面对家庭冷暴力，怎么才能正确处理

 fuqijiandejiatinglengbaoliruhequchuli？renmenzuixianxukanshenmeshijiatinglengbaoli？jiatinglengbaolidedingyishishenme？yibandezhuangkuangxia，renmenshuojiatinglengbaolishifuqijianpengdaolefenqimaodun，dahuoercaiyongdezheiyifangfashitaobi、shilengmo、shishengshu。yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？lengbaolishishenmeyisi？

 jiatinglengbaolidedingyishishenme？neizheigewentizaicirangtazhanxianzaizheigedifangbuchuli，neimabuchulidemudishishishanghuanshiyaochuli，shitalaihuoli，huodeshenmeyi？yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？lengbaolishishenmeyisi？

 wobuxiangquyingduizheigewenti，woyeyongjiatinglengbaolidezheiyifangfashengshunidefangfa，taobidefangfa，bazheigewentijiutangguoqu，zheijiushiwomenjingchangshuodejiatinglengbaoli。

 yinciwomenyaolejie，dangzhidaozheiyijiatinglengbaolideqingkuangxia，niyejiuhuilejietayongzheiyifangfalai，tashilaitaobizheigewenti，tashiyaoxiangbazheigewentihunguoqu，tashizhishangeryantananyijiejueneiyangdenanti，huoshishishuowochulidele，keshiwoyebuyuanchuli，youyuwobuyuanyinuli。

 yinciruguonilejieneiyangyigetexingdehua，neirenmenzaikanlaijiatinglengbaoli。jiatinglengbaolitayaoxiangganshani？jiufanhuizheiyijiedinglibianqu。

 jiatinglengbaolirenmenshuodiyigefangfajiushiwodequeshushouwuce，bingqiewoyoumeiyoushiminggan，yemeiyougongzuonengli，woyizhimeiyoushimingganderen，suoyiwopengdaoleneiyangdenanti，woyexianruxialai，zuandaodixuelibianqu。tashibierenmeiyougongzuonengli，meiyouyiwu。

 renmenshuoyouyixierenmeiyougongzuonengli，keshitayouyiwuderen，tayehuiquxiangjinbanfalaichuli，naizhishuoyemeiyougongzuonengli，neishiwoxurongxin，huanjuhuashuoshiwoyiwu。

 neizaineiyangdeyigezhuangkuangxia，wogennichao，wogenninao，jiufangforenmenshuonizuodefanshibuhaochi，neiyouyibufenrendejiatinglengbaolitacaiyongdeshishafangshini？

 wobuzaihunizuodoubuhaochi，neiwoyedaowaibianchi。youyixierennizuodebuhaochi，woyegennishuoyanduole，youduole，huoshishiruhe，neitahuigenniquchao，tabukeyibiaoshutadeyixiang，taguidingruhe。neimeiyougongzuonengli，meiyouyiwuderenbuguiding，likaile、dianle，zheijiushitacaiyongzheiyifangfa。

 diergezhongleiderentagansha？tashihenqinfen，henqinfen，qinfenleyihoumeiyouyong，gennijiangmeiyouyong，gennishuomeiyouyong，genninaomeiyouyong，naizhigenniqumingquetichuliyimeiyouyong，genniliangdifenjudoumeiyouyong，naizhitapanbian，zheigeshihounicaigaoduzhongshiqilai。yincirenmenshijishangzheiyangderenmanduode，fuqijianyinweishenme？

 youyushipoxizhijiandenanti，zheigenanrenjiuxiwangniduitamamahaoyidian，jieguoniyejiuganjuenagelaopopobutaihao。jiatinglengbaolidedingyishishenme？neimaniyeyoukenengganjuezheiyizhangfubutaihao，zheiyibaomananhuoshizenyang。

 haola，nineiyangdezhuangkuangxiagentachixudequzhengchao，yikaishijianghuinizhangfuhaigennichaolaichaoqu，laidaohoubian，taganjuewoganshenmeyaogennichao，wozenmegennishuonidouburongyixiaoshunwomama，wozenmegennishuonidoushuowoshimabaonanhaola，wogenniliyikebukeyi？

