什么才是真正的搭讪?不要为了搭讪而搭讪

 “hainihao，wozaineibiandengpengyou，ganghaokandaoni，ganjuenimanbucuode，jiushanglairenshiyixiani，danshiwodepengyouhaizaineibiandengwo，suoyishuowoyaojinkuaideganhuiqu，yaobuwomenjiageweixinba。”kanguo《langjidashanxiu》dexiongdi，kendingduizheiduanjietoudashanduibaizaizaishuxibuguole。dashankaichangbaishenzhiyiduyouxueyuanrenweizheishiyiduanshenqidezhouyu，dangwomennianwanzheiduanzhouyuzhihou，dashannvshengjiuhuibaweixinjiwomen，ranhoujiuhuigennvshengyouyiduanmeihaodexiehou。

zaizheiliwohenzhenchengdegaosuxiongdimen：

“daxiongdi，nixiangduole，zheigeshishangmeiyoualadingshendeng，yebuhuiyoushenmeshenqimolizhouyudecunzai。”

 huiyouzheizhongxiangfadexiongdimen，shiyinweihaimeiyoulijieshenmeshidashan，dashandezhenzhengyiyishishenme?dashankaichangbaishizenyangde？jietoudashanbujiandan。

shuobaile，tamenjiushiweiledashanerdashan。

qishidashanbingbushishangqushougehaozheimejiandandeshiqing，tayouhenduoxijiexuyaozhuyi。

erqiezaidashanzhong，youxuduoqianzaidehaochu，bingmeiyoubeixiongdimenfaxian。

jiuxiangniyiweinizhaodaoleyizuobaozang，qishinilianmenhaimeiyoujinqu。

neime，jiujingshenmecaishidashanni?dashankaichangbaiyaozenmeshuoni？

dangnilijieyixiawenti，nijiumingbaishenmecaishizhenzhengdedashan。

一、搭讪前的准备

shouxianzuoyijianshiqing，kendingyaonongmingbaidashandeyuanyin，dashankaichangbaibiru：

dashankeyirangwomengengzhijie、genggaoxiaoderenshinvsheng;

dashanshimianduimiandejiaoliu，nenggenghaodiguanchahejiechunvsheng;

dashanzhixutouruyidiandianyongqi，jiunengrenshixinyidenvsheng，erqietongguodashan，hainengkuaisudiceshichuduifangshifoupaichiziji。

dangran，dashangengnengpeiyangwomendeshejiaojineng，dashanduole，gennvshengdejiaoliuyejiugengjiashunchangheziran。

二、搭讪的基本参数

yangeshangjiang，dashanyeshiyizhongshejiaoliyi，ruguobuzhuzhongyixiejibendoucanshu，neimeshibaikendinghuichengweibiran。

juti，yinggaizuohaoyixiajidian：

01街头搭讪

良好的形象

woxiangzheidianjiubuyongduoshuole，dangxiashehuimeiyouyigerenhuiduiyigeyizhelataderenganxingqu。

02街头搭讪

礼貌的谈吐

shouxianniyaoyouyigelimaodetantu，yusubuyaoguokuai，tuziqingxi，nisuobiaodadeneirongyaorangnvshengnenggoutingmingbai。

haiyouyixiejiushiwomendezhitiyuyan，tebieshiyixiexinshoutongxue，youyujinzhangdeyuanyin，kenengshoujiaobuzhidaozenmefang。

zheigeshihounikenengganjuebudao，danshizainvshengdeyanli，quekandeqingqingchuchu。

qianqijianyikeyizijiduizhejingzimofangyixia，kanxiazijidezhitidongzuo。

03

绅士的作风

zheiyidianyexiangdangzhongyao，bulundashanshifouchenggong，douyinggaibaochinanrenyinggaidoudeshenshifengdu。

dangnvshengjujuedeshihou，yaozuodaobujiuchan，bufanlian，bueyuzhongshang。

dangdashannvshengchenggonghou，yeyingbaochijibendefengdu，buzhanyongduifangshijian，limaodishuoshengxiexie，zhihouzaikaiqixianshangliaotian。

tazhengleyixia，fangfohouhoudeyuncenglitouchuyisiguang，yujiedebiaoqingjianjiansongsan。

“xiexieni，womingbaile!”tarenzhendekanzhewo，huole25sui，gongxitazhongyudunwule。

meiyouxiandudejiechu+hezhengpainanyoukansibinlinposuideganqing，rangnanguimibachibuzhujianzhibuyaotaizhengchang。

zheigeshijieshangshengxintaixingquxiangdouzhengchangdenannvpengyouzhijianyoumeiyouchunyouyi，yizhishigebeishouzhengyidehuati。

三、搭讪的焦虑

meigerendouhuiyoudashanjiaolv，zheishirendebennengfanying，xiangyaowanquankefudashanjiaolvshihennande。

zheiliyaozuodejiushitongguoziwodiaojie，bazheizhongjiaolvzuixiaohua。

zaiwogenxueyuandejiaoliuzhong，wofaxianyouhenduoxueyuantamenzaidashanshi，douhuiqujiujiezheisangewenti：

