孩子胆小怕事怎么办？

 rujindehaizidadouhencongming，kejuedabufenhaizizuizhongquemeinenghuodeyiliaozhongdechenggong，yinweinenglizaiqiangdefumuyewufachanfuhaiziyibeizi！ranghaiziyongganqilai，dongdezenyangmianduishenghuodekunjinghecuozhe，zaiziwotiaozhanguochengzhongmolichudanshiheyongqi，caishimaixiangchenggongdeweiyijiejing。jintian，womenjiuliaoyiliaohaizidanxiaopashizenmebanhaoyijipeiyanghaiziyongqi，fumubixuzuodejijianshi。

一、家长行为潜移默化：

1、抱怨

“nizenmeneimeben？jiaoleduoshaobianlehaishijibuzhu！”

“jiumeijianguonizheimebutinghuadexiaohai！”

“nizhenfanren！nengbunenganjinghui！”

 youshihaizichangshizuoyixieshideshihou，buxiaoxin“gaozale”。jiazhangkanjianle，ruqingxufanyingguodu，guofenjinzhangjiaolv，dahandajiao，shenzhibutingzeguaita：“nizenmezheimebuxiaoxina？！wodoushuoleniduoshaocile，nijiushibuting！”

 jiazhangdezheizhongfumianpingjia，yijijiaolv、jinzhangdeqingxu，henrongyiyingzaoyizhongkuadaxianshidefenwei，bajiaolvchuandijihaizi，yejinyibuqianghuatadexingwei。

 ruguozaiyudaoxiangsidezhuangkuang，haizixiangqishangcijiazhangdefanying，yehuigengjiahaipa，buzhisuocuo，yihouleisideshiqingdoubuganquchangshile。

2、恐吓

“ku，ku，nizaiku，wojiujiaojingchashushulaizhuani！”

“kuaidianchifan，burandengxialaoshujiuyaolaiyaonile！”

haiziwufafenbianzhenjia，suoyihenrongyibafumusuoshuodewanxiaohuadangzhen。

 henduoshihoutamenhuirenweifumushuo“buyaotamenle”、“buaitamenle”，shizijitaichajing，zijibuhaodaozhide，suoyijiuhuibiandemingan、neixiang、danxiao。

3、哭穷

“maishenmemai，meiqian!”

 “weilejinibaozheigepeixunban，wogennibabayijingjibentaokongleqianbao，jigeyuemeiyouquguangjiele，nihaibuduokaodianfenshuhuilai，neiniduideqiwomenma？”

danghaizixiangyaolingyongqiandeshihou，jiazhangkuqiong"meiqian";

danghaizixiangyaomaixinyifu、xinshubaodeshihou，jiazhangkuqiong"meiqian";

danghaizixiangyaomaixuexiyongpindeshihou，jiazhangkuqiong"meiqian"，zuiduoyejiumaixieliezhidechanpin;

danghaizikanzhebiedexiaohaiyoulingshichi，zijiyexiangchideshihou，jiazhanghaishizaikuqiong……

 “qiong”deyinyingjiuzheiyangzaihaizidexinlishenshenzhagen，kanzheqitatongxuedounengyongyouzijixihuandedongxi，ertazhinengbawangzhe，zibeiyejiusuizhierlai。

4、忽略

 danghaizizaixuexiaochengshouxiaoyuanbaoli，huijiahouxiangfumuxunqiubangzhu，henduoshihoufumuzhihuipaoxiayiju：“niburerenjia，renjiahuipingbaiwugudiqifuni?”

yushi，haiziyihoujishibeiduociaida，yezhinengrenqitunsheng，yinweitadebudaobangzhu，zhinengbakushuiwangzijidexinlidao。

