放不下的爱是怎样？把握主动权让爱情长久保鲜

 fangbuxiadeai，shuangfangjiaowangqilai，lengbaolishichangchangchansheng。lengbaolizhenduibicideqingganshifenyoupohuaili，yeshinvxingyoufuzhirenrenshengdaoludeyidaxiongshou。conghuidemaimengnvjihudounengzulanlengbaolidekaizhan，tamendoushizenmezuodeni?neimedangailailindeshihounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanduinideaiyizhihenanjingdewenzhangba。

1.不必心浮气躁

 dangbuzhidaolingyifangjianmodeyuangushi，yidingyaolizhi，fenbianlingyifangdechenmoshiyouxinyongyujingongzishen，huanshichuziyuwuyi，fangbuxiadeai，bubibuwenqinghongzaobaijiudanaopiqi，qushilingyifangzhangkoufanji。jianmodeshenhouyanzangzhenaonudexintai，xinfuqizaozhiyouhuoshangjiayou。yaoxixinshutong，erbukeyijiyuqiucheng，jihuamaodun。

2.不必摆手了之

 youshihoulingyifangyexiangzishendapojiangju，queqianquedanliang。jinyoudanglingyifangguidingyurenxiangchuyihuiershi，nicainenggoulinshichechu。jiaruzheishihouniouqifuxiuerqu，huishilingyifangzaochengwunaidejuede，jiazhongjianmodeshuiping，naizhihuiyinweinidechechuershixianghuouxinlixueyingzaodeaizhishashashijianfenlie。

3.无需缄默应对缄默

 yifangjianmo，lingyifangyongjianmozuoweihaiji，tashiyizhongfeichangjiduandegoutongfangshi。liyingjijidihelingyifangtantaoruhejiejuexiangguannanti，xintaiyaochengzhi，yongyuyaowanzhuan。

4.转移注意力

 dangyifangjianmoshi，lingyifangshikeyongshuhuandeyinle、kandianshijudengyouxiyulefangshilaiqianyilingyifangdezhuanzhuli，huanjieqijingshenyali。yidanguowangyanyun，jianmodebingkuaieryehuisuizheronghua。

5.不必逼另一方讲话

 dangyifangjianmoshi，lingyifangbiqijianghua，huidaozhilingyifanggengjianmohuonaopiqi。nihebutanchengxiangjiandiweilingyifangshuo：“woyebuzhidaoganlenaxiechunshi，jinibukenyuwojianghua。”

6.避其锋芒

 yingduilingyifangdejingong，bubizhenglianyingmianzudang，yingdangxuanyongbishijixudefangshi。jiarulingyifangshuo：“woduiniyuxiaohaidounifantou。”nikeyixuanyongwenhedeyuqihuifu：“duia，zheixiaowanyitaidiaopi，dajiabataganzouhaome?”lingyifangtinglehuijingya，zheishihoubianfeichangrongyigenlingyifanghuihuale。

7.让另一方听好听的话

 haotingdehuahuishilingyifangjiaolvbuandeshenjingxitongsongchixialai，bingnengshilingyifangxiangtingjiandaliangxiangguanzheixiefangmiandehua。tangruogebilinjucengkualingyifangmouyiyoushi，niyejiubazheijuhuazhuandajilingyifang。huoxulingyifanghaihuijixutiyilianggenanti，neiyang，bicijiufeichangrongyikaizhanhuihuale。

8.尽量多贴近另一方

 jiaruyunxudehua，nenggouhuanhuande、tianmanaiqingdichupenglingyifang。ruguonixiangtonglingyifangfayanshi，jiuzuodeaijinxie，weichibicideyanguangchupeng。

9.学另一方得话

 duinideaiyizhihenanjing,jiaruniqueshimeijiliangle，bibushangjixieshebeiyidian。nichangshiyinlingyifangjianghua，lingyifangquerangdao：“likai!haofan!”zheishihouyoumuyoubiedefangfa?fangfashi：fanfulianrenshuodezuizhongjigezi，suihoufanwendao：“fanwo，shibushi?”lingyifanghenyoukenengyaoshuo：“shide，niyejiubukeyirangwoyigerenyoujingyoujingma?”ninengranhoushuo：“niyaoyoujingyoujing，shibushi?”nixuyaoxiangfangshefaranglingyifangduojianghua，hualianxu，lingyifangjiutongnihuihuale。danshi，jianghuashiyidingyaotianmanaiyi，bingyounaixin。

10.多做自我认识

 lengbaolishi，niyingxixidihuiyiyixialianggerenzhongjiandezhengzhi。huoxu，bicidoushiyouyixiedadaoli。bubijixiwangyulingyifanghuihaobuzaiyinideguandian，chufeishiniyexiangyaozhengqiulingyifangdejianyi。yiner，duozuoziworenshi，duozhengqiulingyifangdejianyi，huibaituodichendefenwei。

dangailailindeshihou,zheishitiaojibendinglvnenggouxiezhunvxinganquanxingduguolengbaoliqi，xiangzishendeyoufuzhirenrenshengdaolumairu。