婚姻中怎么才能避免婚后冷战

 zailiangxingqingganzhongdejingdiannandian，jiushishuo：enaifeichangrongyijiaowangnan。zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？yaoxiangjiaowanghao，kaolvlingyifangxintaixuqiushigejindao。enaiyikaoyishunjianreqingzhuangjidehuomiao，jiunengzhankai；dandangreqingzhihou，zheiyiduanqingganyaoxiangweichihao，jiuxiangyaoninengzhangwodaolingyifangdexintaixuqiu。youqishibalinghou、jiulinghou，dabufenrendouzaoyuhunyinqinggannanti。jiarujinjintanlianaichuxianlenanti，buchutichufenshou，zhaoxunxiayiweimr.rightjiukeyile。danhunhou，shejidao2gejiazhong，sheidoubuyuansuibiantiliyi。youyuzheishiliyidechengbenfeiguogao，zaodaodeganqingwaishanggengda。shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？

那麼，女性怎样在婚姻生活中去了解男性的心态需求呢？

 zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？nanxingyunvxingbuyiyang，tamenzaiyuyandebiaoshushangbibushangnvshi。yincixuduo shijian，renmenjiandaodequanshilaopozaishushuozishendeniantouhetihui，zhangfuyizhizuozheyipangjianmobuyan。shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？

 zheijiuyiweizhezhe，xuduo hunlianwentibingbushidanyikaotishengfufugoutongjiaoliujiunengchulide。dangninengjiandaonanxingdexintaizhuangtaitedian，neimaniduinanxingdexuduo zhuyaobiaoxianyexuyeyougengweibuyiyangdelejie。

 xiaolwanhunwunianduole，yuzhangfushidaxuetongxue。jiehunhoufufulianggerenpingzhezishendegongzuonenglishanghaishiqumailaifang，gongzuozhongdoufeichanghao。danbansuizhebicigongzuodoujinrulegaosuzengzhangqi，meishijiangujizhaoliaolingyifang，meishijiawuhuo。fenqijiucongzheizhonglingxingsuoshigangkaishikuosan，zhizhifufugangkaishilengbaoli。

 xiaol：“shanggexingqijiujianghao，jinriyiqiquwoniangjiaren。wohaizhunbeihaowaichule，kenihuanshimantengtengde，nidaodishayisi？buyuansuihoujiushuo！”

 zhangfu：“niyelejiewojielianjiabanjiadian，nannengkeguilibaitianxiangxiexi。woyijingtongyiheniyiqiqule，nizongneimecui，fanbufan？”

 xiaol：“nizhiqianshigebanshiyoufangan、gaoxiaolvderen，ruhebianneiyangle？bieyiweiwoyuanlaoneimecui？nimeisuihoumeiqu，woyizaoyinengwaichule。”

zhangfu：“xing，neiwobuqule。nizijiquba。”

xiaol：“nishenmeyisi？nirujinyidianyebugaoduzhongshiwole。”

zhangfu：“suiyinizenmeshuo，wowusuowei”。

xuduo hunyinshenghuochuxiannantidefufuhuihua，mashanghuishizheileizhanzhengshengjishidegoutongjiaoliu。

neima，jiaruyongxintaizhuangtaideshijiaoqujiangjienanxingdefanying，zuoweilaopohuiyounaxiebuyiyangdejiejuefangshini？

一、否定，归属于心态状态自我防御机制

 yuefarenmenxinlizaihudeexingshijian，renmenyuejiaolvbuan。yinciyidanzheixiezaihudeexingshijianzaoshoubierenyuyanjingongshi，renmenmashanghuiyi“fouding”defangshilaikaizhanxintaifangyu。shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？

 birurenmentanleyigegaoshuaifudenanpengyou，shenpangdepenyoudouhenxianmujidu。zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？danzaiwomengengaoshuaifufenshouhou，jiusuanneixinhennanshou，ruguoyoupenyouxunwendaoshi，renmenhuiqiangchengzheshuo：“meiyoushenme，qingganzhishi，bieyiweineimazhong”。danhuilaiyihou，youyuzheigangadeshibeipenyoutanji，youyinqileninhaoyizhendenanguo。

