爱的方式是什么？用好这一招，让他对你怦然心动！

aideganjueshishenme？huizongjuedaduoshunvshiwanhuibuchenggongdeyuangu，tongchangdouqujueyu：zaibuzhengquedeshijian，yonglebuzhengquedefangshi。neimeaidefangshiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaideditudewenzhangba。

wanhui，haizhenbingbushiyuekuaiyuehao，juedabufenrendoushihuishenxianneiyangdecuowuguannian，dangjinrenmingquetichufenshoudeshihou，likehuangleshen，ganjuecishiruguobuwanhui，liangrencihouzaiyebuhuijiyu，yincipinlemingqianche，zhiqidaitanenghehaoruchu。

 keshikeguanshishishi，nanshiyouchongzudelixing，tazaoyizuochujuece，xiajuexinyaowanbidajiadeqinggan，wulunnizenyangbiaoshu，jiusuannikeyirangbuyiqie，dandajiadeqingganzhongjiuhuanshigaoyiduanluo。

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xuduo wanhuidefangfayeshibuzhengquede，jinguanzishenjuedehenyouchengxin，buduandeduitashuozishendeaiyouduoshen，buqidaitaliqu，jiarutanenghuishou，zijizuoquandouxiangyao。

wanhuibingbushikoutoushangshuoshuo，zheihezhiqianliangrennaoqishichedibuyiyangde，cicitasilexinyaotichufenshou，chufeishijinijiongranbutongdepinpaixingxiang，buranshinanyizuodaoniyaoxiangdejieguode。

zenyanggenggaizheiyiqie，shitazaiciduinipengranxindongni?

yaojinjinjilaozheiyidian，wanshiwanwudoubingbushiyichengbubiande，ganqingyeshidongtaixingde，nijinyoulingbianjiejue，aideganjueshishenme？buduanzuochugenggai，caikeyiwanhuitadexin。

一、接纳客观事实

xiangwanhuinideqinggan，jiuxuyaojienamuqiandekeguanshishi，jinyouchuangjianzaishijishang，caikeyijiaotashidi，zaicibaituoyitiaolu。

huiguotoulai，jibian nidijiandequqiurao，chixuderangbu，danyounenghuandeganqingma?shuzuiduoyejinjinlianmin。

jiranzheiyang，weishenmebujienaneiyangdekeguanshishini?zhongzhiyiqiejiuchanbuqing，lijijiangsunhaijiangzhizuishao，yuqinguzong，fangnengxunzhaofazhanfangxiang。

二、冷暴力

linshilengbaolidajiadeguanlian，lengbaolibingbushiduandiaolianluo，zhishiyaolinshiwanbidajiayuanlaideguanlian，xunzhaoyigexindeziwodingwei，yibuqianghan，yibujiansuankebo，yongyizhongfangfaquduitashuo，nixiangyaojienakeguanshishi，bingqiezaoyigangkaishisikao。

zheiyangyilai，jibian nijiangdajiadeguanlianlengbaoli，danyebaguoqianghandeposhita，fandaoneiyanghaihuijixushitadexintaiyouyidingdebianruan。

zhongjiushitamingquetichudetichufenshou，tashiduoshaohuanshiyouneijiuxinlizhuangtaide，nidetinghua，huijiaoda  shuipingdejiqitadeneijiuxinlizhuangtai，fanguolaide，ruonihuanshijiansuankebodexintai，zongshishitaneijiuxinlizhuangtaijiangzhizuishao。

三、恢复负面信息印像

wulunshizaidajiaqingganliekaigangkaishi，huanshizuichunidebuzhengquewanhui，doujitamenliuyoulefumianxinxiyinxiang，danniyaozuodebianshijiaoda shuipingdejiangzhihuifu。

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ziran，gengzhongyaodehuanshiyaoyingzaoganqingyunyinggongzuonengli，xuehaohuanweisikaoyixia，mingbaiqianjiulingyifang，gaoqingchuzenyangbawozhuzhudaoquan，caokonglingyifangdexinlizhuangtaizhuanbian。

四、关联层递

aidefangshiyounaxieni？lengbaoliwanbiyihou，ruguonigangkaishizhanxianzishendezhuanbian，niyehuifajuetaduinidexintaibuyiyangni，jibian douhaimeididazaicizhongguiganqing，zuishaoyeshiyouyidingdegaibiande。

cikejiuxuyaobawozhuyiqiejiyu，rangdajiadeguanlianjinyibufazhanqushi。

hetazaiciqudelianxi，tishenggoutongjiaoliuhehudongjiaoliu，zaihudongjiaoliudangzhongzaicichuangjianyouhaodu。

yaoshikeweichixinxin，jinguanzaizheiduanshijian，tahenyoukenenghuiduiniyouyidingdeshanduo，danjinixiyinzhutadegongzuojingyan，bingqienideshiyongjiazhizaoyifeisufazhan，zaiyicixiyinzhuta，yeqingqingsongsong。

aideditu，dangtazaicishenxiannisuogoujianchuqudewenrouzhong，jiuxuyaogangkaishishidu“choushen”，jigehaochujiupao，bubibazijisuoyoujiaodaichulai，shilengshire，shidudedaorujilijizhi，shitaannaibuzhu，jijigennimingquetichufuhexing。