“一个人，长期单身的好处”

 xiangbidanshennannv，tongchangshihaipadanshennannvdexiaoguogengcha。annibaobeishuoguoneiyangyijuhua：“henyoukeneng，ganqingjinjinshihaipagudu，bixuzhaoyigerenlaiai，jiusuanmeiyouyiqiejieguo。”danshenhaobuhao？youderenzaiganqinglidexintaijiushizheiban，tanlianaideyuangu，danshendehaochu，jinjinyinweijiejuegudu，youyuhaipadanshennannv。

 zheileihaipadanshennannv，henyoukenengyouyujiazhongchixuzaiducu，kenengshizishendaogaihunjiadenianling，kenengshishenbianderendouzaoyitanlianai。

 keshi，danshendehaochu，wulunshinayangyuangu，dangliangrentanlianaizhishishiyinweijiejuegudushi，shijishangqinggannanyiyouaiqingshengyan。

meiyigerendeshijianbuzude，huoliyeshiyoujuxiande。

 yaozhujianyiduantanlianai，zongyaohuafeishijianhehuoli，zheiyeshiyidingyaozhifude“chengbenfei”，henxianeryijian，hebuzuiaiderentanlianai，bingsuanbushangyizhongyoujiazhide“xiangmutouzi”。

yinci，qingganli，tongchangshisuiyitanlianaidejieguogengcha，eryigerenzhangqidanshendeqingkuangxia，shijishangyichubingxuduo。

danshennannv，nengxiezhuyigerenzaojiuzishen

changtingrenshuo：“erlizhinian”。

 youqishilaoyibei，zongganjuequeshiyaoxianglizhi，yaoxianchengjialiye，neiyangyigeyouxiurencaiyoupinbodequdongli，yeshiyoushenhoudejingshenjituo。

zheileiniantouqueshinenggoulejie，dangengbizhendejutiqingkuangshi——youderenjiushiyouyutanlianai，caimeifazaojiuzishen。

 rutongmayilijienazhuanfangdeqingkuangxia，beiwenji“chenggongnvxingshibushinengjunhenghexiejiatinghegongzuozhong”zheigewentishi，tajileyigehaowuyiwendehuiying——bukeyi，junhengdejielunbianshi，nixuyaofangqidiao。

 zheileifangqi，kenengshifangqidiaozishendegongzuozhong，yekenengshifangqidiaozishendejiazhong，zhongjiuyuhexiongzhangbunengjiangu，zongyaozeqiyixuanzhi。

 rutongzainanhaizijiabanjiadiandeqingkuangxia，henyoukenengnvpengyoudeyijumaiyuan，jiuyaotamenpobudeyizhongzhizishenshoutoushangdegongzuozhong，youyunvpengyouyaodezhishishishouhoubale，meineiyangnanji。

zailiruyushangjiyuyutiaozhandeqingkuangxia，henyoukenengyezhengshiyouyuchuyurelianzhizhong，yigeyouxiurencaimeifazhangwo。

 tanlianaishilianggerendeshi，queshixiangrangqingganyoujieguo，jiubixuxianghuzhijianrangbu，zaixianghuzhijianrangbudehuanjiezhong，zhongjiuyigerenbutaikenengyongsuoyoudeshizhangheshijianquzaojiuzishen。

 yeyouyuzheiban，yigexiangzaojiuzigedejiaohaojihui，tongchangshidanshennannvshi，youyuzheigeshihoudezishenwuyiwukao，nenggoumingmuzhangdandiguozishenxiangyaodeshenghuo。

danshennannvdeshijianyuezhang，yuenenglingrenlejieziji

 tidaodanshennannv，xuduorenkenengganjue，danshennannvtongchangbingbushiyijianhaoshi，youqishidaogaitanlianaihehunyindesuishuhaidanshennannv，daduoshubiaomingzheigerenyou“nanti”。

zaizheileiguandianxia，henduorenbuhuizaiganjianchibuxiedanshennannv。

 erhaipajianchibuxiedanshendeyuanyinbuyidingshipengdaolexiaizigederen，zhishiyagenbuxiaodeziyixuyaonaxie，gaiyaoshenme，caipobudeyianpangrendeniantou，renyunyiyunderichangshenghuo。

haosi《shengzheweiwang》zhongdeshengruxi，benlaitamingbaiyaohezuiaiderenwanhun，meipengdaonenggouwuxuxinji。

 keshi，zaimamarentimanmanxiajiang，zaiqinpenghaoyouhepenyouyongwuzhijindebihunzhizhong，tayezhujianzhiyizigedetiaoxuanshifouchulecuo。