zheijiushixintaizhuangtaiziwofangyujizhideyunxing，tanenggouxiezhurenmenhuanjiexinlidetongchu，weichizaishangwuhuodongzhongdediaozhengqingxu。

 nvshizhuzhongganqing，nanshigengzhongqingmian。zhenduiyaomianzidenanshieryan，yehuijingchangyunyongfangyulixintaizhuangtai。rutongxiaolshuotadezhangfuyuanlaishigebanshitiaoliqingxi，gaoxiaolvderen，zenyangzaihuiyihoujiubianchengyigebanshituola，shuohuabusuanshuderen。

 tadezhangfujinguanshuo：“suiyinizenmeshuo，wowusuowei”，dancongzheihuazhongnenggoujiandaonanxingyingyonglexintaizhuangtaiziwofangyujizhi。huanjuhuashuo，xifuduitayinxiangdebianhua，tashihenzaihude，erqieyebeixifuchangshuodezheihuajishanglaidao。

neima，renmenzenyangkeyibuzaisunhaidaolingyifangtihuideqiantitiaojianxia，biaoshuchurenmenqidailingyifangnengzuodeshini？

二、提升共情力，让男性觉得你可以了解他

 gongqinglizhideshiyizhongkeyilizaibierenshijiao，jiejinsuonengtihuibierenjingyudegongzuonengli。yejiushifangfoyizhetarendexiexingzouyiyang，nikeyitihuilingyifangchuanxiezidejuede。

 zheileigongqinglibixuniyizhizaigoutongjiaoliushijuyouxixin。youyuyiweimeiyounaixindegoutongjiaoliuzhe，yiban zhizaihuzishenxiangbiaoshudeneirong。

 zaijuyoulexixinyihou，ninengzhuyilingyifangdexintai。feichangjiandandetonglixinfangshi，jiushishuofanfulingyifangyujuzhongdeguanjianhuanjie。yidannifanfumeicuozheizhongguanjianhuanjie，jiunengranglingyifangganshoudaoniduitadezaihu。

xiaoljiarukeyibaozhengzheiyidian，gusuanjiunenggenzhangfuyiqihuanhuanxixidizouniangjiale。

 xiaol：“shanggexingqijiujianghao，jinriyiqiquwoniangjiaren。wohaizhunbeihaowaichule，kenihuanshimantengtengde，nidaodishayisi？buyuansuihoujiushuo！”

 zhangfu：“niyelejiewojielianjiabanjiadian，nannengkeguilibaitianxiangxiexi。woyijingtongyiheniyiqiqule，nizongneimecui，fanbufan？”

xiaol：“shi。yiqianniyizhijiabanjiadian，nannengkeguiyouyigelibaitian。nihaowuyiwentexiangxiexi。”

zhangfu：“duia。wojintiancouhezhanqilaide。jiarufangkuanleshui，yidinghuixinglaidaxiawu。”

 xiaol：“nihenxiangzaicirushui，youyuzaochencouhezishenxinglai，jinijuedetinglei。doushiyouyuwohaizaicuini，jinimeiyouxiexihao。”

 zhangfu：“yebieneimeshuo，jiushiwoyiqiantongyinideshi。neiyang，nizaibangwosanshifenzhong，yaowoxishujianyixia。suihourenmenjiukaolv”。

 xiaol：“en，haode。neirenmenjinrijiuzaodianhuilai，niyebazaozaoxiuxile。qiahaozhongfanzaiwofumujiachi，yeshengdewomenzaizhufanle”。

丈夫：“行”。

 yiyangkaishidefufuhuihua，zaixifujuyoulexixinyutonglixinyihou，zhangfudexintaiyecongyiqiandedichubianchengletongyixianghupeihe。

 hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？zheijiushizailejielenanxingxintaixuqiuyihou，conghuixifudeyingduifangshi。jianxinniyizhizaiyingyonglezheilianggefangfahou，wulunshitanlianaihuozhehunyinshenghuo，dounengjinitisexuduo。