分手后还能做朋友吗

 xiangxinjingliguofenshouderen，jibenshangdouhuizaifenshouzhichuwenduifanglianggehenshadewenti。yigeshiniaiguowoma？yigeshifenshouhouhainengzuopengyouma？fenshoushuoainiderenyaozhuyi，kenengbingfeizhenxin。erqiefenshouzaishuowoaini，yeyijingwanle。

 henduorendouhuijuede“fenshouhouzuobuchengpengyou。yinweiyiqianlianshentidounengjinqu，xianzailianpengyouquandoujinbuqu，haizuonamenzipengyou？”keshi，zheizhongxiangfaqishifeichangzhuguan，shenzhiyoudianxiaai。yinweituolileduixianglaitanxianxiang，jiushishualiumang。shenmeyisini？

 jiandandeshuo，jiushi“zhanzheshuohuabuyaoteng”。ruguonizhengzaijinglizheiyangyifenganqing，zaimianduitongyigewenti，xiangxinnidehuidahuibuyiyang。yinweizheigeshijieshangmeiyousuoweidegantongshenshou，zhiyoulengnuanzizhi。yinci，womenxuyaoqufenqingkuang。weishenmehuiyourentichufenshouhouhainengzuopengyouma？

一、接受不了打击，内心太痛苦

 zheigujishideyigeyuanyin。yinweituranyaojieshouyige“congairendaomoshengren”deshishi，shiyijianhencanrenhentongkudeshi。suoyijuedabufenrenhuixuanzezaineixin“qiqiu”keyixiancong“pengyou”zuoqi，rangzijiyougehuanchong，buzhiyuyixiashiquzhizhujiubengta。

二、余情未了，期待转机

 zheigeyuanyindezhanbiyetongyangfeichangzhida。yinweizhiyaoshizhenzhengdexiangaiguo，nayouneimerongyishuofangxiajiufangxia？jiusuanyouyigerenhenxin、wuqingwuyi，yebukenenglianggerendouzheiyang。zongyouyigerenhuiyouliunian，huiduiguoqudelianqingyiyibushe，bingqiehaixincunhuanxiangkeyifuhe。

 suoyitamenhuitichuzuopengyou，yinweizuopengyoukeyibaochilianxi，buzhiyulengluo，buzhiyuduifangbeirenqiangzou，huozheaishangtaren。erzijikeyizai“zuopengyou”delushang，yongxinxiufuzheiduanganqing，qituzairanglianggerenzouzaiyiqi。fenshouzaishuowoaini，kenengshiaidetaichi，zheishihouxuyaokanzijishifouhaiyouganqing。

三、暂时封闭，以退为进

 zheiyangderenaidebijiaoshenchen，danyebijiaonuoluo。yinweitamenzhidaoxianzaizaiyiqibuhuixingfu，lianggerenbuheshi，danyoumeiyouduizheiduanganqingwanquanpan“sixing”，ershipanlege“sihuan”。yejiushishuo，tamenzhisuoyixianzaibuduanranfenshouranhouduanjuesuoyouguanxi，shipayihouzijihuihouhui。danshiyoubunengxianzaijiufuhe，suoyichiyige“guanwang”detaidu。

 dangran，youderenshizhidaoxianzaibuheshi。suoyixiangxianyi“pengyou”deshenfenxiangchuzhe，lianggerenzaiqutisheng、gaibianziji，erhouzaifuhemohe。danbuguannayizhong，qishidoushi“yituiweijin”，zhishizanshibazijibaoguoqilai。

 jiangwanleyuanyin，xiamianlaishuoshuowomendezhuti。fenshouhouhainengzuopengyoude，jiushiyigerenfangxialechedibuai，yigerenmeifangxiaqidaizhuanji。yinweilianggerendoufangxialejiusuoxingxingtongmolu；lianggerendoufangbuxiajiugancuifuhele。suoyi，ruguonihaifangbuxia，haiqidaizhuanji。jiuyaoshefajianliqi“pengyou”zheicengguanxi，buyaojuededuifangdoubuaile，zuopengyouhaiyoushenmeyiyi？shijianjiule，nijiuzhidaoyoushenmeyiyi，yaoxiangxinshijiandeliliang。

 fenshouhoubuganxin，fenshoushuoainidezheizhong，xiangchengweipengyoucongerhuoqufuhedejihui。xianranshiyouzheizhongkenengde，womenshenbianfenfenhehedelizishubushengshu。yinweihenduorenhuixiang，ruguozuolepengyou，haikeyiouergentaliaoliaotian，buzhiyuyiranxihuandeqingxuwuchushifang。

 suiranyoushihouhuizhiyizijizheiyangzuozhendeyoumeiyoubiyao，danhaishibuganxinjiuzheimejieshu。yechangshiguozaizheiduanganqinglifuchunuli，xiangzuopengyouyezhishixiwangyouyitianchaoguopengyouzhongxinzaiyiqi。zheizhongqingkuangshipubiancunzaide。zhiyuzuihounengbunengfuhe，neisheidoubunengdabaopiao。yinweiganqingdeshi，meiyoubiaozhundaan，zhiyoucankaodaan。