冷战是什么意思？夫妻之间总是吵架怎么办？学会做好这几件事

 chuduixiangdeqingkuangxia，qinglvzhijianchangchanghuizhengchao。danglianggerentarulehunyinshenghuodeqianzhongshuweicheng，zhengchaoyeshiwukebimian。lengzhanshishenmeyisi？youdefufuwutianyidachao，santianyixiaochao，gengbijiaoyanzhongdenaizhimeiridoushizhengchao，yijuhuashuobuduimashanghuizhaolaiyichangguogongneizhan。wenxuejialinyutangcengshuo：“jiashehunyinshenghuozhongdedajiabuzhengchao，yidianerrenweierdoumeile，erruhechaojiazeshiyimenzaoxingyishu。”yudaojiabaodezhengquezuofayounaxie？zaoyujiatingbaolizenmeban？

 lengzhanshishenmeyisi？fufuzaihunyinshenghuozhongjiaowang，changchangfashengzhengzhizhuangji，zhengchaoyehenyiqiezhengchang。keshizhengchaodepinciduolemashanghuishangzheqinggan，fuqijiandeqingfenyulaiyushengshu。yudaojiabaodezhengquezuofayounaxie？zaoyujiatingbaolizenmeban？

 mhezzaibierenyanzhongshiyiduierxiangaidexiaoliangkou，zhinengtamenzijilejiezaijializhenshideshenghuozhuangtai。liangrenquanshihenaijiaozhenerderen，danglianggerenduiyijianshideguandianjianyihebulaishi，mashanghuizhengchaobanzui。tamenrutongerzhicangshu，yongdeshenshangyingshideci，zhongzhongdizhaxianglingyifang。

 myizhibaoyuanzbuguanzhezishen，erzyeganjuemmanhengwuli。zaizhengchaomengliedeqingkuangxia，sheiyebuyuandixiatoufushu，tamendoujuedeyaoshisheixianchengrencuowu，sheijiushudiao。

neiyangdehunhoushenghuoranglianggerenbeiganpijuan，youzhaobuzhechulidehaofangfa，xianruyuhunyinshenghuotongchudangzhongwufaziba。

 shijishangtamendehunyinshenghuoqingkuangyeshidabufenfufudeyishizhuxingzhenshixiezhao，zhengchaohuishiyishizhuxingduoyixieyanhuoqi。danjiaruzhengchaodedumeiyoubawohao，huidaozhiqianjiadebuliangyingxiang。

neimahunyinshenghuozhongyouyujianyihebulai，fuqijianyizhizhengchaozenmebanni？

第一，建议不和，不必一张口就斥责

 suoyourenyishizhuxingdeziranhuanjingbuyiyang，renshengjiazhiguanbuyiyang，yinerduishiqingdeguandianyebuyiyang。meiyoubixufeiyaoguidinglingyifanghezishenyizhi，yinerjianyihebulaishi，bubiyizhangkoujiuchize。

jiarubipolingyifanghezishenbaochiyizhi，bumianhuikanqilaiguodumanhengbadaohebuzun。

 zaishehuixintaixueshangyouyigeqianshegerenxingwei，zhideshidangzaoshoujiongjingshi，xiangfancaozongjushi，duijiannanjubeichuangxinxing，caiyongxianxingyibudegerenxingweiqujiejuekunnan。

 youyuchizezongshiehualianggerenzhongjiandefenqi，qibushangyiqiejijizhudongdegongxiao。danjiarunengbaozhenglejielingyifang，xixinlingtinglingyifangdexinlihua，gaoqingchulingyifangzenmehuineiyangxiangneiyangzuo，xianghujiancaikeyigengwennuan。

