婚姻中面对冷暴力，你要学会“拒绝”它

 hunyinshenghuobixuwuzhitiaojian，bixuqian。jiarushuozaihunyinshenghuoli，qiannengchulizaiqizhongbaifenzhijiushidenanti，zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？neigoutongjiaoliujiunengchulihunyinshenghuolibaifenzhijiushijiudenanti。shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？

 shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？meiyoucuo，zaihunyinshenghuoli，shijishanggoutongjiaoliubiqiangengguanjian，zhongjiushi2geshenaideren，zhongjiuyiqianyouyiduihutongdexin。zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？yugoutongjiaoliufanguolai，jiatinglengbaolizeshihunyinshenghuozhong“morandetong”，chanshengyongyou“jiatinglengbaoli”dehunyinshenghuo，zuihoudejieguozhiyouyige，neibianshiliekai。

一、什么叫家庭冷暴力

kalaieryouyijumingyan——chenmoshijin，xiongbianshiyin。

 zairichangshenghuozhong，dequeshineiyang，zhongjiurenmenyechangshuo，tuiyibukaikuotiankong。yingduizuolinyoushesuosui，meigerendounengrangyibu，suosuijueduibuhuibianwei“dashier”。

 danhunyinshenghuozhongquebushizheiyang，jianmochanshengdesunhai，bizhengchaodaliang。changchangzaiwangluoshangjiandaolaogonghuoshilaopodongshounenglidexiangguan“jiabao”dexinwenbaodao，shijishangyudongshounengliduibi，“jiatinglengbaoli”deshanghaiyiyangbunengxiaokan，jinjindongshounenglishigongxiaoyuroushen，jiatinglengbaoligongxiaoyuneixin。

 youyiduifuqijiuzheiyang，lianggerenyongyoufenqi，laopojiugangkaishimeihua。buguanlaogongzuoyiqieshi，tadouyiyanbufa，huijuegoutongjiaoliu。meiyicizhizhinongdelaogongshenxinpibei，laopocaishenqishizudexiangzhe：jinirewofahuo，woyebulini。zheijiushihenpubiande“jiatinglengbaoli”。

 “jiatinglengbaoli”yeyouhenduozhongduoyang，lirufuyanleshihuoshihuijuefuqixingshenghuo，lirumeiridoudaizhe，huijuezishendezeren。

二、婚姻生活中怎么会有家庭冷暴力

 jinguanshuotuiyibukaikuotiankong，danmeiyicipengdaozhengchaoquanshixiang“ying”，tashirendebenzhi。youqishizaihunyinshenghuodangzhong，yingduilingyiban，youderenxinliyeyou“yaobudongfengyadaoxifeng，yaobuxifengnianguochefeng”deniantou。

hunyinshenghuobianshiliangrenxiezuoguoyishengdequanguocheng，zhinenghexiexiangchu，zheiyishengcaikeyixingfumeiman。

keshixuduorenyebuneimexiang，lirusongtong。

 songtongjiagelixuesongshi，muqinjiuqiaoqiaogaozhitale，laidaopopoyaozhangwozhulaogongdegenji——qian，gengyingshiyiqiefangshi ranglaogongcongming，zhinenglaogongcongming，nizheiyibeizicaikeyixingfukuaile，caikeyigengqiang，binglaijiaosongtongyige“jueji”。

 zaijiehunhou，songtongqixianyunyonglaogongdexinlaiyuai，qudelejiazhongdejingjifazhanquan。youzhushiduilaogongshiya，yiqiunengranglaogongcongming。keneiyangyiguodabannian，laogongde“fantiao”yuelaiyueyanzhong。yincisongtongjiuquchumuqinjiaode“jueji”——meilita，jiaruhaibuhao，jiuhuijueyutaguoxingshenghuo。

 jiushizheiyang，lixuesongxunsushiruo，congming。songtongyedeyiwangxing，juedezaoyikongzhizhulelixuesong。shenmeshilengbaoli？hunhoulengzhangaizenmechuli？

 yihoumeiyicilianggerenyouzhengchao，songtongmashangjiubengzhelianmeihua，yigerendaizaifangjiannei，huijueyulixuesongdeyiqiegoutongjiaoliuyuchupeng。

 danhunyinshenghuobushizheiyangguodea，lianggerenzhongjiandeqinggan，yebansuizhesongtongyiciyouyicide“jiatinglengbaoli”，eryuelaiyuecuiruo。zuihoulixuesongchengshoubushang，lijimingquetichuleliyi。zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？danglihunxieyiqudesongtongyanxiashi，tacaihuangle，danyushiwubu，lixuesongduisongtongzaoyimeiyouyidianqinggankexun。

