经常跟老公吵架想离婚又舍不得孩子，我该怎么办？为什么和老公老想离婚

 xuduozaihunyinguanxilihuodebingbuxingfukuailederen，queyizhihaipalihun。niyiwenweihe？daduoshurendoushihuishuoshiyouyuhaizi，doushuohaipalihunshipalihunhouduihaizisunhaihenda。weishenmehelaogonglaoxianglihun？

erqiegenwokongsutazhangfuyixiliedemanbujiangli：

 “wodemingzijiaoxiaolian，2021nian31sui，shiyimingbaomama。helaogongshijingguojieshaoduixiangjieshide，rujinzaoyijiehunwunianle，dajiayouyigesansuidehaizi，kehunyinshenghuoqueyizhiyebuxingfukuaile。

weihehunyinbushunni？worenweinantideyuantoushi：dajiadesanguanhenbufuhe。

 shangniannianmodeqingkuangxia，tapenyouzhaotajieyiwankuaiqian，tabenlaishidoubilianzhengjie，kehuoshiyaochongdageer。zuizhong，talengshibizhewohaizaimayijiebeishang，jieleyiwankuaiqianjitamendepenyou。

 jiekuanyejiueryi，shijianchabuduoleyihou，zanzongyaodianjizheyaohuijiaba，kewohaijianyitahenshucile，tahuoshiyidianyebufangzaixinli。

zhihou，wojiangtarejile，tajiubanchulailezigedewailixieshuoduiwoshuo：

“jiezoudeqiannaliyoujijiyaoguolaideya，zheikanqilaizishenduoxiaojiaziqiya。”

weishenmehelaogonglaoxianglihun？tingjiantamenyihou，wozhenshijijiangbeiguoqiqule。tashidaqile，kedaqidejieguoni？

qiandaoxianzaidoumeiyaohuijia，yijiarenzaipeizhetahexibeifeng。

 yeyouyici，dajiafufu2geheguimifufu2geyiqichifan，leisiwanbideqingkuangxia，wobianzaiweixinshangjitamenzhuanlewubaikuaiqian，bingzhufutaquqiaoqiaodebazhanghuijie。

danshitamocengde，yidianjiezhangdexiangfayemeiyou，daozuizhongyeshiwoguimilaogongbazhangjihuijie。

neiyangdeshier，zaoyibingbushichanshengyici2cile，neimeyierzaizaiersandechibaishi，woqueshiganjuefeichangdiulian。

guohouwoxunwenta：“weishenmebuqujiezhang。”

tadehuifuyehencongrong：“youyubuyuanjie。”

woranhouxunwenta：“weihebuyuanjie？”

tabianshuo，wohaoguimifuqiliangquanshizuodamaimaide，yagenyebuchazheiyidunliangcande。

yitingjianzheijuhua，womashangjiugentajile：

 “bierenfuyoushibierendeya，weihefuyoujiuxuyaosheyanni？womenshimeiyoushenmeqian，danyebuhuiyidunfandoubunaqianya。renqiongshizhibukeyiduan，nijieyiwankuaiqianpengyoudeneiyigedaqijingqunalileni？”

tingjianworucishuo，tayejile。bingqie，tayemingbaizishenbuzhanli，yincijiuxiangnaqipoyawo。

 danshi，woyebuguanzheta，jieguodajiajiuneimedachaodanaoleyijia。shijishang，neiyangdezhengzhi，santianliangtoudebianhuichanshengyici。xianzaiwoqueshiganjuezaoyigentaguokeyile，yebuzhiyicidexiangguolihun。

danshi，dajiazhongjiuhaiyouyigehaiziya，haizishimomingqimiaode。jiaoshi，ninshuowojiujingzabanni？”

quanbutingwanxiaoliandexushuyihou，wodenaoziliyizhishanguozhesangeguanjianzi。

zheisangeguanjianzishi：sanguanbuhe，lihun，haizi。

zuixian，dajiaeryanyishuo“lihun”he“haizi”。

yaoxianggenzhangfulihun，danshiquebushedehaizi，wogaizenmezuoni？

shijishang，ruguonixinlizaochengzheizhongniantoudeqingkuangxia，zuixianyingdangxunwenzishen：“wobuganlihun，queshishiyouyuhaizima？”

shijishang，zaixianshishenghuozhong，haizichangchanghuibeiyonglaizuotuoci：

liruchidao，zaichanshugongzuochidaodeliyoushi，xuduonvhaidoushihuishuozaochensonghaizishangxuelushangdangele。

danshijishang，tamenbianshiduoshuileyihuilanchuang，zuihoumeiyouzhuishangditiezhan。

zailiru，jiazhonglaigukele，danshifangjianmeigudeshangzhengliluanqibazaode。

 xuduonvhaiganjuefeichangganga，yincijiuyoukaishinahaizishuoshier，shuohaizitaipile，zishengangbafangjianqingsaowan，jiubeihaizinongdeluanqibazaode。

richangshenghuo，haizibeizuoweituocideanlishubushengshu。

lihunzheijianshiqingyeshizheiban，haizishiyigetaihaodetuocile。

yinci，niqueshihenbixu，haohaodidewenyiwenzishen：wobugangennanrenlihun，zhendeshiweilegenghaodihaizima？

