怎么促进夫妻沟通和谐

　　zenmecujinfuqigoutonghexie，zhangwoyixieyouxiaodeqingxugoutongjiqiaoduiyufuqiguanxidehexieyouweizhongyao。xiamianjiangxiangxichanshufuqijianqingxugoutongdeyixieguanjianjiqiao，bingjieheshijishilizuochushuoming。

　　一、聆听和理解

　　qingtingshigoutongdediyibu，yeshizuizhongyaodeyibu。zaifuqigoutongzhong，yaoxuehuinaixinqingtingduifangdeguandianhetihui，buyaojizheqieduanhuofabiaozijidekanfa。

　　tongshi，yaochangshilijieduifangdelichangheqinggan，zhanzaiduifangdejiaodusikaowenti。zheiyangkeyirangduifangganshoudaobeizunzhonghelijie，jinergengyuanyiyunifenxiangxinlidexiangfa。

　　biru，dangqizimaiyuangongzuoyalidashi，zhangfunenggounaixinqingtingtasushuo，bingchangshilijietadeyalihekunrao。keyishuo：“wozhidaonijinqigongzuohenxinku，wonengganshoudaonideyali。womenkeyiyiqixiangxiangbanfa，kankanzenyanghuanjienideyali。”zheiyangdehuiyinghuishiqiziganshoudaozhangfudeguanxinhezhichi，jinerzengjinbicideganqing。

　　二、表达与沟通

　　zaigoutongzhong，biaodazijidexiangfahetihuiyiyangzhongyao。keshi，yaozhuyibiaodadefangfaheyudiao，fangzhiguoyujiliehuolengmo。yaojinliangyongpingjing、lixingdeyuqibiaodazijidejianjie，tongshizunzhongduifangdejianyi。zaibiaodashi，keyiliyong“woyu”laibiaodazijidexiangfayuxuqiu，erfeizhizeduifang。

　　biru，dangzhangfujuedeqiziguoyumangliuerhushilejiatingshi，keyishuo：“wozuijinjuedejiazhongyouxielengqing，woxiwangwomennengduoyixieshijianxiangchu。

　　wozhidaonihenmang，danshiwoyexiwangninengzaiyoukongdeshihouduopeipeiwo。”zheiyangdebiaodajibiaodalezijidexuqiu，youbimianlezhizeduifang，gengrongyidedaoduifangdelijiehezhichi。

　　三、尊重与包容

　　zaifuqigoutongzhong，zunzhongyubaorongshigoujianhexieguanxideqianti。meigerenyoumeigerendegexinghexiguan，yaoxuehuizunzhongduifangdechabie，buyaoshitugaibianduifang。tongshi，yeyaobaorongduifangdequedianhebuzu，yongkuanrongdexintaiduidaiduifangdecuowu。

　　biru，dangqizifajuezhangfuyouchouyandexiguanshi，nenggoubiaodazijidejiaolvhebuman，danyeyaozunzhongzhangfudetiaoxuan。keyishuo：“wozhidaonixiyanshiyouyuyalida，danshiwoyedanyounidejiankang。

　　womenkeyiyiqixiangxiangbanfa，kankanruhejianshaochouyandepinlv。”zheiyangdegoutongfangfajibiaodalezijidejiaolv，youzunzhonglezhangfudetiaoxuan，gengrongyidedaozhangfudelijiehepeihe。

　　四、从容应对矛盾

　　zaifuqiguanxizhong，maodunshinanyibimiande。keshi，yaoxuehuicongrongyingduimaodun，bunengrangmaodunshengji。zaimaodunfashengshi，yaobaochilixinghelixing，fangzhiqingxuhuadeyanyuyuxingwei。tongshi，yaochangshicongduifangdejiaodusikaowenti，xunzhaoshuangfangdounengjieshoudejiejuefangfa。

　　biru，dangfuqiyouyujiatingkaizhinantichanshengmaodunshi，nenggouzuoxiayiqitaolunzheigewenti。keyishuo：“wojuedewomenzaijiatingkaizhishangxuyaogengjiaheliyixie，womenkeyiyiqizhidingyigeyusuanjihua。”

　　suihoushuangfangkeyijiuyusuanjihuadejutineirongzhankaitaolunheshangyi，zuizhongzhaodaoyigeshuangfangdounengjieshoudejiejuefangfa。zheiyangdegoutongfangfajijiejuelenanti，youbimianlefenqideshengji。

　　五、维持情感联系

　　zenmecujinfuqigoutonghexie？zaifuqiguanxizhong，weichiqingganlianxishifeichangzhongyaode。jibianzairichangshenghuozhongmangliubuyi，yeyaoshikeguanzhuduifangdeqingxuyuxuqiu。keyitongguoyixiexiaojudonglaibiaodazijideguanhuaiguanzhu，rusongshangyishuxianhua、yigeyongbaohuozheyijuwennuandewenhou。zheixiexiaojudongkeyirangduifangganshoudaonideaiyiheguanxin，jinerzengjinbicideganqing。