分手了挽留的话，应该怎么说？

 fenshouhouhenduorenhuishouzuwucuo，tamenbuqingchuzenyangyingduizishenhaizuiaideren，gengbuqingchuzenyangwanhuinanyoudexin，yaoxiangwanhuinanyouyebuzhidaogaizenmejiang。gennanshengfenshoudezuihaofangfajiushiliuyouyudi，yinweizheiyangdangnihouhuifenshoulewanliudehua，nicaiyoujihuiwanhuiduifang。danqishijishikansimeiyouwanhuijihuideganqingweiji，yongduilefangfayenengrangfenshouwanliudehuayouchengxiao。youqishinvshenggennanyoufenshouhou，gengfeichangrongyipianji、ziganduoluo，neimefenshouhouwanhuinanyoudehuayingdangzenmejiang？

一、你挽回的情况下要搞清楚哪些

wanhuideqingkuangxia，nixuyaosisuoyigenanti：ninanyouweiheyaoliquzishen？

 dabufennvshengbuqingchunanshengdexinliyaoqiu，buqingchuzenyangjiyulingyifanghaowuyiwen。bunankanchu，conggudaojin，qudechenggongdenanshidoubeisuzaobiancheng“yiwu”、“jingjifazhan”、“gongzuonengli”、“zhicheng”dequannengxingpinpaixingxiang，dajiadoulejietamenweilegenghaodizuodaoshehuifazhanduitamendeguifanhenvshengduitamendechongzuqidai，touruleduoshaodeqinfen。dangnvshengxiangyoudaozheiyinanshengyongjiejinquanlijinidazaochudexingfushenghuo，nilejietabixushenmema？shijishangnanshengbixubeihaowuyiwen，rutongnvshengbixubeilejieyiyang。nvshengchangshuowoxuyaoyigezaihunidenansheng。woxuyaotatiexin、zixi、tiexin。nanshengweihebubiyigedongtadenvsheng？keshi，nanshengdeguidingbingbingbuxiangnvshengneibanduozhongduoyang，tamenzuibixudeshinvshengdehaowuyiwen！

二、讲话要留意2个关键

 jianghuahaiyaoliuyifangfa，youqishiwanhuihuanjie。yingduiyigechedimeiyoufengcaidenvsheng，nixuyaokaolvdaotananyoudeqingxu。naxiedejianghuashejifenggeburongyizaochengtadedichunaizhiwufadedaozancheng？

1.shitalaizhengqueyindaohuihua

 zhengqueyindaoyigenanshengtanzishen，biaoshuzishen，jinengzhangwotaderichangshenghuo，younengtishengtadezijintouru。lirunixiaidujialvyouma，laiguoshenmedifang？suihouzheigerenbianhuibutingdijiangtadelvyou。huanjuhuashuo，nijuededeyouquyouxiedaoli。nizenmezhidao？yincinanshenghaiyoujihuizaikuakuaziji。

2.ranglingyifangganshoudaonidejijizhudong

 bubiganjuezishenminganduoyi。jiarunirangzishentongchu，nanshenghuigengaizheni。shijishangnannvguanxideshizhi，bianshiliangrenyiqixiangqianzou，zaojiuchuyijiayichaoguoerdexingfukuaile。jiaruniyitiandaowanyouxinchongchong，xiaochenxiaochen，zongshirangyigenanshengbuyuanyiyuniyouzhangqideguanlian。

三、挽回全过程中的三个“不”

fenshouhou，dajiaruguohaizuopengyou，neimexianliaodeqingkuangxiajiuxuyaoliuyifangzhiyixiehuatitaolun。

1.bubitiqingganhuatitaolun

 fenshouhoudajiaxianliaobubitanqinggan，zailianluodeqingkuangxia，tamenhuoshihendanxinde。yifanghaiduininyouqinggan，lingyifangpanifanhuizhiqiandeqingkuang。zheigeshihoutanqinggan，huijilingyifangfeichangdadegongzuoyali，zuochuzaidufangqinidejuece。

2.不必争执

 dajiazaiyiqifenshou，shiyouyufenqicaifenshoude。jiaruniyaoganjuezishenjianchibuxiezishendeniantou，gangbiziyong，neimejiumeiyourenxiangyaoyunixianliaole。meiyigerendouyingdangbeilejieherentong。ninyouzishendeniantou，shide，keshiniyeyaomingbailingtinghezunzhongtarendeniantou。

3.bubiqieduanlingyifangdehuatitaolun