zenme henvhailiaotian ?womendoushihuaizhenaxiexintaizhuangtaiquxianliaode,birenmenruheliaotiangengguanjian。huixianliao,shibiaoshuyouhao。huixianliao,shixuehuifangxiazishen,shiguanxintaren。zenmehenvhailiaotian?huixianliao,bingbushizhidongdeshuohua,zhishimingbailingyifang。
baxianliaodangzuoyihuixingfudehudongjiaoliu,genzijixianliao,jiunengfajue1gebutongdeshengming,1gequanxinshengjidequanqiu。renmenjiuyibushiyihuiganliao,zhishiyihuifajue。
1、在第3句话夸另一方
liru,niyaokuazijidezhangqunpiaoliang,lijikua“wanizheizhangqunkanhaoa”,jiuhenyiban。
keshi,dangnixianwen“zheigezhangqunzainaermaide?”denglingyifanghuiyinghou,nizaikua“queshitingpiaoliangde,ninhaohuichuana。”
huijinidezanmeikanqilaigengzhenxinshiyi。
pengyoukanleneitiaoyihouwen,laozongzheigewaimaisongcannaerdiande。wodenghuiyingyihou,pengyoukuajiusuanwonengchi。
youshibazhenxinhuashuochuqu,jiunengfeichanghaodiwendingqingxufenwei。
2、例如,当你出糗被发觉了,当你都找不着老话了,当你尬聊了,用轻轻松松的语调说几句:“这就尴尬了”
“zheijuhuawoyewufajiele”。
zheifandaonengrangdahuoershifangyalichulai。
yaolejie,xianliaozuiguanjiandebingbushineirong,zhishiqifen。zenmeyanghenvhaiziliaotian?
dahuoerjilaode,shineiyitianwomenliaodaotaigaoxinga,erbingbushineiyitianwomenjiangguonaxie。
3、他人說話,人们能够一惊一乍
nigentarengongxiangyouyisideshi,tarenshuo“e”。
nidetihuiruhe,shifouyishunjianxianglesita?
yincixianghulijiejiuzhidao,xianliaoshibixuxianghuzhijianjilide。
bubitingjiannaxie,douyifu“shaojianduoguai”demoyang,taiaojiaole,taibujinrenqingle,taifanle。
ba“e,zheihenyiqiezhengchanga”,“zheiyounaxie”,“wozaoyizhidao”……
huancheng“shizhendema”,“burongyiba”,“wodediyicijushuo”,“zheihaimanyouyiside”……
huihuayishunjianyouhaoguoduole。
4、heqinqipengyouyuanjialuzhai,kuatadezhuanbian
genhaozhangshijianbulianluodeqinqipengyoupengmian,doushidazhongxingnankandangchang。
“你近期如何?
“挺不错的呀。”
“嗯……”
没有了。
zheizhongqingkuang,renmenyaozuodeshi,zanmeilingyifanggenzhiqianbutongzhichu。
zheihuiranglingyifangganjue,congyiwangdaorujin,niyizhidouzaiguanxinta(qiantitiaojianjiushiniqueshiyaoguanzhutarena,bukeyifuyanleshi,bukeyifuyanleshi!)。
xiaodaobiaomian:ai,woxianzairandetoufayansehenheshini,kanqilainiquanbumianbuhenwenhe。
dadaogangwei:wojidenizhiqianjiuhenxiangganyingshizhizuo,rujinqueshizhichengle,haolihaia!
budankeyixunsugouqizhuiyi,hainenghendazirandikaiqihuatitaolun。
5、另一方讲童话故事的那时候,多问“之后呢”
“zhihouni”,huiranglingyifangganjue,niduitashuodehuatebiexiai。
erbingbushitarenzaizihuazihua,niyizhizaifaleng。
a.woershiyouyihuizouyelu,jieguodiaojinlefenkengli。
B.之后呢?
a.shangxingqiwohenanyouqupaolelutianwenquan。
b.zhihouni?(ganjuedaoyouxiuxiudeshiyaochanshengle……)
wenxintixing,neitiaobushiganyongyigenliuruoyingxianliao。
6、闲聊的前10分鐘,不必不在掌握另一方的状况下,下下结论
liru:weihexuduorenyaochitutoua,haoexinxiangtua。zenmeyanghenvhaiziliaotian?