 huanjuhuashuonineiyangneiyangdehua，wozaibugennijianghua，liyineihuanshiyigerebaoli，neijiushigennixuanzhan，tadoubugenniliyi，gennifenfang，fenfangbuhao，liangdifenju。zailiangdifenjubuhao，taqiaoqiaodizaiwaimianquzhaonvyou，guozishendeyishizhuxingqu，nihaibuzhidao？

 neinijiujiandaoneiyangyizhongjiatinglengbaolishihoubianxidexingderenbaoli，jiushitagennizhongjiandezheiyihudongjiaoliu，hudongjiaoliulaihudongjiaoliu，quchaolaichaoqu，youzhiqianchaonaoshengjiquanbuning，daoxianzaitingzhi，henduorenshuorenmenfuqiganqinghaixingde，shishishangjiaoshengshule。

 woduinimeiyoutanqiule，woduinishiluole，wokanbujianjianglaile，neimewoyoumeiyougongzuonengli，huoshimeiyouniantouyaoquliyi，jiuneimecouhezheba，neimenizheilihaiganjuehao，neizheiyizhongjiatinglengbaolixiangxinhenduorendouyudaoguo。yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？lengbaolishishenmeyisi？

 disanzhongjiatinglengbaolitabushishuogennizhongjianzaochengdenanti，shitadebabamamaneibianbianshijiatinglengbaolidefangfa，neitaxiguanzheileijiatinglengbaolidefangfa，tajiandaojiatinglengbaolidefangfanengjiejuekunnan，tayehenfanganjiatinglengbaoli，keshitagenniyizhizaifuqiguanxizhizhong，youyumouyidiqukaiqileta，zaochengtaqidonglejiatinglengbaolidezheiyifangyulifangshi。

 liruyouyuqinziyoudezheigewenti，tagennizheilishuonizenmewulunxiaohai？tababamamahunyinshenghuodezheiyifangshilibianjiuchuxianguotamamachizetababa，zaochengtamenzaochengdebaoli，tajiujiangniduibishanglaile，haola，tayegangkaishigennijiatinglengbaoli。

 tashishuonitashiyitababamamaneilixidede，qiahaodajiazhongjiandezheiyihudongjiaoliuzaochengleyigefenqi，zheiyiziwofangyujizhikaiqile，haola，tagenniyizhizaizheiyangzilaigaoxialai，zheishiyitababamamaneilixidedeyizhongjiatinglengbaoli。

 disizhongjiatinglengbaolinirenmenjingchangyoudeqingkuangxiahuirenweitashijiatinglengbaoli，shishishangbierenbingbushi，birushuozheigerenbuaishuohua，birushuozheigerenfanyingbijiaoman，neizaineiyangyigezhuangkuangxiabian，tayuanbenneixiangxing，tashuoshiduoshaoju，tazongsuanhuiyingniyiju，jieguoniyulaiyuyanfan，tadouhaimeihuiyingnimeiduojiupushanglai，haola，tayourangnidafu，shuobuchukou，jiangbushang，zaineiyangyigezhuangkuangxia，neimenixiangyixiangtagaizenmeban？tabianhuibeinibianweiyigejiatinglengbaolideren。

 shishishangtajinjinbuaishuohua，fanyingmanyidian，niyouxinjini，youganjuetameijianghuahaola，neinijiujitamenjiedingjiatinglengbaoli，taqueshuoa，woshijiatinglengbaoli，neimejiujiatinglengbaoli，zheiyizhongzhuangkuangrenmenshijishangchangchangyehuichuxian。