01

搭讪会不会被打?

shouxian，yaogaoqingchu，dashanbushidangjieshualiumang，ershiyizhongzhengchangdezhuiqiunvshengdefangshi。

qici，zhiyaowomenanzhaodashandejibencanshuwenminglimaodegennvshengjiaoliu，yebuhuiyoushenmewenti。

jiusuancishinvshengdenanpengyouchuxian，zhiyaowomenlimaowenmingdezhudongcheli，jiubuhuifashengdajiadeqingkuang。

 zuihou，dajiayeshixuyaoyigeguochengde，tashisuizhewomenqingxudaodayigediancaihuibaofade，shaoweiyoudianshejiaozhijuederen，doubuhuibaqingxuehuadaozheigedian。

02

dashanduoleshibushihenhuaxin?

youzheizhongxiangfaderen，genbenjiumeiyoumingbaidashandezhenzhengyiyi。

dashanzhishiyizhongjiaoyoufangshi，congrenshidaojiaowangtashixuyaoyigeguochengde，erbushishuoniqudashanrenjia，renjiajiujinijiaowang。

 womenyinggaizheiyangxiang，benlaimingyunzhishianpaiwomencajianerguo，danshitongguowomenzijidenuli，womenjingranhaiyouleyixiejiandandejiaoliu;

shenzhihaiyoujihuizuopengyouhuozhefazhanchenggengshendeguanxi，zheizhongnitiandexingwei，yinggaihenyouchengjiugan。

03

dashanbeijujueleshibushihensb?

xiongdimen，qianwanbunengyouzheizhongsiwei。

nixianga，rujinzheigeshidai，dajiadouhenmang，meiyourenhuizhuyinizaizuoshenme，yemeiyourenguanxinnizheixie。

chufeinizijirenweizijishisb,fouze，yagenmeiyourenhuizheiyangrenweini。

四、搭讪的目的

搭讪的目的是什么?

dangzheigewentipaochuquzhihou，juedaduoshudedaankendingshishouhao。

ruguonizheiyangxiang，nijianghuishiquhenduodashandelequ。

dashanzhenzhengdemude，jinkenengdeduogennvshenggoutongjiaoliu。

yifangmianjinkenengdeguanchanvsheng，congnvshengshenshangshequgengduodexinxi;

 lingyifangmianzhanshiziji，jinvshengliuxiayigehenhaodechushiyinxiang，liuxiahaogan，weihouqideliaotian，guanxishengwen，yaoyuezuopudian。

shuodezhijieyidian，keyibadashanxiangxiangchengwomenjinvshengdediyiciyuehui。

五、搭讪邀请

 tongchangqingkuangxia，ruguonvshengnenggoumeiyoudiyideyuniduishiliangmiaozhongzuoyou，neimezheijiushiyigehenhaodedashanchuangkou，womenchengzhiweidashanyaoqing。

zenmepanduannvshengshifouyouxingquxianggennijixujiaoliuxiaquni?

1.nvshengyuanyiweinitingxialai

2.yuanyichaoxiangnijinishuohua

3.mianbuhuiyouyixieyouhaodebiaoqing

 ruguowomennenggouzaidashanzhongcongnvshengshenshangbuzhuodaozheixiexinxi，neimejiushuomingzheigenvshengduiwomenhaishihenyouxingqude，zhishaobushitaoyanneizhong。

六、搭讪的进阶玩法

xingyeneiyouzheiyangyizhongwanfa，jiushijiyichangdashanjinxingpingfen，dazhibuzhouyou6bu，meizuodaoyibude10fen。

1.buganshangqudashanjiushi0fen。

2.zhiyaoyongganshangqudashanjiushi60fen(hege)。

3.nenggoushouhao，de70fen(zheilikeyikanchu，qishidashanshouhaochenggongbuchenggongyiyibushihenda)。

4.ruguonenggoujinvshengyoujiandandejiaoliukeyide80fen。

5.ruguowomenzaijiaoliudeguochengzhong，nenggouzuochuyaoyue。

 (zheilideyaoyue，yekeyishimohuyaoyuebuquedingshijiandeneizhong，yekeyishijishiyaoyue，zhiyaowomennengshuochulai，buguannvshengshifoutongyi，womendoukeyidedao90fen)

6.ruguoxiangyaodedaomanfen，neijiushinvshengdayingyaoyue。

 dashanjiangjiudeshiyigezhengtidefenwei，tongshiyexiwangxiongdimennenggoujinkuaideduguodechujidashandejieduan，buyaoweiledashanerdashan。

ershiyinggaizaidashanzhongxunzhaoyixielequ，weilezijierdashan。

rangdashanchengweizijishenghuodeyibufen，zheiyangcainengzhenzhengyiyishangdequrenshizijixihuandenvsheng。

erwojintiansuojiangdezheixiedashankaichangbaizhishi，haizhishizuijichudedongxi。