婚姻咨询：当婚姻遭受出轨时，该怎样善后工作?

免费 效果怎么样?他出轨了，原因居然是：我不懂他。人们恋情到完婚在一起15年了，我觉得，没人比我更掌握他，现如今他出轨，却将这一锅甩在我手上……我确实不肯提到，我那时候如何谩骂他的，各种各样狠毒的字样，从我的口中喷出，自己都不相信，曾经的我是一名受到高等职业教育的在校大学生。

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提议：

 1.fufubicixianlinshilizhi。nvzhujiaozhangfujuedezheiyiduanhunyinzhonghuodelebugongpingdegongzidaiyu，yinci，zuixianyaotahuiniuquzheileixiangfa。

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3.goutongjiaoliu。babicidewuhuiheneixindexiangfashuochuqu，gongpingdezuoyicigoutongjiaoliu。

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