liru:meifalejie,xuduorenjingranxiaitfboys……
那样很没礼貌啊。
youyuzuozheniduimenderen,jiujiyoukenengxiaichitutou,xiaitfboys,huoshijixiaichitutou、youxiaitfboys……
niyiduanhuajiurenaohenduoren,meibixuba。
7、多问开放式问题,少问是非题
wenshifeiti,feichangrongyibianchenghuatizhongjiezhe。
lirurenmenwen:zuixihuandujialvyouma?
lingyifanghui“xiai”,nijiuhaixing,wanyihui“taoyan”,renmenhaiyaozaicidakai1gexinhuatitaolunle……
yiyangdehuatitaolun,renmenhuangewenfa:“nilaiguoshenmedifangwana?”
lingyifangjiuhuihuiyinghaerbinshamenshishenzhenshiguilinshi……
renmennenggoujiuzhezheiyihuatitaolunliaoxialaile。
yinci,niruguogenwoshuochiguonaxie,wokeyixianchangrangnibaocaiming!
8、kanjianlingyifangdeshuangyan,chengzhidishuoganxiehezaijianle
wulunnizhuyaobiaoxiandeshizaitaikongqi、shizaitaimeiyouyouyuegan……
ruguoniyiqianmeiyouranglingyifangxiabuletai……
neima,zaigeziyiqian,nikanjianlingyifangdeshuangyan,laijijuchengzhidegaobiehexiexie。
zhixuzheiliangzhao,yishunjianyinxiangtuodao80fen。
9、问完户籍所在地、十二星座、岗位、快速找寻并集
yibanrenmenganliaodeneishihouhuiwen,nilaizinali。
keshiwenwanyihou,renmengaiganshani。
zhaoxunyouguanxidediqu,baohanyinshidapeia、tuhuaa、bendirena,nizhangwode,nenggoushuo,danfanmiande。
lirulingyifangshuo,woshihenanren,renmenjiunenggoushuo,“wa,wolejiedehenanrendouhenconghui,bingqiejushuodajiajinniangaokaotainanlee,zhongjiushijinniangaokaoqiangsheng……”tongchangqingkuangxia,lingyifangduizheiyihuatitaolundoushiyouganshou。
wojuede,wenwanhujisuozaidi、shierxingzuo、gangwei,yeyouyiduanhuahengongnengqiangda,“wodepengyou/tongxuemen/pengyou,shizheiyihujisuozaidi/shierxingzuo/gangweide”,suihoujiucongdepengyoudeyoushigangkaishijiang,neiyanglingyifangjiulejie,niduitayouyuanshirenke。
10、迅速精准定位到他近期的某事
jiarushigenbutaishudepenyou,buqingchugaizenmedakaihuatitaolun,nenggouxunsutidaotajinqichanshengdeshiqing。
liruzaidiantishangpengdaobutaishudepengyou,zhaobuzhehualiao。
ninengtiaoxuanquantouchuhandidingzhudiantilidedashuzikan,haikeyitiaoxuanjiazhuangdazirandigentashuo:ai,zhiqianzhimingpinpaixinpinfabuhuishang,nizuodeppthaofeichanghaoa,renmenhaoduogepengyoudoushuo,wanhou,renmenshudiao。
nijiuhuifaxianlingyifangdeliandouxiaolanlewahahaha。
11、将你想跟另一方共享的事儿包裝成密秘
gongxiangzishendeshiershi,duojiajijuxiangjinde“shiqingwomeigentarenshuo,zhigentashuolee”,huiranglingyifanglikeganjueyuniguanlianbu!yi!ban!
yeyou,nenggoujiangnidezanmei,bianweizheizhongquanli。
liru,kuatarendeneishihou,nenggouzaijia,“woshangxiderenfeichangshao”“wozheigerentingkekede”“nishiwoxinzhongyibeizikuaguodebukeduodedehaoduogeren”……
zheihuijinidezanmeiyuelaiyuexiyou,bingbushilanjiedaode,zhishixiandingfashou。
dangran,zheiwubichuangjianzairenmendequehenshangxilingyifangdeqiantitiaojianxia。
坑人是会被揭穿的。
qiaoqiaoduinishuo,zheiyixiaoqiaomen,wozhigennizijishuo!
jiarushuoxianliaoyoudaoheshu,neima,zuiguanjiandeshixianliaozhifa,erbingbushixianliaomishu。
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