冷战后如何让男人主动哄你 如何让男人心甘情愿来哄你

 lengzhanhouruherangnanrenzhudonghongni?buguanzheizhongganjueyouduotianmi，douhuiyouzhengchao。shishishang，daduoshunvxingyinweizhengchaoershengqi，tongchangbushiyinweiduihuocuo，ershiyinweitaidu。daduoshushihou，nvhaizhishixiangkandaonanrendetaidu，xuyaoyigenanrendeqinghua.yigeyongbaohuajielezijineixindeqingxu，dannanrenwangwangbudongfengqing。

 dangchongtufashengshi，nanrenwufarenshounvrendebuhelixingwei，nvrenzhizenanrenbuguanxin，zuizhongyanbianchenglengzhan，tamendeganqingmanmanshuyuan。zhengchaozhihou，ruhebimianlengzhan，jintianwohenifenxiang，ruherangnanrenzhudonghongpianni。

1.让男人明白“哄不等于道歉”

 nanrenhenvrenyoubutongdesiweifangshi。zhengchaozhihou，nanrendexiangfatongchangshi“weishenmetazongshibuliwoshuodehua?tabutingwozenmejiangdaoli，zheishigenbenbudasuanjiejuewenti，shiguyizhenduiwode。”nvrenxiangdeshi“yaoshuoyeyaoshuo，zheishishenmetaidu?weishenmeyaoduiwodahandajiao?tagenbenbuaiwo。”youcikejian，nvrengengguanxinqingxu，ernanrengengyuanyifenxishiqingbenshendeduicuo。

 xuduonanrenxiangbuchulai：zheibushiwodecuo。woweishenmeyaodaoqian?suoyiwomenbixurangnanrenzhidao“hongbudengyudaoqian”，liangzheshibutongde。“hong”zheishiyizhongchuliqingxudefangfa。zaizuoxialaijiejuechongtuzhiqian，yidingyaoxianchulihaoqingxu。

 nvrenkeyizaizhengchaohouxiangnanrenguanshugengduoguanyutamenxuyaobeihonglaihuanjieqingxuderenzhi，zheiyangnanrenjiuzhidaoxianhongziji，gengyouliyulianggerenyiqijiejuewenti。zaitazhudongjitajijidefankuihou，jishihuanjieqifen，keyijiaqiangnanrenzhengchaohongwomendegainian。

 birushuo，“qinaide，woxianzaixinqingbutaikaixin，ninengbaobaowoma?”dangduifangyongbaoshi，zaizuoyixiejijidefankui，“xiexielaogong，woganjuehaoduole，jiajinizhenshitaixingfule。”

2.找到正确的沟通时间

 zhengchaozhihou，yixienvxingjingchangjiyushuoqingchu，danyouyushuangfangqingxubuwending，hennanyouyigelianghaodegoutongfenwei。yinci，yizhongbenyingshijiyushishidejiaoliubianchenglexianghushanghaiderenshengongji。chongdongdishuogengduofennudehua，“nizhenshigezisideren”.“nizheimexiaoqiderenhuizuozheizhongshi”，gengshanghailianggerendeganqing。

 yanjiuhaibiaoming，renmenzaizhengchaohou1-2xiaoshineihuigengjiafennu。zheigeshihouyaojinliangbimiangoutong，jiduifangyidianpingjingdeshijian。

 danshitabunengtuodetaijiu，yinweigoutongyeyouyigebaoxianqi。zhongyaodeshiyaozhaodaoyigejihui，rangshuangfangdoupingjingxialai，bingyouyiyuanjinxinggoutong。nikeyishizhezaizhengchaoqianjiuyizhongfangshixiangduifangfasongniyijingpingjingxialaidexinxidachengyizhi。liru，ruguonimaileyixiemeiweideshiwuhuijia，zheiyiweizheniyijingpingjingxialai，duifangyiqichifan，zheiyiweizhelianggerenkeyikaishijiaoliu。shuangfangdouyougoutongdeyiyuan，zheijianggengrongyijiejuewenti。

3.正确表达是解决冲突的基础

 henduoshihou，dangwomenhebanlvchaojiashi，zhenzhengshanghaiduifangdebushiwomenduiyijianshidebutongkanfa，ershiwomencuowudebiaodafangshi。ruguowomenduiduifangdexingweibumanyi，henrongyipanduan。

 birufuqizhijian，zhangfuxiabanhuijiahenlei，danshiqizixiangrangzhangfuhetaliaotian，zhangfuzhijiepanduanqizishiyinweixinfanyiluan。“nizenmeshuozheimeduo!”qizitingdaozhize，bennengdijinrufangyumoshi，yuanbenxiangyuzhangfujianliguanxi，queyinqilezhengchao。

 danshi，ruguowomenzhibiaodawomendeqinggan、ganshouhexiangfa，erbushiduibicidepanduan，biruzhangfuduiqizidefanying“jintiandegongzuoyoudianlei，xianzaibuxiangshuohuale。”zheiyangdebiaoqingbuhuirangqizigandaoshoushang，haihuirangqizigenglejiezhangfu，zengjinganqing。

 zaiganqingzhong，womendouxuyaobeikandao.beilijie。shishishang，zhengchaodechufadianyeshijiyubiaodatamenbulijiedebuman。lianrenzhijiandexuduomaodundoushixianghumaodunde“goutonghebiaoda”wenti。biruyiduiqinglvxiangchudeshihou，nvshengkewangduifanghezijidexinyouyikeshanliangdexin，duilianrendexuqiubuqingchu，huozheshuoyiban，xiwangduifangnenglijie。

 raner，nanrenwangwangsiweiyizhi，jingchanggandaokunhuo。nvshengjuededuifangbugouaiziji，buzhidaozijixiangyaoshenme。tamenxiangairenrenglian，huozhefapiqi。yinci，nanrenrenweinvhaishi“wuliqunao”yushiliangrenchaolelengzhan，xiangchuxialaidoujinpilijin，ganqingyebeixiaohaodiaole。

 lengzhanhouruherangnanrenzhudonghongni？youxienvrenzaizhengchaohouwufarenshounanrendelengmo。zaitamenzouchuqingxuzhiqian，tamenyibuyibudibiponanren，yonggengjianruideyuqi.citongduifangdefangfakeyijiliduifanghuiyingziji。birufanjiuzhang。.xuanzeyixierangduifanggandaobushufudehuati，dengdeng，xiangyaodedaonanrendehuiying。

 danshiduiyunanrenlaishuo，tamenhuijuedenvrenyuelaiyuebujiangli，shenzhiduizijijinxingrenshengongji。tabuxiangjixushuohua，xiangbaochichenmo.duobi.buyaoshuohua。nvrenjuedebuguanshuoshenme，duifangdoushiyidui“siren”mianzi，yongyuandebudaorenhehuiying。yushiliangrenxianrulegoutongmoshideexingxunhuan，manmanzouxiangganqingdepolie。

 womenxiwangyigenanrenzaizhengchaohouzhudonghongwomen。shishishang，zhiyaowomenyongyizhongshushihekejieshoudebiaodafangshilaigoutong，taziranhuizhudongmanzuwomendexuqiu。ruguonideganqingyinweigoutongfangerxianruweiji，nibuzhidaogaizenmeban。nikeyigaosuwonidewenti，wohuigaosuniruhechulitamen!