夫妻婚后冷战怎么办？怎么修复婚姻中的冷漠

 hunhoulengzhanzenmeban？xuduodehunyinshenghuozailijingliangnianpingdandeshenghuoyihou，ruguobuduofangmiangaoduzhongshihuoshimingbairuhequlengzangaiqingdehua，neimahunyinshenghuohaowuyiwenfeichangrongyiyuelaiyuebingliang。binglengdehunyinshenghuoyoushihuilingrenjuedeshiluo，jianjiandihunyinshenghuojiubianweiliangrendeshufule。neimayingdangzenyangcaikeyixiububinglengdehunyinshenghuoni?lengbaolifenshouzenmechuli？jiatingbaolilihundezhengquefangfayounaxie？

第一步：我从哪里来

 danbuguannanrennvrenzhishennazhongdiwei、gangwei，hunhoulengzhanzenmeban？zaiwomenzaihunyinguanxizhongzaoshoulejiatinglengbaolihuoshizaoshoulelingyibandepanbian，renmenganshoudaodetongchushiyiyangde，dansuoyourentongchudegenbenyuanyinhedianyeshibuyiyangde，zheiyeshiwomenyutarenbuyiyangdediqu。lengbaolifenshouzenmechuli？jiatingbaolilihundezhengquefangfayounaxie？

 womenyaozuodeshiqurenshiziji，suoyourenchangyourenshizijidefangfa，xuduorenkankanshu、quhetarengoutongjiaoliu、quhezishendeqingganzhuanjiatan、qutinggezhonggeyangkechengneirong、qumingxiangxunlianzheixie，fangfabuzhongyaoerguanjiandeshixunzhaoshuyunizishendeneibianyushijingzi，lejienizijidaodishishei。

第二步：探索实情来找寻更改的将会

 ruguoniyoushijianjingxiaxinlaihezishendaizaiyiqi，nicaihaiyoujihuiqusikaobenshen。gengguanjiandeshinikeyirongxuzishendaizhurujindejiannanhenantizaicixiangqianzou。

 nidezaiqianyishizhongjueceshenmeyuanguweihailenihuoshixiandingleni，xianjienatayizhidouzhenzhengdecunyouzhe，danlingwaijiandaoninengjuecexubuxuyaorangtabuduanqigongxiao。ninengquzhangwoyuanshengjiazhong，lejieshishenmeyangderenheshizaiweihaizhezishen，nenggourenshizijijiujingjingliguonaxie，zishenshizenyangjiangjiede。

 lingwaigaozhizishenwoshichengrenle，wonengerqieyougongzuonengliyingduizheiyiqie。wonengzaicichuangshezheiyiqielaizaicijiangjieshengmingdegushi，wonengbayigepianxiangbuxingdexiaogushibianweixijupian。

 yincizheiyiquanguochengbingbushizhuibensuyuan，xunzhaoyiwumubiaoneimejianyi，zishengengyingdanglejieshiqing，yaolejiediaojiededianyuankaiguanzainaer。

第三步：打开和另一方的间距

 hunhoulengzhanzenmeban？nizuiqipanhelianrenzhenxinchengyidihaohaoditanyitanquetongchanggenzishendexiwangyamiaozhuzhang。zheigeshihouduinieryanshidefangfajiushishuoshenmeshidoubuzuo，danzheizaihunyinshenghuozhongganghaoshijiaonande。

 renmenjinguanhenpalingyifangfanghuzishenhuoshibuyuanyiqinmijiechuzishen，keshidangtabuduandishifanglengqijishi，jiaruniyaofangzhibeishoudongjiubixuwangdaotui。wangdaotuishinicaihuifajueyuanxianshenpangyeyou“aifengji”、“zhongyangkongdiao”，huoshichuangqiangengshichunguangmingmeinenggou kaichuangtongfeng。

