爱情技巧：想要挽回前任，就不该死心！

 xuduo rendaowanhuideqingkuangxiaxiangdequanshi：woshibushizuobudui?gaisilexinle!neimeaiqingjiqiaoyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiqinghunyinjiatingxuedewenzhangba。

buqingchuniduineiyangdeyantanjuzhishibushilejie：

①jiushiwobaoqianta，meiyoujitaxiangyaodeshenghuo，tacaixuanzelikaide。doushiwodecuo，wogaiduokaolvtade!

②jirantamingquetichuniantou，woyebuyinggaihuijue。woyaowanhuijiuyingdangjijikaolvta。

 ③tadeliqudoushiyouyuwodangshibuzuguanzhuta，tabixudeqingkuangxiayemeiyoubaozheng。shidaorujin，wogaichengrencuowu，yingdangjinliangdequguanzhuta。

④woyexiangjitamenwozuihaoshide。meiyouta，womendeshenghuomeiyouyiyi。weilegenghaoditatouruquandoufeichangzhide。

⑤wozaiduozuoyixie，tashifoubianhuihuijiale。

 dede，dajiazheibanqianxun，bixuzheibanduodezhaogulingyifang，zheibanduodepeichanglingyifang，fangfojinyouneiyangtacaihuihehaoruchuyiyang。guanxinlingyifangdeyaoqiu，shidangdekaolvtamensuiranshiguanjiande，danguanjianshishibushiyouguoduobuchangxinli(overcompensation)zaizuoguaini?

 shenmejiaoguoduopeichangni，zheishiyigeshehuixinlixuededingyi，yechengzhiweiguoduochanghai。《xinlizixundabaikequanshu》jiangguoduopeichangjiedingwei，yigerenzairenticengmianhuoxinlizhuangtaicengmiandequexianzaochengguoduodebu

 aiqingjiqiaoyounaxieni？changgerenxingweihuo“xincunjiaoxing”。tongsuyidianshuobianshi，budanyaotianbuyiqiandebugou，yeyaoyaoyuandechaochuyiqiezhengchangzhuangkuangxiadeyugu，naizhizuodaoyoudianyingxianglidezhuangkuang。

 guoduobuchangxinlizaiganqingwanhuizhongshifenxianzhu!rutongwenzhangneironggangkaishiliechudeshenmepubiandeyantanjuzhiyiyang，dajiahuijuedewangwangtichufenshou，kendingshidajiazuodebuzuhao，yinci ，woxiangjinkenengdekaolvta，peichangta，caihuirangzishenanwen，yecaihuishitaduizishendeganqinghenyoukenengbeiniuqu。

1.减轻以逸待劳的焦虑情绪

 ruguonideqinglvjiandingbuyideyaoyudajiafenli，huoshizaoyiyunifenliyihou。nidexinlihuifeichangrongyishenxianyizhongliefeng、queshaoqingkuang。zheileitihuihuijinihenjiaolvqingxu。zheileiliefengde，queshaode，nanyishihuaidejuedejinizheibanzhibushufu。zaineiyangdetihuizhong，dajiaqueshihuinanyidaidexialai。dajiahuihendangrandexiangyaozuodianshenme，rangzishenbubeineiyangdejuedesuotunshi。

zuoxieshenmehuishiwomenjuede，neima，zuoxienaxiehaoni?

 feichangjiandandegousibianshi：dajiaduoduitahaohaowuyiwenmeiyoucuoba。taguangjieshanyuanzongmeiba。batadeyaoqiuxiangzaitayiqian，weitazuodaliangzongmeiyoucuoba。

 yinci ，zaineiyangdequdongqixia，dajiahenyoukenenghuiganxuduo peichangtadeshier。liru，bangtazhaogegongzuoge，bangtajiejuefanzaderenjijiaowangge，bangtachulijiazhongdeenyuange，jitamenmaigeshigeyangdelipinge，jitamenshengchanzhizaoshengzhidejiyuge。zongeryanzhi，dajiaqueshiweitaganlexuduo 。keshi，jiuxunwenniyidian，niliangtichufenshoudeguanjianjiejuewentilemeiyou?

yaoshimeiyou，nidezheizhongqinfen，buguoshiyaoxiangjianqingnizijiyouguanwanhuizheiyiduanguanlian，quandouzuobulaidejiaolvqingxubale!