 jiarunilijingyifansisuoyihou，zuihoudedaolehaowuyiwendehuida，jiuzhengshi，niyizhizaiyiduanaiqingzhongdeshushiduqueshizaoyitebiechale。

 ciwaiconghaizidefangmianeryan，yuqishuojiaojitayigebiaocengshangxiangxidejiazhong，bibushangqujitamenzuoyigekaimo，yigenadeqifangdexia，qinfenxunmizishenmeihaodexiaonvrendekaimo。

zheiduihaizidejiaoxuehefazhan，haowuyiwenshigengyouyide。

kejiarunizuihoufajue，haizijinjinyigetuoci，neimanijiuxuyaoxiangyixiang：weihewonengweizijizhaoyigeneiyangdetuocini？

 shijishang，yuanguyeshijinrenjiezhide：nidequeduiyiduanhunyinshenghuojuedebumanyi，danciwai，niyeduiyiduanhunyinshenghuotianmanzheyikao。

 zheijiuhaoxiangyigetaonanderen，zaitaonandedaolushangtiantianchiwotou，suirantaxianyikuaichioutu，ketaduizheiyiwotouyiranjinyoumaiyuandefen，yagenjiuburongyidiuqita。

jiarudiudiaolezheiyiwotou，taonanderenjiuzhinengaiedefenle。

xiabian，dajiazaifanhuiqingganzhong：

 jirannirujinyagenjiulibulezheiyiduanqinggan，neimeitianqudanxinxubuxuyaolihun，zheijiushiyijianmeiyouyiyideshierle。bingqie，ruguonimeitianchuyuyizhongmaiyuandeqinggandangzhongdeqingkuangxia，niyenanyihuichuxianhuoliqupouxihechuliwentide。

zuizhong，zaieryanyishuo“sanguanbuhe”。

 tebieshizaizailianggerenfenshouhou，feichangdayibufenrendoushiyong“sanguanbuhe”zheisigezi，jilianggerendeaiqinghuashangyigejudian。

kewentishi：zheishijieshangyagenjiumeiyouchedifuhedesanguanya，youyudajiameiyigerenquanshibuyiyangde。

shijishang，zhixulianggerensanguandeqihedu，keyibaozhengzaiyidingdefanchounei，zheiyiduanqingganjiuburongyichunanti。

jiunaxiaoliandeshililaijiangba：

 congquanbuxushuzhongwomenkeyijiandao，nanrenshiyigehaomianzi，keshiyoutanxiaobianyibianyideren。xiaolianzezhenghaoxiangfan，tazaiqiancaikaizhishanghenkeguan，zaijiaopengyoushangyehenjiangbiaozhun。

 henxianzhu，lianggerendexiaofeiguancunyoufeichangdadechabie，lianggerenyechangchanghuishiyinweizheixiechabieerzhengchao。danshi，zheileichabiequeshinengyiweizhe，lianggerendesanguanbuhema？

bingbushizheiyangde，shijishang，lianggerenjinyibujiaqianggoutongdehua，zheigewentiyebingbuhuihennanchuli。

 jiunananrenwangwaijiekuanzheijianshiqingeryanba，xiaolianshijishanghaikeyixianxiangyixiang，weihenanrenfeidejieqianjipengyou。guigenjiedi，zheizhibuguoshiyigelianmiandeshiqing。

 yinci，jiaruxiaoliannengzaimeiyoujiekuandegenjishang，hainengjinanrenzhuangoulianmiandehua，nantidangranjiujiejuele。zenyangcainengdadaozheiyijieguoni？

 shijishang，xiaolianchedinenggoujiedaonanrendehuaduixiaohuobanshuo：“aiyodixiong，niyejiulaiwanleyibu。niqingegegangmailaiyiliangche，qiandouzazaizheigelimianle。”

 goumaileyiliangxinqiche，zheishiyigegenggaodelianmian。yinci，weilegenghaodizheiyidalianmian，nanrenhaowuyiwenburongyizaijiangzishenyeyouxianqianle，zheiyangyilai，qianbujiujiebuchuqulemeiyou？

zaieryannanrenyongcanbufuqiandeshiqing，weihenanrenbuyuanyifuqianni？tazhibuguoyeshixiangtandianbianyieryi。

 neijiranzheiyang，nixiayicijiuqianwanbiedaitachulai，zhishiyigerengenhaoguimiyongcan，fuqian，haixuyaojinkenengdianyixiepianguidecai。

 rangnanrenbuzhibujuejiandaoxinyongkazhangdan，takendingshihuidachiyijingde。weilegenghaodijiangdizheiyidasunhai，nanrenshihuizuochutuoxiede。

 dicengluoji：zaiguanlianzhong，tiaobierendexiaomaobingshiyijianyouqijianjiedeshier，bingqiejinengjuyouxuanxiedegongnenghainengzhanyoushehuidaodedezhuzhendi。

 dannantishi，zheizuihoubukeyishinigengweikaixin。neiyisidezihaoganmeifaxiangdinixiaojitaidudailedetongchu，lingyifangdehaijihuishiliaobuji。

 weishenmehelaogonglaoxianglihun？cikexiangyixiangweihelingyifangneimacha，nihaishibuyuanyiliqutadeyinsuhenyoukenenggengyouxiezhu。zheinengshinigengyounengyuanquchulizheizhongnanti，erbushijianyidebayiwutuijilingyifang。