有多少爱可以重来?挽回前男友的最佳时机

 qingganzhendeshigehenqitedewupin，xuduo qingkuangxiazaiwomenzhishenzaiqizhongdeqingkuangxia，jingchangbuqingchuzishendeqingganlichulenaxieqingkuang，zhizhifenshouhoucairumengchuxing、huizhiwanyi。jinrijiulaijiaodahuoerzenyangfanghuanyuweiran，wanjiuganqing。jiarucuoguojihui，youzenyangyunyongshehuixinlixuekexueyanjiudewanliunideaiqing。neimeyouduoshaoaikeyizhonglaini?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanyouduoainidewenzhangba。

 buqingchunishibushihainengjiqidajiagangzaiyiqiqingkuangxiadeqinggan。shixiangzhixiangxihuanshitongbingxianglian，huanshimingxiandexiongxingheermengxiyinzhuni?yaoxiangzaiganqingzhongweichi“kongwen”，nizuixianyaozhaodaonidebiaozhunzhi，erdangshixiyinzhudajiazaiyiqidejuedebianshininenggouyingyongdecanzhaofazhi。

 zaizhongguoyiyuanzhiliaofajichulilunli，dajiabazheilei“kongwen”qingkuangchengweiaidechangsuo。yinci ，nidenongqingchuniyiqiansuozaideqingkuangshizaiyigenaxiedechangsuoli!

 liru，niyizhizaidajiadeguanlianliyizhishibeiguanai，beijiaochongdehuanshiniyizhizaiganqinglichangchangshiwusifengxiande。youliruniyizhizaiganqinglishichangchangmomoliuleidehuanshijingchangkuailekaixinde。zheizhongquanshiniganqinglijichudesecai。

 wojingchanghuichupengdaoxuduo beifenshoudexiaohuohuopiaoliangxiaojiejie。buqingchunishifouhuihetayiyang，zhenduibeifenshouzhuyaobiaoxiandeyilianzhenjinghekelian!ziranwokeyilejiedajianeimaqianxinderangzishenzhiliuzaiganqinglishi，henyoukenengqueshibukeyizhuyidao，henkenengjiuzaidajiaxianghuzhijianqinmihuoshihuxiangxiangyongdetianmeishixia，henyoukenengdajiadeganqingyijingqiaoqiaodichanshengzheniwufafajuedezhuanbian!

一、什么分手的数据信号

 beifenshoushi，dajiajingchangganjuehuran，danshijishangmeiyichangfenshouquanshibinshuangkexunde。jiaruninengzaizheiyiqianchajuebingshidangdejiejuezheizhonganquanyinhuan，neimajiunengbimian fenshoudechansheng。huizongeryan，qinggandechuxianlvdeng，jingchanghuizhuyaobiaoxianzaixialiecengmian：

1、yuyanxintaiheyuyanneirongdegenggai

 youduoaini,yuyanshibenzhiquanqiudefayinqi。dangairenyiqianneineixinjujilehenduodebumanyihuoshinaonudeqingkuangxia，jingchanghuihenxiangyaogenjuyuyanbiaodanenglichuqu。zheileihanyoumingxiandexintaiyansedehuihuajiubeidajiachengzuozhengzhi!

 yibanzhuangkuangxiadajiadouduizhengzhihenjingxing，dajiahuilejieyouyuzhengzhiworedaolingyifangle。zheigeshihounihenyoukenenghuidangxindeguanaitajiri，zhidaotaqingxuzhuanhao。youdeqingkuangxia，lingyifangshengqile，dajiayehuibennengfanyingdezuochutuoxie，niweichiguanliandepingwen。

keshi!xuduo qingkuangxiazhengzhiyehanyoufangyuxing。pubiandeerzhongfangshishi：“changchangchao”huoshi“buchao”。

 yijukexuanzexingliuyi(selectiveattention)jichulilun，womenzhidaorenmendezhuanzhulijingchangjubeikexuanzexing。yibandajiahuiquanzidongdeconghenduodexinxineironglikexuanzexingdeliuyidajiaguanzhudeneiyibufen，erxuduo xinxineirongbeidajiaquanzidongguolvdiao，bianchengdajiadeqingkuangxinxineirongerbubeiliuyi。

 ziranyifangmiandajiakeyilejieneiyangdetiaoxuanliuyiyouzheshenjingxitongshenglishiyangenjuzuoweishiyongdezhijiezhengju，keshilingwaineiyangdetiaoxuanliuyiyeshiwomenfeichangrongyizaiganqingzhongzaoshoumamu!

 yiduichangchangzhengchaodelianren，burongyijuedeyouyitianzhengchaohuibianchengtamenfenshoudeyuanyin。tamenhuijuededajiadouzaoyixiguan，duibudui?huoxutamendeluojixingshi“chaochaogengjiankang”。

 keshi，niqianwanbiewangjile，bianzhidoushiyizhilianghubianguilvgangkaishide!chaoduolefeichangrongyirangzishendejingtixingjiangdi。liru，dajiayizhichaochaozheyaofenshou，zheihenyoukenenghuijiniduifenshouzheijianshiqingbeiyichangdemianyixitong!zhizhifenshouqueshilaideqingkuangxia，beizoudecubujifang。

 yuciduibi，lengbaolihuilingrengengweilixing。keshi，daqingmaqiaodewupinlixingyihou，bianhuibianweierde!gangkaishijiangli，jiubiaomingdajiabukeyijiangqingganle!

