifangsuishoubawozhuta，lianggerenjiukeyidiaojiele，zhongjiuyongyounonghoudeganqingjichu。