挽救婚姻：夫妻吵架怎么找他沟通

　　fuqichaojiazenmezhaotagoutong？helaogongchaojiale，zenmefaxinxirangtadong?zheigewentishejidaofuqigoutongdeyishuhecelve，yixiajidianjiangweinitigongxiangxidejieda：

　　一、明确沟通的目的和行为

　　zaifasongxinxiyiqian，yaomingquegoutongdemudehexingwei。zheicidegoutongshiweilejiejuenanti，huifufuqizhijiandehexieguanxi，erbushiweilezhizeduifanghuozhejixuzhengzhi。

　　yinci，zaixinxizhong，yaobiaodachuzijidezhenshiganshouhexiangfa，tongshiyaobiaoxianchuduiduifangdezunzhongheguanxin。bimianshiyonggongjixingdeyanyuhuoshiqingxuhuadebiaodafangshi。

　　二、承认自己的错误

　　zaixinxizhong，yaochengrenzijidecuowu。jiusuannijuedezijimeiyoucuo，yeyaochengrenzijikenengchuxiandebuzuzhichu。zheimezuonenggoubiaoxianchunidechengyiheyuanyichuliwentidetaidu。tongshi，yekeyirangduifanggandaobeizunzhonghelijie。

　　三、表达感受与需求

　　zaixinxizhong，yaobiaodachuzijideganshouheyaoqiu。biru，nikeyishuo：“wogandaohenshangxin，youyuwomenzhijiandeyijianbuhezaochenglezhengzhi。woxiwangwomenkeyiyiqizhaodaoyigejiejuefangfa，rangwomendeguanxikeyigengjiajiankang。”tongguozheiyangdebiaodafangshi，keyirangduifanglejienideganshouyuxuqiu，congergenghaodilejienidelichang。

　　四、提出解决方案

　　zaixinxizhong，yaotichuyixiejutidejiejuefangan。biru，nikeyishuo：“womenkeyiyiqizuoxia，xinpingqiheditantanzheigewenti，zhaodaoyigegongtongdejiejuefangan。huoxuwomenkeyizhaodaoyizhongtuoxiedefangfa，rangwomendounenggougandaomanyi。”

　　tongguotichujiejuefangan，keyirangduifanggandaonishizairenzhensikaonanti，bingqiexiwangzhaodaoyigetuoshandejiejuebanfa。tongshi，yekeyiyindaofuqizhijiandeduihuaxiangzhejiejuewentifangxiangfazhan。

　　五、给予肯定与支持

　　zaixinxizhong，yaojiyuduifangrenkehezhichi。biru，nikeyishuo：“wozhidaonizaizheigewentishangyeyouzijidekanfahekanfa，woshifenzunzhongnideyijian。

　　tongshi，woyexiangxinwomenkeyiyiqikefuzheigewenti，rangwomendeguanxigengjiawengu。”tongguozheiyangdebiaodafangshi，keyirangduifanggandaobeizunzhongyuzhichi，congertigaofuqizhijiandexinrenganheqinmigan。

　　六、邀约对方参加对话

　　zaixinxizhong，yaoyaoyueduifangcanjiaduihua。biru，nikeyishuo：“woxiwangwomenkeyiyiqizuoxia，xinpingqiheditantanzheigewenti。woxiangxintongguoduihua，womenkeyizhaodaoyigegongtongdejiejuefangan。”tongguoyaoqingduifangcanjiaduihua，keyirangduifanggandaonidechengyiheyuanyichuliwentidetaidu。tongshi，yekeyicujinfuqizhijiandehudonghejiaoliu。

　　七、提醒对方夫妻关系的珍贵性

　　zaixinxizhong，yaotixingduifangfuqiguanxidezhenguixing。biru，nikeyishuo：“womendefuqiganqingshiwomenshenghuozhongzuizhongyaodeguanxizhiyi。

　　woxiwangwomenkeyiyiqinuliweihuzheigeguanxi，bunengrangyixiexiaowentiyingxiangdaowomenjiandeganqing。”tongguozheiyangdebiaodafangshi，keyirangduifanggandaoniduifuqiguanxideguanzhuhezhenshi，congergengjiazhenxiyuweihuzheigeguanxi。

　　八、以积极的方式结束信息

　　zaixinxizhong，yingyijijidefangfajieshu。biru，nikeyishuo：“rangwomenyiqinulichulizheigewentiba!woxiangxinwomenkeyiduguozheigenanguan，rangwomendeguanxigengjiawengu。”tongguoyijijidefangshijieshuxinxi，keyirangduifanggandaonidexinxinhejuexin，congertigaofuqizhijiandexinrenganheqinmigan。

　　九、考虑对方反应和体会

　　fuqichaojiazenmezhaotagoutong？zaifasongxinxiyihou，yaokaolvduifangfanyinghetihui。biru，duifangkenenghuiduinidejianyibiaoshitongyihuoshifandui。ruguoduifangfanduinidetiyi，yaolengjingdichazhaoyuanyinbingzhongxinjinxingjiaoliu。tongshiyeyaozhuyiduifangdeqingxugaibianhefanyingfangshi，congergenghaodilijieduifangdelichangyuxuqiu。