第二，建议合不来，要有一颗宽容的心

lengzhanshishenmeyisi？hunyinshenghuozhongyaoshimeiyourenshouhekuanrong，neimazheiyiduanguanlian，xunsujiuzoulaidaozuishenchu。

 yangjiangheqianzhongshuxiansheng，zairichangshenghuozhongyechangchangzhengchao，lianggerennaizhihuiyibianyigefayudeyinbiaofayinnaodebuyukuai。dantamenburongyixiangdabufenfufuyiyang，youyuneimeyidingdiansuoshijiudadonggange。yudaojiabaodezhengquezuofayounaxie？zaoyujiatingbaolizenmeban？

dangqianzhongshuzuodeshierhebulaiqingyishi，yangjiangyizhishuomeishier，woneng。bingqieqianzhongshuzaizhengchaoshiyechangchanghuirangzheyangjiang。

youyici，yangjiangjinbuzhuwenqianzhongshu：“weihenimeiyicizhengchaodourangzhewo，kuanrongwoni？”

qianzhongshuxiaozheshuo：“youyunishiwoxinzhongde，jishichaohuoshengyounengruhe，huoshengdadaoli，mashanghuishudiaoqinggan。”

 qianzhongshuzheihuajiangchuleganqingzhongdezuigaojingjie，bubibahunyinshenghuozuoweizhengbiandechangsuo。nikeyigaoqingchu，yunizhengzhideshizheifenairenerbushidiren。renmenqianjiukuanrongyixialingyifang，youyoubufangni？

第三，建议合不来时，要掌握另一方的情感需求

hunhoushenghuozhongnaeryeyouneimeduodejianyihebulai，shuobailehebulaideshenhoushijishangquanshizaibiaoshuzishenxinlideqingganxuqiu。

 dangfufuyouyujianyihebulaizhengchaoshi，shijishangdouqidailingyifangnengrenshizijixinlideganqing。genjuzheileifangfa，qipanhuodelingyifangduizishendeaixi。

《qinmiguanxi》zheibenshuzhongxieshuo，dangxinlideqingganxuqiuwufadedaokaolvshi，jiumingzhongshengyuanqi，guanlianyulaiyushengshu。

 zhangciyiwangmashanghuidelehunyinshenghuoshiyuzheng，xiabanhuijiameihua，meirixianliaodeshijianbugoushifenzhong。ningyuanshuazheshoujishangzaiweixinshanghetarenliaodaohuobao，niyebuyuanyihelianrenshuojuxinlihua。

 yiduanshenxinjiankangdefuqiguanxiyinggaishi，wozhangwoni，binglejieniyaogenjuzheileizhengchaodefangfahuodedaliangdeguanxinheai，shi“cizhongyoushiliangxinzhi”dexinyoulingxi。

第四，坚持不懈大事化小，大事化小的标准

 gongzuoshangyourenmenzunxundezhunze，hunhoushenghuozhongyeyiyang。lianggerenzhongjianzhidingyigebiaozhun，dangpengdaojianyihebulaishi，jianchibuxiedashihuaxiao，dashihuaxiao，caibuhuiranghunyinshenghuomaixiangminmiedegudi。

zhengchaodeqingkuangxiabingbushirenmenbuyuanrangzhelingyifang，zhishineixindexintaizaizuosui。

 zaiwangluoshangcengjiandaoneiyangyiduifuqidexiaogushi，fufudabanzuomaimai，zaisuonanmianpengdaojianyihebulaidezhuangkuang。keshitamenwulunnaxiedefenqiyebuhuizhengqulianhong，pengdaozaidadeshidoushidangzuosuoshiquchuli，erzheixiesuoshixianghuzhijianrangrangyejiuguoqu。

 lengzhanshishenmeyisi？panshiyizaitidaoruhechulipengyouhefufudeshuangzhongguanxishi，yecengneiyangshuoguo：“fufuyidaojianyibuhe，bixuquchuzishendejianjie，bubichaohenzhongyao。”tashiyizhonghunyinshenghuodeconghui，yeshijiejuekunnandeyizhonggongzuonengli。