 lingyifangdaqizheidaobingliangdeqiangjinjinxiangbuxuniaijin。dangniwanghoumiantuiyibudehua，tazhidaonikendingbuhuiaijintahuoxumashanghuiquhuizheidubinglengdeqiang。jinguandajiadejianjumeiyoujianshao，dandajiazhengzhongjianjiangdileyidaobingliangdegejue。lengbaolifenshouzenmechuli？jiatingbaolilihundezhengquefangfayounaxie？

 zheizhenduidajiaxiufuhunyinguanlianshiyizhongcelvedehuanjie。youshi，shuyuanshiyizhongshujuxinhao，qidifufusisuo，zheiyeshigengshiyouyufuqijianbixuyixiejianju，laijingdinghesisuozishen，suihouzaiyishengjideqingkuangyingduihunyinshenghuo。

 dangshengshuganlailadeqingkuangxia，zuixianbiezheji，hunyinshenghuoshiyishengdeshier，zaisuonanmianzaiquanguochengzhongpengdaocuobai，hunyinshenghuodebuanquangan，jiushishuohunyinshenghuozhongdexiaocuobai，zuixianjieshoucuobaidecunyou，suihoupingjingxialai，pouxikeguanxingziranhuanjing，pouxizishendeyuangu，kanyixiazishenzainayifangmiancunzaidewenti。

第四步：找寻資源

 nideyuanshengjiazhongjinguanyerangzishenduoduoshaoshaoshouleshang，danshijishangtamenyeyizhizaiyongtamendefangfazhichini，jiukanzhenishixiangyaotiaoxuanjiandaohuanshikanbujian。

 suoyourendounenggouyikaoziji。womennenggou yigerenzailushang，yedounenggouyouyuzishendegenggailaiweihaibierenhuoshiweihaiyiduanguanlian。yaoshizaiwomenfajuelezishendenengliang，zaicixunhuizishendedianlinengyuan，zhaodaozailizhiqingkuangxiadelixing，renmenmashanghuifajueyiqianganjuechedibukeyixiaochubinglengdehunyinshenghuoshang，shijishangyouhenduojianxi，bingqieyoudediquhouyoudediquboyoutishengdeshineikongjian。

 renmenyeyou“aifengji”he“zhongyangkongdiao”，youhenduonenggou yunyongdenengliangyouhuoshirenmenzishenjiushishuoshuhuodeshentisuzhi。henkeshideshixuduopenyouzaimeiyouxunzhaoziyuanyiqianjiuqinglvtiaorulejiejiuzishendeqinfenzhong，yeyixiepenyouzaimeiyouhenantibaochijulideqingkuangxiajiuluanyonglezishendeziyuan。

第五步：积极主动的沟通交流

 hunyinshenghuolidegoutongjiaoliuhenyouxiaoyeshibidingde，dangoutongjiaoliubingbushiquannengde。zhinengzaiwomenlejielezishendeziyuanhenantideqingkuangxia，zaiqudakaigoutongjiaoliucaihuiheli。youderenrenweigoutongjiaoliujiushishuoyaoxiangranglingyifangjienazishendeniantou，keshixiangduinishuozheibingbingbushizhenshideyouxiaodegoutong。

 youderenhuibeizishennaonuzhongdelianrenwanquanjiaruheimingdan：weixinlahei、qqjiaruheimingdan，yemeibanfabazijixiangshuodehuachuansongjilingyifang。zheijiushigoutongjiaoliuzhunbeigongzuozuodehaibugoudeshujuxinhao。

 ruguowomenkeyizhunbeihaonaixindihebierenyingduigoutongjiaoliu，rongxulingyifangshuoyixiehuaerqiezuizhongyaodeshirenmenduigoutongjiaoliudejieguobuzuoyuzhi。renmenhuifajueshijishanggoutongjiaoliudoumeiyouyiqianxiangdeneiban，xiangchuzaijiatinglengbaoliqingkuangqingkuangxianeimanan。

 rendaolengbaolibiaoshichuqudexuduohuayebulijingrendedanao，rutongzheizhongwuqizhuangbeiyiyangkanshangquchaonaoshengfanhua，shijishangshijiatinglengbaolidejiajuban，neiyangdegoutongjiaoliubujiaojijizhudonggoutongjiaoliuerjiaofuxinggoutongjiaoliu。

 xuduopenyoudehunyinxiufuzhitujiushishuoyaowangzaigoutongjiaoliuzheiyijieduanshangde，yaobushiguoduodegoutongjiaoliu，yaobushihuimiexingdegoutongjiaoliu。

