夫妻间如何有效沟通

ruhe wanhuihunyin ?qingganwanhuizenmeban?xiabianshinianqingfufujinqichaonaodehuihua：

dangrishiduocinannengkeguidejiatingzhuyaochengyuanjuhui，laopolinshixingwandaole。

 laogong：“daying7dianhoucanyindiande，niweidao，haishuodahua。dahuoerdouhuigenwoshuonizaina，woquandoubuqingchu，worenweizishenrutonggeshazi!”

laopo：“kaishawanxiaohua，nilejiewobushishuodahuade。”

laogong：“wobushijianguannian，yaowozaiyijiaziyanqianhendiumianzi!”

laopo：“jiujingsheirangsheidiumianzi?!fanzhuoniyizhizaidahuoeryanqianjingyanjiaoxunwo，jingranhaiganshuowobuhuirangniqingmian?!”

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tian，jianzhidadademiaomang。

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?renmenpingchangshuofufugoutongjiaoliushifenguanjian，erzheiduifufuzailingtingxianghuyujushifanlejihui，zheibandegoutongjiaoliufangfa，zuizhongzaochengdejieguobixushichaonaotechao，buhuanersan。goutongjiaoliushilingtinghenguanjian，danqiadangdelingting，zeyeshinanrennvrenjiaowangdetoudengdashi。

lingtingyouqiaomenma?hehehe，huoxuyou。

lingtingkefenchengbaohuxinglingting、baofuxintailingtinghejieshouxinglingtingjizhong。

 dangtingdechulingyifangyujuzhongdechize，zuochuzishenfangyuxingdedafushi，jiushishuo“baohuxinglingting”，biru：fouding、bianbodeng。erzuochuchizexingdedafushi，jiuguishuyu“baofuxintailingting”le，biru：jingonglingyifangquexian。

 congneiweiwangminfufuzhengzhidehuihuazhong，nenggou kandechu，laopodeqianduocidafu：“nilejiewobushishuodahuade”，shi“baohuxinglingting”;ranhouduocidafu：“jiujingsheirangsheidiumianzi……”，zeguishuyu“baofuxintailingting”。zheierzhonglingtingfa，qidaozhidejieguodoushishihuimiexingde，xianghubajizhongzhuyilijizhonghuazailingyifangdeguoshishang，fangyuxinchixutisheng，zhengzhiyuelaiyuejilie，huoxubingbushizuimingzhidexuanze。

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?qingshanggaodelingtingzeshi“jieshouxinglingting”，jiyongqianjiudexintailingtinglingyifangdeyuju，buhuiyinbeichizeerqijibaihuai，shizhelizhidiaojiezishendeguannian，congairende“maiyuan”zhongtichachutazhenshideyaoqiu， jinerbajizhongzhuyilicong“tachizewo……”qianyidao“taqidaiwo……”shang，jiangairenchangshuodefumianxinxiyuju，lejiechufanmiandeyuyi。

 yuanyirangganqingbuzaodaohuimiexingzhengzhidesunhai，nijiubixuxuehao“jieshouxinglingting”defangfa。gankuailailianchuweilingyifangfumianxinxiyuju“shentipaidu”zhixingfukuailewuxue：

shouwei，fajuexintaitihui。

 xuduofufushijianyoufenqi，bingbushishijideexingshijian，zhishibixuyouchajueli，danglingyifangyouxintaideneishihou，yaoxunsudefajuelingyifangdexintai。

 airenchukouchengzhang：“nizhenzisizili!”caogaodelingtinghuishi“wojiubuzisizilini!”huozhe“nicaizisizili!”neiyangdehuihuajieguo，yincihuiyanhuaweiyin“sheizisizili”erzhengchaobuxiu，huxianggongji。

 ruhewanhuihunyin?jiaoweigaomingdezuofashi，dangairennaopiqi，jiangchumouxiechizexingdeyujushi，shentipaidudashenburongyiganjueshouzeguai，zhishirenqingyanzangzaiyujushenhoudexintai，zhangwoairenshixiadetihui，yong“taganjue……”tidaifumianxinxiciju。biru，“taganjuefahuo，youyuyemeiyoushijianguannian”，erbingbushi“tazaimawobuchengshi”。yucitongshi，jiuqudechenggongqianyilezishendejizhongzhuyili，nengduiairendexintaishenyoutihui。

qici，lejiexintaizhuangtaiyaoqiu。

 airenhuimaiyuan，youyuta/tadexintaizhuangtaiyaoqiumeiyouhuodekaolv。yinershentipaidudashenshicongairendemaiyuanzhong，zhangwotabixubeikaolvdexintaizhuangtaiyaoqiu，yong“tabixu……”biaoshu“taganjue……”。biru：“tabixurangdahuoerganjue，wohenzhongshita。”

zuihou，gaoqingchugerenxingweiguiding。

 zhishizhangwoairendexintaihexintaizhuangtaiyaoqiu，bingbukeyichedidixiaochuyujuneidusu，yuanyizhenshidijiejuekunnan，zeyao“huayaoqiuweigongjian”。zixide“shentipaidudashen”keyicongairendechizezhong，xunzhaozishennenggou gaishandegerenxingwei，yong“taqidai……”kaolv“tabixu……”。biru：“taqidaiwokeyiduozaiyitadeniantou。”

neiyang，jiunengqingqingsongsongdijiangduifangnaonudemaiyuan，bianweizishentiexindejihua，jizijidexingfuganchixuchuxujiacang!

 qingganwanhuizenmeban?youyiduanhuadahuoernenggou jilaodejiushishuo：meiyicimaiyuandeshenhoushixiwang。yincirenmencongmingdeneishihouyaoqulejiezenyangxiwanglingyifangganshenme，erbingbushiqumaiyuan，erdanglingyifangmaiyuandeneishihou，renmenlejielingyifangbingbushizaimaiyuanzishen，zhishizaiduizishenjinerxiwang。renmenxuehaozenyangqumiaoshuganqinghezenyangtonglixinzairenmenrichangshenghuoqueshihenguanjiandee。