 hunyinshenghuozhongchuxian“jiatinglengbaoli”deyuanguxuduo，ersuoshuzheileiyuangu，shizuijiduande。yibiancaokongjiazhongdejuecequan，jiurenweiyinsudishengchanzhizao“jiatinglengbaoli”。zheileifangshi budandanshinvshiyingyong，xuduonanshiyehuiyoumudediyingyong。

 keshi“jiatinglengbaoli”deyuanguquebuzhishizheiyizhong，yixienanshenghuoshinvxingyouyubuyuanzhengzhi，buyuanyouzhengyi，jiubuyouzizhudibikai，xiangzhidaoxianghudoulizhiyihou，zaikaizhangoutongjiaoliu。zheijiushiyizhongpugongde“jiatinglengbaoli”。

 yeyouderen，shiyagenmeiyouyishidaozishenzaiyingyong“jiatinglengbaoli”，zheileijuedaduoshushijiatingguanxidewenhuajiaoyuduzhi，chanshengdebuliangyingxiang。

三、家庭冷暴力会给婚姻生活产生哪些伤害

 renshiyizhongbixujianghua，bixugoutongjiaoliudeweishengwu，fufuyeshibixuqinjindeguanlian。jiaruohuijuegoutongjiaoliu，huijuechupeng。huirangfufuerrenjunzaochengxinliweiqu，meiyourenhaotandejuede。zheigeshihouduixianghudezhongshishiyigemolian。xunsudijiejuekunnan，xiufuruchujianhaixing，ruozhangjiuyiwang，laopodelikai，laogongdepanbian，hunyinshenghuodeliekai，bianshibuliangyingxiang。

 yaoshimeiyouxiaohaihaixing，“jiatinglengbaoli”zhiyougongxiaozaixianghudeshenshang，eguozishenchi，yesuanzuogongpinggongzheng。ruoyongyouxiaohai，huoshixiaohaizaoyiyongyouzishendeguannianyuguannian，nei“jiatinglengbaoli”duixiaohaidesunhaishiwufaguliangde。zaizheileiziranhuanjingxiachengcaiqilaidexiaohai，yeyouhenxianzhudeneixiang、aishengqi、buzixin、feichangrongyishiyongbaolizheijileizhuangkuang。

 “jiatinglengbaoli”yongshehuixintaixuedejiaofa，shijishangbianshiyizhong“jingshenshizhilingnve”，feichangrongyiwaiqurendeneixin。yingshedaoshijigerenxingwei，bianshiyoukenengpianji，feichangrongyishiyongbaoli。xuduo“jiazhongexingshijian”，bianshiyouyuzaoqide“jiatinglengbaoli”daozhi。

四、怎么消除家庭冷暴力

“jiatinglengbaoli”shiyizhongyirufanzhangjiunengyingyongdegerenxingwei，bingqieshijixiaoguohaitingbucuo，yincifeichangrongyizaochengyikao。

 huijuegoutongjiaoliu，shi“jiatinglengbaoli”zuixianzhudefangshi，youkenengshiyouyubuyuangoutongjiaoliu，yeshiyoujianghuishiyouyudanxinyueshuoyueqi。

 congyuganjue，goutongjiaoliushiyidingbukeyiduande，womennenggouyingyongxiexiaozhitiao、faxinxi、faweixindefangfalaikaizhanjianjiexinggoutongjiaoliu，queshibuhao，neimejiushiyixiaxie“biaobaixin”zheileifangfa。

 qingchujiatinglengbaolishijishanghenpugong，youyushierzaoyichansheng。shidefangshi bianshi“fangfanyuweiran”，zai“jiatinglengbaoli”chanshengyiqianjiubataqiamiezaimengyaqihuanjie。

 liruzaienaidejibenshang，xianghuzhijianqianjiu，huxiangzunzhong。nenggoutizaoyaoqiu：jishizhengzhichanshengshi，xianghubukeyilizhi，neilizhiyihouhaiyaoxianghuzhijianzhiqian，suihouzailixingdejiejuekunnan。

 liruzaijiehunqianjiuduilingyibandejiazhongkaizhanyanjiu，youderenzhendeshibuqingchushenmeshi“jiatinglengbaoli”，bianshiyouyujiatingguanxideduzhi。jiaruzailingyifangdejiazhonglifajuexuduobukexueyaosu，neijiuxuyaoxixinkaolvyixiazishendehunyinshenghuole，yaobuhuijuehunyinshenghuo，yaobuzhunbeihaoyu“jiatinglengbaoli”jueyisizhan。

 zenmechulijiatinglengbaoli？hunyinshenghuoshiyizhonggenjuqinggandedutehezuoguanxi，zhendishiyiqigongduyusheng。qidaidajiadounenggenjuqinggan，“xiezuo”daobaitou。