恋爱磨合期,和男人沟通的技巧

 lianaiqianguizeyoushenme？ruguonikeyixiediaolingyifangdexinfang，ranglingyifangxiangyaoyunizhangkougoutongjiaoliuhou，dajiajiuqianxingdaoxiayibuba!jiexiaquyaoxiangxijieshaonengranggoutongjiaoliujianchixiaqude“qingtingjishuxing”。neimelianaimoheqiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaineidianshidewenzhangba。

 xiangbishanyugoutongjiaoliu，shanyuqingtingzhiguanzhongyao，zhuweiyidingyoutingguoneiyangdejiaofaba!jibian yishehuixinlixuedejianjiekanlai，juedezheileijiaofaqiadangderenhaoxiangyexuduo 。youyuyaoshishiren，doushihuiyouyulingyifangxiangyaotingzishenjianghuaerjuedexinqingyukuai。youyubulunshishei，douyouzhe“qidailingyifangrenshiziji”dechongdong，yinerbuyifanganzheixiekenyongxintingzishenjianghuaderen。

 jiexiaquyaoxiangxijieshaodejichugoutongjiaoliujishuxing，shibeichengzuo“activelistening”dejishuxing。activelisteningzheileijishuxingyejingchangbeixuanyonglaichuangjianxinrenguanlian，huobeidaxingqiyeyingyongzaixinshouwenhuajiaoyuzhong。

①倾听的姿态

 yulingyifanggoutongjiaoliushi，yingdangcaiyong“wozhengyongxintingnijianghua”dezitai。ruguozheishishoutoudoumangzhezuoqitashier，yidingyaoganjinzhongzhi。lianaiqianguizeyoushenme？yebubicaiyongjiaochashixiashouhuojiaodezitai，zheileizitaihuiranglingyifangjuedenixinlishiyoutifangde。yingdangbarentishifangyali，bubirangshoujiaochashizaixiongkou，bingcaiyongduiwaikaifangdangrandexintai。

②目光的触碰

 goutongjiaoliushi，muguangyaohelingyifangdangrandechupeng，shijianzuiduodagaier〜sanmiaoshangxia。danglingyifangdemuguangkuaihezishenduichushi，jiugankuaixianghupeihetaba!xianxuedezheiyishuipingjiukeyile!muguangdechupengkenengzaochengjudadeshijixiaoguo，yinweizheixieyouhenduoyuangumeifayisanyanliangyubiaoming，yinerxiangjinneironghuizaidiwuzhangweiyueduzhexiangxijieshao。

③适度的姿势(点点头及回复)

 yijumeilabinguilv(theruleofmehrabian)，renmendedao deziyuanyou83%shilaiyuanyushuangyan。yulingyifanggoutongjiaoliushi，jiarunengyidiandiantouhuiyinglingyifangdeyuju，lingyifangbianhuiyin“jiandaonidezishi”erliuyou“nihenyongxintingtajianghua”deyinxiang。

ciwai，tiaoxuanshidudehuifuneirong，zaizaijiashangdiandiantoudezishi，jiukeyirangxianliaodefenweiyuelaiyuegengqiang。

lianaineidianshi,zaizheierjiujuyixiehuifudeshiliba!

haowuyiwen：“jianzhifeichanghao!”、“shi!”、“bianshineiban!”

yihuo：“shineiyangma?”、“weishenmeni?”

queding：“shizheiyanga!”、“a，yuanlaizheiban!”、“wo!”

gankai：“shizhenshijia?”、“zhenbang!”、“wa!lihai!”

fouren：“nikengren……”(zhixianzaiwanxiao，huozhekaiwanxiaodeqingkuangxiayingyong)

youyigekendingbukeyiyingyongdeci，neibianshi：“womingbaile!”

 zaihuifushisuibianyingyong“womingbaile!”zheijuhua，feichangrongyizaocheng lingyifangneixinzaocheng“niyoulejiexienaxie?niqueshigaoqingchuma?”deniantou，fandaoshilingyifangfahuo。

 zaifuwuxingyedequanqiuzhong，lianaimoheqi,fangzhicaiyong“suibianjiulejielingyifangdexintai”shijibenchangshizhiyi，yinci hongpaidejiudianxiaojiequeshifeichangshaoyingyong“womingbaile!”zheijuhuawangfanhua。