婚姻危机心态咨询：如何处理夫妻之间挤压许久的恩怨

 zenyang wanhuihunyinganqing ?nanrenwangwanghenvrenyuelaiyueyuan，yibandouyouyulianggerenzhongjiandehunyinshenghuochuxianlekucunjiyaxujiude“enyuan”。yaoshizhangfuneixinnianzheta，tengzheta，nvrenganxinqingyuanweijiazhongnulisuoyoushijianhehuoli，danshidanfangnulizuihouhuirangdetianpingshidiao，congmaodunzhongzhonggangkaishi，daozuizhonggaoshangwanbidechengdu。nanrenwangwanghenvrenyuelaiyueyuan，yibandouyouyulianggerenzhongjiandehunyinshenghuochuxianlekucunjiyaxujiudeenyuan。pengdaozheiyangdeshiqingneishihouneiyangzuo：

一：懂得在细节上做一个用心

 yigenvrenzuiguanjiandejiushishuozaixijienantishangzuoyigezixideren，xuduoshiqingshitarenliuyibushangde。zhinengnvrencaikeyiguanchadexiaoshiqingshang，jiushishuoyixiehenxijiedenanti。zenyangwanhuihunyinganqing?hunyinweijixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 zhinengguanxinlexijienanti，caikeyihaiyoujihuidongxinanrendejingshenshijie，zhenzhengzuodaoderenzhidaolingyifangdejingshenshijie。rangzishenbianchengyigexingfudenvrenshijishangbingbushiyijianjiannandeshiqing，yaoshizaixijieshangzuoyigeyongxin。

二：包容绝不落伍

 zheierchangshuodebaorong，jueduibingbushiwuyuanzedibaorong，yebingbushiwududibaorong，baorongyaoyouchengduqishijia。keshiqingnvxingmenjilao，baorongzuoweiyigebaowu，neijueduishishizhongdoudanshishide。baorong，zaiteshudeshijianteshudechangsuotexingdeqingjingzhong，neijueduishishijiyiyibufande。

 haogangdeyongzairenkoushang，jiushishuozheiyihanyi。zaibixudeneishihou，baorongyixia，budannengweizijiyigelouti，rangzishenkefuneileijianbanuzhangdepibeizhidi，bingqienengranglaogongzaiyizhongganxiedixinqingzhongfanshengzijideguoshi。

三：关注他但不必逼问他

 dangnifajueletazaiwaibiande“zhenxiang”，dangnixiangyaozhidaoshiqingdeshiqing，tayoubuyuangaosudajia，niyaobubibiwenta，gengbunengyongminglingshideyudiaokandaita。jianxin，tabuyuanshuoyidingyoutadedadaoli。

 jiarutaxiangnitanpai，jinguannixiangtaquebao，burongyiyuanta，henta，keshi，nikeyiquebaonineixinyidiancujingyemeiyoume?wanyinayitianxinqingyumen，bazheijianshiqingdangbashou，batamadeyiwushichu，niliangzhongjianyezongyouleliefeng。

 yinci，nanrenbugaosuni，youtadedadaoli，qingzheigezuolaopodelejietaba。guanzhuta，aita，jitamenlianrenshideai，jianxintaburongyipaodaotarendehuaizhong。hunyinweijixintaizixunzenmeyang?