 diwuzhongyeshihenduorenhuihushidiaode，jiuzheigexintaiguochengchuxianleyidingdezuai，huoshichuxianleyidingdexintaijiankangwenti，birushuotatongkule，dangtayingduifuqijiandezheizhongfenqimaodundeqingkuangxia，tayuanbenjiutongkuzheng，tazaiwaibiantongkuzheng，tahuidaojialibian，tayuanbenjiuxuyaowangxiazhui，dajialiangrenfashengzhengzhimaodun，tayijingliaozishendeshang，tayijingyingduizishendenanti，zaineiyangyigezhuangkuangxia，yeshiyongjiatinglengbaolidefangshicunyou，gaizenmeban？

 ruguonigentazaicifashengzhengzhimaodundeqingkuangxia，tabianhuiganshenme？tabianhuixintaibingjiaju，neihuizaochengnigengweiganjueshijiatinglengbaoli，yinciyouderenjiuyouyuzheiyiguanlian，naizhizheigerenjiuyaozijin，changyoujianghui。

 renmenshuopengdaolezhangfu，gennizhongjianzaochenglejiatinglengbaoli，nikeyiyizhaozheiyiheduiqukanyixiatajiujingshinagezhongleide。renmenshuojiarufajuetashixintaibingzhongleide，neimashiyaogentayiqiqukanxintaiyisheng，yaodaoyiyuanmenzhenqude，youkenengyaofuyaode，tashihenbubiandeyijianshiqing，yaogankuai。

 ziranhenduorentashuowomeibing，tashuobingbushiyoubingmeibing，shiwomenyaoquneilikanyikan，meibingshi，shishishangtazijineixinhenqingxi。

changchangyouhenduorenshishishangtahuiquchade，soujiziliaochalaichaqu，tachachutazijishizheiyangzi，tabuyuanyiquyingdui。

 youhenduoderenjuedexintaijiankangwentizishennengchuli，wojuedegendahuoerjiangle，dabufenxintaijiankangwentizishennengchuli，danshidangxintaijiankangwentibijiaoyanzhong，naizhishuobianchenglexintaibingdeqingkuangxia，gaozhidahuoerninanyijiejuede，nishibixujishuzhuanyederenyuannengrangnizuoyizhide，tashirenmenfeichangyaogaoduzhongshideyijianshiqing。

 renmenshuopengdaoneileinipingdingtashijiatinglengbaolideren，shishishangbierenbingbushijiatinglengbaolide，neishijishangjiejueqilaiyehenhaonong，youyuniganlezheiyiquezhen,zhiqianwolaogongjiubuzhidaozenmeliaotian，chuduixiangdeqingkuangxiadoubutaijianghua，neiwanhunyihoujianghuagengshaole，neijiushihenyiqiezhengchangde。

 youyujianghuaduoderenhunyinshenghuolibiantayehuiyuelaiyuehuashaoyidian，henyiqiezhengchang。neizheigeshihouniyaoshidiaojieyixianidetanqiudesulv，nijiangnidebiaoshujianmanyidian，jidaotayigefanying，neitadangranjiukeyijiejue。renmenduiyuqianbianchuxiandezheizhongnantidezhuangkuangxia，neiwomenyaoruhelaijiejue？

最先第一个我们都是要来摆脱家庭冷暴力这一方式。

 dahuoerlejiedejiatinglengbaolibushiyigerenlaijinxingde，jiatinglengbaolichangchangshifufuliangrenhuxiangpeihede，nilaogongbulihuini，niyebulicaita，nizhangfuyigelibaibulicaini，niyeyigelibaibulicaita，naizhitahuadaozuibiandeqingkuangxia，niyao，nidoujiatinglengbaolizheimeduonian，wogengweibulini。

 dahuoeryaolejiede，jiatinglengbaolishifufuhuxiangpeihede，baituozheiyifangshi，bianshiyaogenzhangfuqujiang：zhangfu，renmenjiatinglengbaolileduozhangshijian？

 niyingduizheigewentideqingkuangxia，nijuedechuliqilaihenbubian，huoshinijuedewozenmejiejuenanyijiejue，suoyiwoguoduantaobi，woguoduanshengshu，woguoduanlengbaoli。

