爱上一个人的表现是怎样？在婚姻中如何使用奖励机制？

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不必钱财和势力便是嫁给吗?

tashuozishenfeichangaita，danmeiyicizhengchao，tadoujinbuzhufanghenhua。

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 tahuijia，tashenyejitamenfaxinxishuoduzitong。tashuodao：“nizijidadedaoyiyuankana，wohaizaijiaxiang。ruhedouhaimei?”taxixubuyi，faxinxishuo：“neidajiajiuzheiyangba。jinzao!”jiantahuayidaoci，tahuijialequzoulezishenquanbuwupin。tashuo：“dajiazhongwuquminzhengba。”nanxingbuzuosheng，takudaozaitahuaizhongshuo：“woneimeaini，dajiaweihehaihuijixuyaotichufenshou?zenmehuineiyang?”

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