第六步：做正确的事情

 hunyinshenghuozhongderenmenjingchanghuixiayishichezhulingyifangfancuodeshierhuoshikuijiuzishenzuochumeiyouyiyishier。danzaihunyinxiufudequanguochengzhongbixuwomenquzuoduideshier，zuobujiangfendeshierhuoshiquzuodadajiafendeqinfen。zaiwomendouchixushengwendeqingkuangxia，huifajuerenmenbicibenzhidenengliangdouhuizhonggui，zheishihoujiukeyijianjiandigouqirenmendexintaiziben。

 lirukailang、jiaozong、xinxin、qidaideng。zaiwomenshiqixinxin、ranqiduiyishizhuxingdeqidai，keyijienaxiufushiwanyanquzhexiangqian，jianxinrenmendeqinfenhuichanshenghaodejieguo，renmenduijianglaitianmanxinxincaihuijianxinhuakaibingqiangzhihou，zaicipengdaodelianrenshigengqiangdeta，huakaibingqiangderenmenyeshideziji。neiyangdehunyinxiufucaigengyouyiyi。

 liangren,zouzaiyiqi,youjinshengqianshideyuanfen,yeshiwanbanwunaidetiaoxuan.danshiyidanniqueshibeikuangrushehuifazhanshufuzhong,niyejiubushiyigerenzaixingzou,nishiyaoduihenrenchengdande.jiuruwomenbukenrenkezishendexuqingjiayiyiyang.keguanshishirenmensuoyourenqueshiguodeyoudianerxu.youwukenaihede,youzhenchengde，yebixude.renmenwubizunxunyishizhuxingdeyaoqiu。

 duoshaoshishirenmennengzuode,bukeyizuode.womenyaodangxindeyingdui,yongxindekandai.zheiyeshiwomendou,weihezongneimafeichangrongyijuedeleideyuanguba!dangnibugancongtoulaiguo,jiubuyaojinidehunyinshenghuolaidaowunai.

 dangnideyishizhuxingbingbushidejianbushangyisimingliang.neimaqingdajiaqianwanbiexiangaixiangsha,neibandeshang,jiushishuoshijianyenanzhegaitadechoue.womencongbujuedezishenshizuilandenage，danyoushihou,renmenqueshiquechundebushufu.zigaozidadejiaozongzhizhe,jingchanglingrenyumenliaoraohaozhangshijian。

 hunyinshenghuozhong,renmendeganxinghelixingchangzuozhelajuyiyangdouzheng.yeshixuduodexinhan,shirenmenpanghuangzaimenkanbianyan.kuayiwang,yexushilingyigeqiankun,gengkenengshinenggou yucefenxidaodekuangfengbaoyu.tuiyibu,caisuanshizhenshidekaikuotiankong.ninengfajuedaliangdexiyuequjueyunidezheiyinianzhijian.

 hunhoulengzhanzenmeban？meiyouyibeizibuzhengzhidefufu.suyushuodashiqin,mashiai,yeshiyouyidingdedadaolide!jiaruyunibaitouxielaoyishengzaiyiqideren,yitiandaowanshiniruguoluren,nineixinbufamaocaiguai.xingfujiuhuiyouhen,xingfujiuhuiyouguiding,youguidingjiuhuiyouxinhandecunyou.biejinidejuedefamale,youganjuedeyishizhuxingcaisuanshifengfuduocaide,suirantayouneimeduorenmentaoyandexiangla.renmenmeiyigerenchangyouduoduoshaoshaodequedian.yincirenmenyewubiyaojienazishenzhiwaidequehan,baorongdekandainidehunyinshenghuo,baitouxielaobainianlao,jiuburongyishiyijukongtan。