婚姻中的裂痕怎么挽回

　　hunyinzhongdeliehenzenmewanhuijinri，jingchangjiedaoyueduzhesiliao，qingtuzhezijijiehunbaniandejiongjing：richangshenghuohaosiyibeifankudebaikaishui，kenengbiwenkaishuihaixuyaodanerwuwei——fuqizhijianjinguantongchuyishi，quexingtongmolu，lianjibendegoutongjiaoliudoubiandejubuweijian。meimeilibaitiandaolai，fenbiemaitouyushoujishang，liancanzhuopangdetuanyuandoubiandeneiyangshehua。yinci，yourenkaishicaiyi，zheiyangdeganqingshibushiyijingzoudaozuihou，shifougaikaolvdaogebendongxi?

　　tanbaishuo，wocengjingqinyankandaoguowushuxiangjindehunyinshenghuoyundongguiji。zuichu，fuqiliangrenqinmiwujian，buguosuizhexiaohai、zhufangdaikuanjigongzuoyalidejiezhongerlai，lianggerendeganqingbianrutongbeiwenkaishuiqinpaodechaye，manmanshiquleyuanyoudexiangwei。danshi，yuanfenzheidongxiyoushihoubingbushiwanquanduanjue，ershijiangrichangshenghuozhongdefuchensuomaizang。ruozhongxindexiwangzhongxindianranhunyinshenghuodehuomiao，bufangxuehuifangxia“suanleba”dexiangfa，shizheyixiacuoshi。

　　1.1 △hunyinshenghuopingxiaochu

　　henduorenjianghunlianwentiguiyinyu“ruguobuaile”，danhudongjiaoliuhoubianhuifaxian，nantitongchangbingbushiqujueyuaiqingdexiaoshi，fanershixiangchuzhidaodewaiqudaozhishuangfangshenxinpibei。biru，youweipengyoujiehunshinianhouhezhangfushenxianlengbaoli，tabiaoshijiaodadefannaoqujueyulaogongde“buanshishi”。dangtayingongzuolaoleierqipanyibeitangshuidewenxinshi，laogongquebikoubutanguanai;taqingtugongzuoshangdebiequshi，duifangjiuyi“sheimeiyougongzuozhirao”huifu。zhihou，zaihunyinzixunshidezhichixia，tacaifanyingguolailaogongbingbushilengxuewuqing，fanershishoucichengzhangbeijingweihai，wurenwei“chenmoguayan”jiushidanren。tazhenzhenzhengzhengxiangwangdeshiyijuqieyide“xinku”。zheizhengshizuidianxingde“goutongjiaoliuyiwei”zhuangkuang。

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，xiangjindefenqisikongjianguan。henduoshihou，bicidexuyaobingbupipei，jiuhaoxiangshiyifangkewangyongyoupingguogongsi，erlingyifangquejianchijiyuli。chucizhiwai，jiang“xiguanxing”shizuo“lisuoyingdang”shidaozhiguanxijinzhangdechangjianyuanyin。

　　yiner，zaijicongcongweihunyinshenghuozhixingsixingyiqian，bufangchangshijiduifangyigejihui。zaizhoumoxiuxianshiguangli，jiangshoujijingyin，zuoxializhidizhenglibicidetiyan。liejuzheixielingduifangbushuangdejudong，bingqieyejiluxialaizheixierengranshininanwangdeshunjian。jiaruhoumianyizhongnengzhanshangfeng，neiyangyexunimendeguanxiyuanfenbingweizoudaozuihou。

　　1.2 △goutongjiaoliuyiwei

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，nantichangcunzaiyujiaoliufangshideyiwei。henduohunyinmaodunshilaiziyuyaoqiubuyizhi，liru，youxierenmaiyuanairenbuguanxintamen，shijishangduifangkenengdanbuzhidaozenyangbiaodazheileiguanzhu。erzhenshigoutongjiaoliuyingdangshitanchengdibiaodazijideganshou，erfeiliejuduifangguoshi。zairucidejiaoliuzhong，yaoqiuhuiyuelaiyueqingxi，hunyinshenghuodehexiehuiyincitigao。

　　02

　　2.goutongfangfahejiejuefangan

　　2.1 △feibaoligoutong

　　wocengjingqinyankandaoguowushufuqizhijiandewuxiaogoutong，zaiqizhongzuijudaibiaoxingdeyimumoguobiciyikaikoubianzhangci。laopomaiyuanlaogong“yitiandaowanbuzhejia，zheigejiatinggenbinguanyoushenmequbiema?”erzhangfuzebianbo“wobuzhejia?wobuzhuanqiansheiyangniyibeizi?”zheizhonghuihuawangwangcong“buzhejia”daraodao“dangshiyanxia”，zuihouyisipolianpishouwei。danshi，jiaruwomenchangshihuanyizhongfangshilaibiaoxian，zhuangkuangyexuhuiyoubutong。biru，laopokeyizheimeshuo“nizheigezhouyousitianquanshishenyehuijia，woyigerenzaijiashoushihaocanju，tangzaishafashangdengzhedengzheshuizhele，xinliyouxiekong。”zheigeshuofabuhuxiangzhize“nixiangduole”，fanershitanchengdibiaodazijideganshou“wojuede”，neiyangtongchangnanyijifaduifangbianbo，naizhikenenghuiyinqiduifangneijiu。zheibianshifeibaoligoutongfangfa。

　　2.2 △zhuzhongxijieyubaorong

　　hunyinzhongdeliehenzenmewanhuichucizhiwai，zaihunyinlidegoutongjiaoliuhaiyingdangjinliangbimianshiyong“yizhi”“jihu”zheizhongjueduiyuhui，yinweitatongchanghuikuadashishi，jiangsuoshibianweiwenti。fanguolai，womenyaoshizhequanmiandixushunanti，biru“zhiqianwoshengrinibiewangle，woyoudiannanguo”，erbushijiandandihuxiangzhize“niconglaibuzaihuwodeganjue”。

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，xiaoxiaoguanaiyubaorongwangwangnenggoujiejuejidadifenqi。youyiduifuqilengzhanlesangeyuehou，jinjinshiyinweizhangfuzaimouyizaochenweiqizijilemeibaiyagaozheiyangyigejiandandongzuo，jiunengchenggongpojielefenqi。zheigexiaoxiaodexingweiranglaopojidongdeyanquanhongle，yelihaitedijinxinglelaogongxihuanchidehongshaopaigu。zheiyezhengminglehunyinlide“dalanman”jinguanxiyou，dan“xiaodiannian”dankeyibianchengweichiganqingdeqiaoliang。

　　weigaishanhunyinlidegoutongjiaoliuqingkuang，womenkeyichangshiyixierichangdexiaojudong，rulinshuiqianjiangju“jinrixinku”，chumenzhiqianbangduifanglililingkou，shenzhizhishishunshoubalingyifangluandiudemianwadiuruxiyilan。zheizhongkansibuqiyandegerenxingwei，dankeyixiangmochuchengzhenyiyang，manmanbianruan“jiedong”zhijiandeguanxi。