2、shenglixuetaobi(avoidphysicalcontact)

 yijushehuixinlixuedejushenrenzhijichulilunwomenzhidao，xinshenshiyitide，youqishizainvshideganqingrenzhinenglilibian，nanyirangtamenzheileiganqingfengfuduocaidexiaodongwufengxiantamenderouti!yibanzhuangkuangxia，yaobushitamenchuziyuganxinqingyuandeqingganbixu，zhenduiyixingpengyouderenti，tamenhuiquanzidongdecaiyongtaobideduice。

 nishifouhuijinglineiyangdetihui，dajianaobieniuyihou，nidepapatayibanhuibikai。erdangtaduisixintadideqingkuangxia，tayouhuihenxianghupeiheni。

ziranrentidechupengbuxianyuxingdechupeng，haibaohanpingchangdebaoyibaoa，qinwena，rentidejinkaozheizhong。

 ruguoyouyitiannifajuetayibuxiangyaoyuniyourentidechupeng，gangkaishitaobiniderentideqingkuangxia，neima，nijiuxuyaodangxinle!

3、nuanweishujuxinhao(ambiguoussignal)

 zaiaiqingxinlixueli，dajiajingchangyaoshuozhenzhengdeaiqingyigeshanzidewupin，tazhiyoubeisiyou!huanjuhuashuotanlianaimubiaojubeiweiyixing，wanmeideaiqinglishibukeyibeigongxiangde。

 yibandajiadoushihuinannengkeguideduinantongduidajiadeairenchuanchuzheizhongshujuxinhaoshifendebijiaomingan。liru，dajiahenyoukenenghuizaiairendeyifushangfajueyigenyuzishenbuyiyangdexiufa。huoshiyoudeqingkuangxiahuichuxianhenlingqiaodeweijue。

 zaizheierwobuhuicaiyinijubeifajueneiyangshujuxinhaodegongzuonengli，danguanjianshifajueyihounihuizenmezuo。yijudajiadecongshigongzuojingyan，xuduo shilianzhegengshizaizheiliyibufenbukeyicaozonghaozishendexintai，yonglebuzhengquedezuofa，zaocheng lebuyaoxiangdejieguo。

 neima，zheizhongfengxianshujuxinhaolaideqingkuangxia，dajiazenyangbawozhujihuiwanliuyoumingwushideganqingni?zheierwoyaojiangxiawanliudesanhuanjiele

二、挽留的三环节

 ganqingwanhuishuonanyenan，shuojianyiyejianyi，zhongyaokanzhenishibushinengheqingheli，kexueyanjiuwanliu。wanliuduicedeshangshangcejiuxiangyaonibawozhuhuangjinshijian。

1、最好挽留环节

 wanliudehuangjinshijianjuejibingbushidajiafenshouyihouzaiquwanliu。fenshouyihouzaiquwanliuzaoyishiwanliuzhongdezhongcenaizhishixiace。wanliuzhongdeshangshangceshitaqingyiyijueerweijiedeqingkuangxiajiuyaowanliu!

 jianyideshuojiushitadeshangtoulexin，keshidouhaimeiliangtou。erqie，tadouhaimeicongkeguanshishifangmianyunifenshoudeqingkuangxia。yejiushitagangkaishizaiguannianfangmianxianghenifenshou，erzaixingdongfangmianhaimeiyoufendeqingkuangxia，zheijiushiniwanliudehuangjinshijian!

 zheiyihuangjinshijiandefenbian，nitebieshizaiyaoliuyiqianbiandajiashuodefengxianshujuxinhao。yibaneryan，zaifengxianshujuxinhaoyihou，bianshidajiayingdangzaochengliuyidewanliutaqingyidehuangjinshijian。

 neima，ruguonijimindejienalaidaoneiyangdexinxineirongyihougaizenmezuoni?zheierjidahuoeryitiaobixudecelve，neibianshijitamenchongzudetonglixin，shitachongzudefaxie!

 jugeshili：tangruodajiagangzhengchaole，bingqieshineileilengyanlengyu，feichanghendudeneilei。gengcaogaodeqingkuangxia，zheizaoyibingbushidiyicineiyangjingpenshidezhengzhile。zhengzhiyihoutayuelaiyuehenxiaochen，ganjuezaidajiadeguanlianlizishendetouruyemeiyoubeinijiandao，ganjuetahendijian，ganjuezishentaileile，shougou，yaoxiangfangqile!

 nijiuxuyaojingxingle，zuixiantashitaxinlizhuangtaiquanqiudeweibian，keshijiaruneiyangdetihuiguoduo，jiuhenkenengbianzhiweifenshou。yinci ，zheigeshihouhenkenengbianshiniwanliutaqingyidehuangjinshijian。zheierniyaoyidingjinji：zhengchaoyihouganwanbukeyi“shuaimenerqu”，zheigeshihoutadeganqingshizuimingandeqingkuangxia，yidingyaoshouhouta!jiusuanshizaiciwaiyigewuzi，yeqianwanbiewanxiaotui。

 youduoshaoaikeyizhonglai,xiaotuizongshishitajuedezishenshiwuyiwukaode，shibeiquanqiudiuqide，shipengdaokunnanzhinengyikaozishen，nidecunyoushimingcunshiwangde!