neiyiduanshijiandeshengruxi，chadianeryouyushijierrangbu，suiyijiajileyigeheshiwanhun，erbushirangzishenyaoxiangjiehunduixiang。

 yaobushishengruxidebabajuedetabuyinggaiweilegenghaodixianshishenghuoerrangbu，huoxubianbukenengyouyihoudexiaogushi，taderenshengdaolu，yebuhuibianweitazishenderenshengdaolu。

 richangshenghuo，bingbushimeiyigeren，dounengzhixiaoziyixuyaonaxie，henyoukenengzhaoxunzheiyijieguodeqingkuangxia，bixuzishenyigerenpingjingxialaizaiqusikao。

 danhaikeyiqueshideshi，dangyigerenyongyudanshennannv，zaitarenducuxiahaibujiqietanlianaishi，huigenghenrongyixunzhaoneiyigehuida。

shizhongbaochidanshennannv，shenghuopinzhihuigaoxie

 tidao“tanlianai”，henduorendourenweishitianmeide，haoxiangyidantanlianaijiuyongyourenpei，yongyourendong，yongyourenxintong，yongyourenchongni。

danshijishangbingbushizheiyang，naizhiyouyixierichangshenghuodebushunxin，ganghaoshiaiqingchanshengde。

 rutongzhangailingduguoneiyangyijuhua：“woyiweiganqingnenggoupumanrenshengdaoludequehan，shubuzhi，shengchanzhizaogengduodenanguode。queweidushiganqing。”

 danshennannvshi，wuxudanyousheihuixuanzelikaizishen，burongyiyouyuaiqingerpobudeyiguanzheyigeren，yebuyongyouyuqitarengaibianxianzhuang。

huoxuyigerendeshihoushiqueshigudan，dansuiyiyeshiqueshisuiyi。

 zaizheigehuanjiederen，ruoshikeyixiangyouzishenderichangshenghuo，shenghuopinzhitongchanghuigaoxie，zhixuziyixiangyao，meishenmeguobuxingdeshixia。

fandaoshineiyigetanlianaideren，kanqilaiyongyoushouhouzishenderen，chengbenzeshisangshidaliangrendeshouhou。

 yinci，zhiqiannengpeihaopengyoudeshijian，dounalaipeizigedelingyiban；zhiqianguishuyuzigedeshijian，pobudeyitianjialingyiban；zhiqiankeyitiyandesuiyi，pobudeyijijisheqi。

congzheizhongfangmianeryan，lianaideyiyidaodishiweilegenghaodijianqinggudanhuoshiweilegenghaodigengweigudanyebunengqueli。

 youqishiliangrenmeiyouneimaaideqingkuangxia，henyoukenengzaiyiqidesuiyue，haibibushangyigerendesuiyuegengyouxianzizai，fandaoshidanshennannvkanqilaigengchengxin。

 henyunxuxiaobonashuoguodeyijuhua：“woxiangjiehundebianquwanhun，xiangdanshennannvdejiubaochidanshennannv，zongzhidaomoweinimendoushihuihouhuimoji。”

dangyijianshiwubiyaozuotiaoxuandeqingkuangxia，renchangchanghuizaitiaoxuanleyitiaoluhou，qidailingyitiaodaolushangdefengjing。

 yinci，danshennannvderendaoyigerendeshihouhuirenweizishenshifengudan，dangshenbianrendouzaoyitanlianaishi，zheileiwuligangengweimingxian。

 danneiyigetanlianaiderendoubuyidingguodeyouduomehao，henyoukenengqueshitanlianaiyihou，fandaosiniandanshennannvshidesuiyi，tebieshizaizaiheairenzhengzhideqingkuangxia，gengweixiangnianyigerendesuiyue。

 yinci，danshennannvhuoshitanlianai，meiyoubixuweicidanxin，xiangdanshennannvbianxuandanshennannv，xiangtanlianaibianxuantanlianaijiukeyile。

 danshizongyaogaoqingchu，zijizuodetiaoxuan，yinggaishizishentongyide，bubiyouyusuoyourengaibianxianzhuangdeniantou，caisuanshifangzhizishenguoyuhouhuimojidefangfa，zhishaobuhuihouhuimojideqingkuangxiabacuotuijianjitaren。

 zongeryanzhi，danshenhaobuhao？yigerenzhangqidanshenzhendeshiyouyoushide，meiyouyaoxiangtanlianaideqingkuangxia，qidainibuyaosuiyiyouyuyiqiewaizaiyuangutanlianai。