 neimeniqugennizhangfuqujiang，neimenizishenbianshiguannian。renmenshuoyingduijiatinglengbaoliyidingyaoyouzheiyiguannian，wodehunyinshenghuozuozhu。

 wohaizaixuduochangsuoxiadoujiang，wodehunyinshenghuozuozhushisha？nifajuelezheileidebaoli，nijiuxuyaolejiewoxiangjiejueta，woxiangchulita，erbushicushitaliangjihua。tajiatinglengbaoliniyitiannijitamenjiatinglengbaoliyizhou，tayizhouniyigeyue，tayigeyuenidabannian。

renmenyouderenfuqijianyinianmeihua，

wozheibianzhidaoyousansinianmeihua，wodetianna，dajiafufushizaguoshenghuode？generzhisangshizaijialilibianyoushenmebutong？

 haibibushangliangdifenjule，haibibushangliyi，suoyishuoyidingyaobaituozheiyijiatinglengbaolidefangshi，lijiduitashuotashijiatinglengbaoli，woqianwanbieguoneiyangdeshenghuo，xiwangrenmenpengdaozheigewenti，renmennengchulizheigewenti，neizhibuguobianshizenmejiejuedenanti，wofangjinhoubianlaigendahuoerjiang。

第二个方法要摆脱家庭冷暴力的获利方式，家庭冷暴力经常是获利的，如果不获利，他干什么家庭冷暴力？

 renmenshuoneibaolidehuolifangshi，jiubirushuozhangfupanbianleni，tabulicaini，tagennifenfang，taneiyangyigezhuangkuangxiabian，zaochengninatameifa，yincitabianhuiganjuezheiyijiatinglengbaolifangshi tingbucuode，wojinengbaochizheiyihunyinshenghuo，woyoukeyizaicipanbian，woganshenmeyaowanbi，zheileijiatinglengbaolidefangfa，zheijiushiyigehuolifangshi。

ziranyeyouqitahuolifangshi，birushuorenmenpengdaoneileiguanqiandeshier，fuqijianyibianjiaozhuzheiyijianguanquan，

xifushuo：zhangfunikeyibaqianbangwo。zhangfushuo：wobuhuirangni，wobudanburangniqian，wodouburangniguorizi。

 neizaineiyangdeyigezhuangkuangxiabian，zuizhongbianchengleqianhuanshiguitaguan，budantadeqianguitaguan，nideqianyedouguitaguanle，tashuozheishifouyigehuolifangshi？

 yinciruguonifajuetagenjujiatinglengbaolikeyizuodaotadezongtimubiao，zuodaotademudi，niyejiuyidingyaobazheigefangfabatanongsi，weiyounibazheigejiatinglengbaolidedahuifangshibatachexiaomeileyihou，tagenjujiatinglengbaolidedaobushang，nizhinengzheiyangzi，tacaiyishidaomeiyoubanfagenjuzheiyifangfalaihuodetadequanyi。

 dahuoerzhidaofuqijiandeshizhishizhangqixingquanyidehuhuan，shenmeshizhangqixingquanyi？ganqingdequanyi？shenglixuedequanyi，gongtongchengzhangdequanyi，xianghuyanghaizidequanyi，zheizhongwupinquanshiquanyi。

 renmenqianwanbieyitingjianshuozheiyihunyinshenghuoshizhishangshiyizhongquanyi，shiyichangzhangqixingquanyidehuhuan，yixiajiuzaoyibatayoujihuaxuele，tashibuzhengquedeguandian。

youyuqingganyeshiyizhongquanyi，yilianguanxiyeshiyizhongquanyi，jiandaoniyejiuhuaweiwuyou。

 jiurutongrenmenyouyigekehushuo，tafeichangxiaitamenjiaguinv，tameiyiciduokunaodeqingkuangxia，tayaoshifanhuijiazhongbaoyibaotamendeguinv，tajiuganjueshihuaweiwuyou，shenmedoumeiduole，duokunaodeshierdoumeiyoule，zheishishishangyeshiyizhongquanyi，zheileiganqingshangbiandeyizhongkaolv。

quanbudequanyiquanshiyizhongkaolv。

 hunyinshenghuoyaoshimeiyouhenduodekaolvrenmen，ganshenmeyaohunyinshenghuode，renmenbubihunyinshenghuo。yincibaituojiatinglengbaolidehunyinshenghuofangshi，neiyangyigezhuangkuangxia，tajiuyibugennijiatinglengbaolile。