5、过度保护

 danghaizichichibuyuanyichangshimoujianshiqingshi，youxiejiazhanghuicaiyong“wenhe”decuoshi，banghaizizuojueding，bahaizi“baohu”qilai。

 jianjiandi，haizixiguanlebunengwan、bunengzuo，zijiyehuirenwei：wohaixiao，wobuxing。jianjiandi，haizijiuhuijuedezijihenduoshiqingdouzuobuhao，buganquchangshi，buganmaichudiyibu，biandeyuelaiyuedanxiao。

 xintaixueyanjiubiaoming，danxiaoqishizhishiyizhongbiaomianxianxiang，danxiaodebeihoushijishangshitamenrenweizijiwufakefusuomianlindekunnanhezhangai，danxinzijizaitongban、laoshihuofumumianqian“chuchou”ercaiqudeyizhongziwobaohuxingwei，xintaixueshangchengzhiwei“xidewuzhuxingwei”。

 zheiyangdehaizihuibazijiyudaodecuozheguijiuyuziji“ben”，zheiduigetidezizunxinyuzixinxinshiyidadaji，yineryouzheizhongguiyindeertong，wangwangbiaoxianweihuibitiaozhan，xunqiuhuodeduizijinenglidelianghaopingjia，bimianchuxianduizijinenglidebuliangpingjia。

 pengdaozhangai、shibaishi，zheixiehaizirongyibiaoxianchudijianchixing，changbashibaiguiyinyuzijidedinengli，bingchanshengfuxingdeziworenzhihebuliangqingxu，jixingchengyizhongfeishiyingxingde“wuzhu”fanyingmoshi，bingyongzheizhong“wuzhuxingwei”laixiaojidibaohuziji。

二、“解铃还须系铃人”，由父母入手，才能逐步改变孩子胆小怕事的性格：

1、haizidanxiaopashizenmeban：jihaizichuangzaotiyanhexuexidejihui

 pingshizaishenghuoshangzhuyibingpeiyanghaizidedulixing、jianqiangdeyilihelianghaodeshenghuoxiguan。gulihaiziquzuolisuonengjideshiqing，rangtaxuehuizijizhaoguziji。

danghaiziyudaokunnanshi，buyaoyiweibaoban，eryaorangtazijixiangbanfajiejue。

2、haizidanxiaopashizenmeban：guanchabingfaxianhaizideshanguangdian

 zuidanxiaoqieruodehaizi，oueryehuiyou“dadan”dejudong，yexuzaifumukanlaizheiweibuzudao，danzuofumude，bixunulibuzhuozheixieshaozongjishide“shanguangdian”，jiyubiyaodenaizhikuazhangdebiaoyangguli。

 yigelianghaodeguli，yaozuodaojishi、juti。ranghaizizhujianqingxidiyishidao：fumudezanyanghepiping，doushijutidemouyijianshiqing，bushiduizijidequanpankendinghuozhefouding。

3、haizidanxiaopashizenmeban：jihaizizuoyonggandebangyang

 haizidehenduotedianqishishiduifumudemofang，lirumamapamao，yibanlaishuonveryehuipamao；mianduimoshengren，mamadoubuyuanshangqiandahua，youzenmenengzhiwanghaizidadafangfang？

 suoyi，zuofumudeyaoshouxianyongganqilai。haizipamao，mamakeyishangqianmomoxiaomao，zaibaobaota，ranhougulihaiziyelaimoyimo、baoyibao；haizixiangjiejiaomoshengdexiaopengyouyoudanqie，ninkeyigaosuta/ta：“zheigeshihounikeyixianwenyiwenxiaopengyoudemingzi。”ranhoudaizhehaizizouguoqu，wenyiwenduifangdemingzi，zaixunwenqishifouyuanyigenzijidehaiziyiqiwan。

4、haiziyoudanxiaoyoupashizenmeban：ranghaiziduolejieziran、duolejieshehui。

 dangdanxiaodehaizibiaoxianchukongjushi，fumuyouzerenranghaizilejieshiqingdezhenxiang。liruhaizihaipadianshanleiming，fumuyaogaosuhaizidalei、shandianshiyizhongziranxianxiang，daleicainengxiayu，xiayucainengzhangzhuangjia，zhanglezhuangjiawomencaiyouchiyouhedeng。