爱上怎样的人？这么吵架不伤感情

 aishitiande，daduoshuqinglvchaojiadexinlizhuangtailuxianditu：nandefancuowule，nvxinghenshengqi，gangkaishibuduanxutao，shuonanshengfashengbianhua。nanshengxiang，nimobutaiwuliaole，zhenshishimanbujiangli。daozuizhong，nvxinggengwufashihuaile，muqinshuodedui，tiandimeiyouyigenanrenshihaochanpin。nvhaimen，nixiangyixiangzishenshifouneiyang?neimeaishangzenyangderenyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaishiliudongdedewenzhangba。

 henduorenhenyoukenengganjuezhenshienaideliangrenquanshiyouhaoxiangchu，juanqimei，conglaibuzhengchaode。zheierbinbinyaorangnigaizhengyixia，cuo!weishenmehuixiaoshaobupengguoyanni。henyoukenengyigemuguang，yijuhua，naizhishiyigexiaobiaoqingdoushihuibianchengdaohuosuo。shenghuojiushizheiyanga!shijishangzhenshishenaideren，bianshichaoleyibeizihaizaiyiqi。yinci dajiajilizhengchao。

▶第一，争吵是爱的表达。不喜欢吵什么啊?

 richangshenghuo，nihenyoukenenghuijiandaohaoguimihetananpengyouzhengchao，chaonaoshengyoukuyounaodelaiyueni，aishitiande，shuoxieshenmewoxianggentatichufenshou，wozaiyebuyuanliangle。nifeiqushilejingzainayouquanyoukuanwei。danshiyongbushangertian，bierenliangyouzaiyiqidongshoudongjiaole。jiuneimegennishuoa，duizheixiezhengriyizhengchaomoushengdefufulaijiang，yiqie“heshilao”bianshiliuyun。

 zheirutongliuyongshuode，“zuiwujiudeaishibuguanzhu，zuibufazhandeaishihunchidengsi。duiyuzheixiesantianyidachao、ertianyixiaochao，bingbushihaodeyaorenmingbianshihendeyaosilede，jingchangbushibuai，zhishihenai。”nidongdeleba，zhengchaobianshiliangshijiandebixupin。

 nikankanlindaiyuzuixihuanjiabaoyu，aidebupasi，danshiyipengmianjiuchao、jiuku。weihexuebaochaiyebugenjiabaoyuchaoni?youyutabuxihuantaa。zheijiuxuyaoshuodaoyigezhenzhi，yueenaijiuyuefeichangrongyizhengchao，bingqienvhaizixiaisheijiugensheichao。suoyishuobuzhengchaobuyidingzhenai，zhengchaoyebuyidingshibuxihuan。

▶第二，争吵是一种心理状态必须。

 shuozhijiedian，dajiadoushiyongguoyaliguoba，bubianshiyongbiezhudeqishiguozhongdewendutisheng，bazheiguoroudundekuaiyouzhun，danzuizhongyaodeshiyaosuishisuidixufangpaiqifa。zheirutongwomendeai，liangrenderichangshenghuolibianbutaikenengmeiyouxintai，liangrenshidangdegongzuoyalichangcaikeyizuchengliangrendeqinggan。zhengchaojiushineigesafamen，chaoyicisayidian，zuoweirichangshenghuodediaoji。

 guigenjiedi，zhengchaoshifengkuangdigoutongjiaoliu，kenliuxiazhengzhideyizhiaizhenide。dianshilianxuju《fendou》zhong，yangxiaoyunhewangnanzheiduixiaoliangkouzaiminzhengbanliyishideneiyichangzhengchaoduodou，chaozhechaozhejingranlibulele。nizaikanyixiazheixiekanqilaisuihejiaowangdelianren，shijishangdouhuiananjilingyifanghuazhexiaochacha，yidanjimanqige，yixiazijiunengzhaohuanshenlong，dianbaoneixindeneikezhadan。zheimanzangyuanhen，chengshiershangdexiongyongdanshibigaoxiaoduanzisijiandechaozuibijiaoyanzhongduoleba?

 suoyishuoa，ruguonijuedenaonushijiubiaoshuchunaonuba。youyuqinglvzhijiandejiaowangbianshineimejian，danglingyibanlianzhengchaodoubuyuanyiduoshuoyijuhuadeqingkuangxia，neicaisuanshilitichufenshoujinqideqingkuangxia。

neijiujingzhengchaoyoushenmeguilvni?

争吵规律一，积极承认错误。

 aishiliudongde,zheierkeyaogennijiangmingbai，youyizhongnanshengwulunnizaishuoshenme，shangqujiuhuishuohaolehaole，duibuqihaibuxingma?worenwei，zheiyeshiyaohua×de。zheiyebushizhenxinshiyidechengrencuowuxintai。youyuzhiyaoshinizailiaoyiju，tajiuhuishuoniyouwanmeiwan，wohaishuocuole，niyaoxiangruhedi?!zheileinansheng，zhibuguobianshidananrenzhuyi，yaobubianshifuyanleshini。fuyanleshinidejiuyaotagundan，dananrenzhuyidenijiuxuyaoxuezhebanhuilai，keshijilaobubineishihouban。

 shijishanga，sheixianchengrencuowu，bingbukeyibiaomingsheiqueshibudui。lingyifangqingxujidongdeqingkuangxianizaishuoshenmedadaolidoubaixia，zanzuoweinvhaizi，zhuangmengmaimengbieleizhuangnenrenrangquyueyinyou，dounenggoushiyixia，banguilian，zhuangfengmaisha，xuehua，shuoxiaohuadoukanjiankuailai。

争吵规律二，不必提过去。

 shenmejiaodianxingxingdetiguoquni?bianshibannianqiandeshiernachulaijiangdaoyifan，jianjianshierdoushuodeqingqingchuchu，zhenshibianshiyichangduiyiwangnanshengbuzhengquedepidouhui。doushuoshenmeni?“nizhiqianjiuzheiyang，jieguohaibushinizuobudui?”“ruguonizhiqiantinglewomenjianyi，jiuburongyiluorunagejiejule!”“zhiqianyebutingwodexiangfa，wokannishizhunbeiyeyaohezhiqianyiyangcuoba?!”

 aishangzenyangderen？shijishangzheileigerenxingweizaixinlifudaozhongyouyigebiaozhunnenggoubiaoshu，jiao“90/10”biaozhun。shayisini?lirunijintiangenlingyifangzhengchao，ganjuezheijianshiqingzaochenglewodexinlixianxiang，keshishishishangshi90%shizhiqiandeshierzaochenglenidefanying，erbushizheirujinde10%。shijishangneiyangzongshibabaizhimachaochengtiangua。bingqienanshengdanshizuifanganbeijiejiubahenle，tahuixiang“nizaoyibuxinrenwole，yinweiwobuxiangbianbole”。