花镇：新婚夫妻应该怎么沟通

　　xinhunfuqiyinggaizenmegoutong？shenghuoshifanzafansuode，meigerenyoumeigerendekunnan，genghekuangshilianggerenzaiyiqimaodunhewentihuigengduo，zheishijiuxuyaodongdeyixiegoutongjiqiaole。

　　一、常常夸奖对方

　　meigenvrendouxihuanbierenkuajiang，youqishizijidelaogong，nanrenyishiruci。fuqizhijianbuyaoyinweijiehunshijianjiureqingjiantui，erkanbujianduifangdeyoudian，pingshideshihouyaoshibushidikuajiangduifang，nizheiyangkendingxintainengrangbicirongyichanshengzhengxiangdejijihudong。huayanqiaoyushifuqizhijianzuihaodecuiqingsu。

　　二、感谢的话天天说

　　jingchangyaoduilingyibanshuoxiexie。henduorenyinweiwanhunshijianjiule，jiangduifangdefuchushizuolisuoyingdang，shiquganenzhixin。xiangyaoweichichilianghaoguanxi，fuqidouyaozairichangshenghuozhonggaojiezijibuwangganxieduifangweijiatingdefuchu。

　　三、“听”比“说”关键

　　yibanrenlijiedegoutongshiruhebaneixindexiangfabiaodaqingchu，cezhongdianzaibiaodashang。qishigoutongdeguochengbaohanting、shuohemingbai。zaizheisangeyaosuzhong，tingshizuiweiguanjianheguanjiande，tingzheiyibuzuodehao，shuohemingbaicainengtixianchulaitamendeyiyi。

　　yincizhankaiduihuayiqian，bixuxiantingdaoduifangxiangfa。henduofuqixiangchujiule，henrongyiziyiweihenlejiebici，budengduifangjiangwan，jiufanzaodeqieduan，shijianjiulehouziranjiuwufagoutong。xiangyaoyouduihua，xianconglingtingkaishizuoqi。

　　四、彼此尊重

　　guanxihaodefuqidoushizunzhongduifangdelichang，changshilejiebicijiazhiguandechabie，buyin‘woshiweinihao’weijiekoujiangzijidexiangfaqiangjiazailingyibanshenshang。suoweizunzhong，baohanfangzhishitugaibianduifang、huozhekanqingduifangdexiangfayujianyi。dabufenfuqizhisuoyizaiyiqishiyouyushuangfangkeyitengchushijianhuhuanxiangfaheganqing。

　　五、建立消极情绪的理性沟通法则

　　fuqizhijianzhengchaofapiqishizhengchangdeshiqing，danshidefangzhijileibuman。birugoutongshibuyaosuibianluanchahua，xianpingxinjingqibaduifangdehuatingwan。zheiyangzhidinghaoxiaojiqingxudelixinggoutongfaze，nenggoubuxubumanjilei，rangbiciderenzhichuxianjudaluocha。

　　六、造就两人独处时间

　　xuduofuqijiehunhouyinweishenghuogezhongsuoshidanduxiangchushijianyuelaiyueshao，youqishihaizichushenghouzheizhongqingkuanggengmingxian。meizhounenggouheduifangdanduxiangchuyiduanshijian，duchunenggourangrenshiqiyouyushenghuosuoshieryiwangdekuaile。

　　七、急话要慢说

　　zaixinqingjizaoshi，fuqizhijiangoutonghuishifangweizhuanbianjingong。zheishihuadaozuibian，yaoxianrenyiren，youxieshihouyuegoutongchaodeyuexiong，jiushiyinweiji，jikaolvyingguoduifang，zhengshiwomenshiduide。danfuqixiangchu，zhengdebushishengfuduicuo，ershiruherangjiatingfengonggengtuodangyuchangtongdeyunxing。

　　八、狠话别说

　　henhua、qihua、edudehua，budanduishiermeixiezhu，duigoutongdoumeihaochu，tongchanghaijifuqiganqingdaozhizhimingyiji。suoyiwomenshuochudeyaoshoudaoyuezhi，zheijiuxuyaowomenzijixianneizaizuoqingxudediaojie，caibuhuichuxianchuxian‘shashangli’jingrendeshikongxingwei。

　　九、抱怨的话换方法说

　　xinhunfuqiyinggaizenmegoutong？beirenzhizehenshaoyourennengxuxintingqu，beirenbaoyuanshi，henduorendiyixiangfabianshiduihuiqu，dangxinliqueshiyoubaoyuanshi，yeyaohuanyigefangfashuo。jiangnixinlibaoyuanhuanlingwaiyizhongfangshishuo，yenenghuanlaiduifangdehaoxinqing。