第三个层面而言的，家庭冷暴力我们要使他调节，调节哪些？

 diaojielezhiqianjiatinglengbaolixianzaiworangnirezhan，zhiqiannishengshuwoyenianzhuni，woyejinzhuani，wobuxiangbansuizhenidejiatinglengbaolierpianpianqiwu，yinciwojingchangjiangguo，tayongjiatinglengbaoliniyejiuyongrezhan，shitajiandaojiatinglengbaolimeifakaizhanxialai。

 jiatinglengbaolitaxinlitashiyayiganzishende，taxinlishiyaoyongtadexinnianbiporangnide，womenyiqiyongrezhandefangfa，tadexinlihuibianweijiaozao。

 shijishangjiushitadexintaizhuangtaitizhihuichanshengbianhua，jiatinglengbaolijingchangshiyizhizishen，errezhanjingchangshijiaolvqingxu，zishenzheiyifangshibuyiyang，yincitameifajindaodaonagefangshilibian，yincirenmenshuojiatinglengbaolibatadiaoweirezhan，batadiaoyidiaojiubijiaohaonongle。

 zuizhongshiwomenyaoqudiaojierenmendegoutongjiaoliudebuzhou，youyujiatinglengbaolitaxuduozhuangkuangxiaquanshigoutongjiaoliudebuzhoushangbianchulenanti，dangran，zheixiexidexingdezheixierengetezhishangbiande，renmenqianbianzaoyijiang，renmenjiujiangzhengerbajingdeneiyizhong，wogennishuonimeiting，wogenniguidingnimeizuo，neizhenduineiyangyizhongdejiatinglengbaoli，renmenjiuxuyaoyonggoutongjiaoliudebuzhoushangbiankaizhandiaojie。

renmenyibandezhuangkuangxiashuo，womenyaolejieyiqieyijianshiqingdoubutaikenengyigoujiutong，doubutaikenengyizuojiujinxing。

yincirenmenbatafenweiwugeliuchenglaizuo，neimenifenweiwugeliuchenglai，nilejiemeiyigeliuchengnigentagoutongjiaoliunaxie？

nikeyizuodaodeshiyigexiaodezongtimubiao，erbushiyigedadezongtimubiao。

 neineiyangdeyigezhuangkuangxiajiuzhucengtuidong，bayigetingdademeirirenwubatazhijiecheng、zhuanhuachengshugerichangrenwu，tajiufeichangrongyijinxing，fuqijianyouqishizheiyangzi。

 xuduoshier，niyaoshitayibubandedao，tabanbucheng，jiurutongpanbianni，shitayixiajiuwanbipanbian，tameifazuodao，yincijiuyaotabaozhengyidianyidian。

 lengbaolishishenmeyisi？zaineiyangyizhongzhuangkuangxiabian，bagoutongjiaoliudebuzhoubangtakaizhantishengle，dajiazheiyijiatinglengbaolijiubuhuiyou，yinweishenme，jiatinglengbaolitashijinxingyigechicun，erruguonibagoutongjiaoliudebuzhou，bazheizhongdaxinxiangmufenweiyigeyigehaoxiangmu，dajialiangrengoutongjiaoliubuzhouzhuanbianle，dajia2genengjinxingxuduoxixiaodeyixiezongtimubiao，neiyangdeyigezhuangkuangxiajiuwanchengleyigedademeirirenwu，neiyangdezhuangkuangxiajiuyibushijiatinglengbaolile，zhishiheli、youze、youneng，youkaolvdeyigegoutongjiaoliufangshi。