吵架了需要冷静吗？真的有作用吗？

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一、吵架了需要冷静吗？真的有作用吗？

1、mianduiqiangliedezhengchaoweiheyidingyaolengjing

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2、gaizenmekongzhiqingxubingshiqianxian

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