 xingba，jiaruwanzhuanyidianjiang，huoxunizuodehenduodeshierzhizhongqueshiyouyixieshishitahenjidaihenxiangyaobande。keshi，nikaolvdaoguoneiyangquzhedewanhuiduicejinitouruleshiduoshaojinglima?zhengtieryan，touruyurentonghenxiangchataidaduima?

jiarunijuechadaolezheiyidian，gujinikeyigaoqingchuniduitahaodeshenhou，daodishizaiganma。

2.待在工作能力的舒适圈

 guoduopeichangdeshehuixinlixueshijiyiyihaizhuyaobiaoxianzai，tashiyizhonghenxianzhudedaizaizishengongzuonenglishushiquandegerenxingwei!zhijieyidianshuobianshizhenduiyixieyouaiyuhunyinguanxideshier，woyiranbuyuangenggai。buyuangenggai，danyouyaoxiangxiangyouzheiyiduanguanlian，neizenmebanni?zuilijidefangfabianshijinkenengdeduoganyixiewohuigandeshierlaipeichangta!

 zaiqizhongdeluojixingshijishangfeichangqingchu。zaizaocheng dajiatichufenshoudeshizhiwentishang，nimeiyougaohaogenggaidetiqianzhunbei。yaolijiquchulizheigewenti，huijiniganjuehaonana!

keshi，niyoubuqingyuanbaaidefengdigongshourangren。neima，gengfangxindefangfabianshidawaichangge!

wobuhuichuli，woyizhimeikongpeinidewenti，woyepinlemingrangnimaibao，goumaihufupin，maizheileishechipinbaobao!

wobuhuichuli，woyunimawoxiangzhanweidenanti，woyepinlemingjiabanjiadianzhengqian，rangnisongliwu!

wobuhuichuli，dajiawaididenanti，woyepinlemingrangnifaxiaoxi，wangtudajiafangfojutizaiyiqiyiyang!

wobuhuichuli，woyizhizuijiuhouaibaolixingweidenanti，wozhishigezhonggeyangquebao，gezhonggeyanghuayanqiaoyu!

 xingba，huoxuniqueshibushanyuchuliqianmianyizhong，erzhenduihoumianyizhongnikeyiyoudaliangdexinxinhegongzuonengli!yinci ，buqingchunijiandaozheiyidianmeiyou?niyaoxianghetafuhexing，nideduilingyifangzuochudexuduogerenxingwei，henyoukenengquanshinidaizaizishenshushiquandexinlixuqiu，erzaichulijutinantixihuannihenyoukenenghuanshimeiyouchongfenzhunbei!

3.过多赔偿是一种不可以应用感情联接的防御力

 mingbaipeichanglingyifangshiyijianhaoshi，biaomingdajiayouzerengan，yongyudandang，mingbaiweilingyifangkaolvdao。keshi，yidanguoduo，neimaqishijiyiyijiufeichangzhidekaolvle。zaishehuixinlixuezhong，dajiayibanhuichuxianneiyangdeyizhongluojisiwei“yiqieguoduodegerenxingweishenhoudoushiyouyuzhongbutongdeshijiyiyi”。

 guoduopeichangkanshangqushiyizhongtourugerenxingwei，shiyizhongbianxiangde“yangshan”。keshi，dajiafeichangrongyijiujiandaozheizhishishiyizhongdanbiandegerenxingwei!jiniwenguolingyifang，taxiangyaonineimezuoma?jinikaolvdaoguolingyifang，henyoukenenggengbixudeshibubeidajiaoma?huoshi，gengjiduanhuadejiang，nishibushihuibujingyidexiang，zishendezheizhong“yangshan”gerenxingweiliyingbeijiandao，beibaochangni?

 yaobushizailingyifangzhenshiyaoqiuyishangdetouru，neimalingyifangjieshoudaodeyuniyaoxiangjidaotadejiuhenkenengfanguolai。liru，dajiahuijiangyouyizhongleng，chengweimuqinganjuenileng。yiyangde，youyizhongbixuchengweinijuedetabixu!

 zhuanguotoulaijiang，hunyinguanxidebenzhishishenmeni?meishenmezhiyi，neiyidingshiganqingdelianjie!weiheninengzaiganqinglianjiezheiyijianshiershang，yingyongzheibanwanyanpanxuandeduiceni?

aiqinghunyinjiating,henyoukenengdehuidashi，nihenyoukenengbumingbaizenmeshiyongganqinglianjie!