我谈恋爱了，只要能处理好这件事复合完全由你说了算

 ganqingliekaihoudeni，shizhewanhui，jibian nihenqinfendezaibiaoshuzishendeshebude，danmeiyouyiqieshijixiaoguo。neimezenyangchulitanyichangbufenshoudelianai?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanwotanlianailedewenzhangba。

nihenbiequ，ganjuezishenshenbuyouyi，zidataruwanhuizheitiaolumianyihou，jiuyishidaochedishitazaihexinzheiyiduanqinggan。

怎么会出現那样的状况呢?

 niyaowanhuideshidajiadeganqing，jibian taduiniyeyouqingyi，dantaduinimendeganqingshipaichide。jiusuanniweiquqiuquan，chixufangkuanrongdadu，dantayiranbuyizhisuohuo，zhijieyuanyinqujueyu：kandaolenidijiandemoyang，ganjuejibian gennifuhexingyebuzhi。

 yiqienanshiquanshineiyangdexinlizhuangtai，tamenhuitiaoxuanzhuiqiujiazhigaodeyixingpengyou，hushidiaojiazhidide，ertagennimingquetichutichufenshoudefeichangdayibufenyuanguyequjueyuci：yaobujiushiniderenqizhijianshaole，yaobujiushitaduiniyoushijuedeshenmeipilao，bingqieguidingtisheng le。

xiangzaiciwanhuitadexin，jiuxuyaoyouhexingongzuonengli，ziran，zaizheiliyiqiangengyaoxianggaoqingchudajiazenmehuitichufenshou。

1.价值降低

jibian nimeiyougenggai，danyiqiedouzaigenggai，tadeguidingyezaitigao，duitalaijiang，nidejiazhijiumeileguoqule。

 yidannidejiazhijianshao，zaitaxinlidajiadeganqingyejiusuizhediaojia，dangyiqiedoufaweishi，dangranyehuichuxianmingquetichutichufenshoudeniantou。

2.过多依靠

 xuduonvshidoushihuiguoduoyikaolingyifang，danyiqiezhengchangdenanhaihenvhaijiaowang，liyingshixianghuyilaide，erbuyinggaishiguoduoyikao，naizhiyifuyulingyifang。

 wotanlianaile,jibian niyaozhuyaobiaoxianchuqudeshiwenroutitie，danhenyoukenengluozaitadeyanliyehuibianweixinlai，zheiyidinghuishitajuededaoxinlibushufu。

zenyangcaikeyiwanhuita，zhaodaodajiaxingfudeganqingni?

1.临时撤离

 rujindeta，xinliqidaidequanshixunsudewanbidajiadeganqing。jirannizaishuoshenmeganshenme，douqibushangyiqiegongxiao，neimejiuhebushenmeshidoubuzuo，tingcongtadeqingyi，fandaohuijuyouchuhuyiliaodegongxiao。

 xuduo wenzhangneirongdoushihuitijifenshou，shishishang，youshifenshouhenyoukenengyixiekending，hebuduanzanxingdecheli，jiangdidajiazhongjiandelianluo，ruotajijilianluoni，nenggouliaoyiliangju，danjinliangbimianbubiyaochupeng，fangzhitahuizhangshijianchuzaifumianqingxudangzhong。

 duanzanxingcheli，bingbushishenshouchebing，gengbingbushichedichoushenzheiyiduanguanlian，zhishijixianghudexintaiyigehuanjiedeshijian，dengtadexintaihuanjiechulai，zaizhongxinzailai。

2.价值提高

 jiranzaoyipouxidao，bicizhijiandeliekai，laizijiazhijiazhitigao，neijiuxuyaosisuozheigewenti：rangzishenzainajigefangmiantigao，caikeyishitazaicijiyuniguanxinni?

 yaoxuehaoquzhangbuduan，sisuozishendeyoudian，fayang，wajuezishendelieshi，gaoqingchutashizishenzaiganqingzhongdeboruodian，jinkenengjiuzhenghuofangzhi。

 ziran，gengyingrangzishengangroubingji，ruguonidejiazhiyouyigezhidetisheng，tayehuizaibuzhibujuebeinizaicixiyinzhu，nidemudidangranjiufeichangrongyizuodaole。

 jiazhitigao，shiyigechihuandequanguocheng，zhilianghubianguilvcaikeyizaochengbianzhi，danyidingyaogaoqingchu，nibujinjinshiweilegenghaodiwanhuiertishengziwo，zhishizaigaibianxianzhuang，shizaiyitiaorangzishenmaixiangyuelaiyuegengchusededaoshangqianxing。

3.心理状态变化

jiazhitigao，nengquebaotarangnizaicichupengdejiyu，dandanglianggerenzaicigoutongjiaoliu，niyouzenyangquebaotabupaichinilei?

zaixinlizhuangtaishang，yidingyaoyouyidingdebianhua，yiniyuanxiandexinlizhuangtai，shinanyiranglianggerenpingxinjingqizuozheyiqide。

huanjiexinlizhuangtai，rangzishendefumianqingxujiangzhizuishao，yizaigenyuanchujiangditaduinidepaichi。

 tanyichangbufenshoudelianai,ziran，zuizhongyaodehuanshiyaogaibianxianzhuangzhenduiganqingyunyingdehexinlinian，ganqingwangwangchuxiannanti，feichangdayibufenyuanguyeshilaiziyuci，sisuoganqingdeyushi，xunzhaofenqidian，genggainikandaiganqingdejingyingguanlilinian，zheicaisuanshirangdajiaganqingpingwendeqiantitiaojian。