什么叫爱一个人?嫁给什么样的人最靠谱

 jiageishenmerenjiaoweikekao?xuduo kexueyanjiuzhengshi，duizhangqixingqingganweihaijiaoda dehaoduogeyaosushi“jijizhudongquanjuxingdafu”、“fazhanxinlizhuangtai”dengqingshangzhishangyaosu。neimeshenmejiaoaiyigeren?younaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmeshiaiyigerendewenzhangba。

1，最先：发展心理状态VS固定不动心理状态。(CarelDwerk)

 gudingbudongxinlizhuangtaijuedeshiqingshiyichengbubiande，yiqieshier，shihebianshishihe，bushihebianshibushihe。tamenjianxin，tanlianaizuizhongyaodebianshi“xunzhaoshihederen”，gongzuozhongzuizhongyaodebianshi“qudeshideoffer”deng。yinci tamenzaoyunantishigengweiquxiangyugenjuzhaoxunlaichuli，erbushigenjuqinfenlaichuli。

 fazhanxinlizhuangtaijuedeshiqingshinenggougenggaide，yiqieshier，shihebushihedaliangdezaiyugerenjiazhi。tamenjianxin，tanlianaizuizhongyaodeshigenjubicideqinfenrangqinggangengqiang，gongzuozhongzuizhongyaodeshiwulunqudenaxieoffer，bagongzuozhongbaozhengdewanmei，rangzishengengweirongru。

 yiner，dangchuzaitanlianaishifashengzhengzhi，gudingbudongxinlizhuangtaiderenhuixiang：dajiafashengzhengzhi，haowuyiwenshiyouyuwomenbuheshi，ai，ruguozhaodaowodeyinyuanjiuhaole。duitameneryan，zuizhongyaodeqinfenlaiziyuzhuiqiuwanmeidequanguocheng，yidanbalingyifangzhuidao，qinfenjiujieshule。neiyanghunhouzhangjiuyiwang，biciyulaiyuganjuebushihe，yulaiyukanlingyifangbukanbuguan，zhangfuyeyulaiyuganjuetarenjiadexifugengyouyouhuoli。

 eryiyangzaoyumaodun，fazhanxinlizhuangtaidehuixiang：jinguandajiafashengzhengzhi，dandajiahuanshishihede，shiwomenlaiyiqikanyixianaerchulenanti，rangwoxiangxiangwozenyanggaibianxianzhuanghelingyifangyituidongqinggan!duitameneryan，balingyifangzhuidaobingbudaibiaozheqinfendewanbi，erganghaoshizhenshiqinfendegangkaishi。tamenhuibajuedaduoshuhuolizijintourudaotisheng bingtuidongqingganshang，erbushizhaoxunxindeqingganshang。neiyangchijiuzhihou，jibian biciyikaishiyoufenqi，zhihouyehuimanmanbianhexie。

 shenmeshiaiyigerengudingbudongxinlizhuangtai&fazhanxinlizhuangtaibiaoshuleneiyangyigezhuangkuang：weihetongjifenxifajue，babamamaqiangzhixingdehunyinshenghuozhongguolihunlvgengdi?

 shijishangzheibushiyouyuqiangzhihunyinzaocheng zhongguolihunlvdi，zhishiyouyubeiqiangzhixingdehunyinshenghuotongchangfeichangrongyirangtamenduizheiyihunyinshenghuozaochengfazhanxinlizhuangtai：tamenlejiezishenmeishenmetiaoxuan，yinerchulenantiyebuhuiquxianglingyifangshifouzishenyinyuan，zongshixiangbanfaqujiejuekunnan。

 gudingbudongxinlizhuangtai&fazhanxinlizhuangtaibudanmingxianweihailehunyinshenghuoxingfukuaile，haiweihaileniyizhizaigongzuoshangdezaojiu。

liruyiyangshijiaoshu，dangyitangkemeijianghao——

gudingbudongxinlizhuangtaiderenxiang：ai，laikanwozhenbushijiaoshudeliaoa!

 fazhanxinlizhuangtaiderenxiang：cicibuchenggongzhibuguolinshide，xiangxinwohaishiheshijiaoshude，rangwolaikanyixiaweihechunanti!xiayiciwoshizhexiatianjiaxiaogushiqushouke，huoxushijixiaoguohuigenghaoyixieni~

 yiner，zhenduimeizhidetiyishi：quzhaojuyoufazhanxinlizhuangtaierbushigudingbudongxinlizhuangtaiderenwanhun，duitaeryan，jiangnizhuidaozhibuguozhenshiqinfendegangkaishi，tahuiyibeizigenjuqinfenrangnidaliangyiwaijingxide!

2，积极主动全局性答复

 lingyigeshifenguanjiandeyingxiangyinsushilingyifangzenyangdafunidexixun，zheiduiyiqiedezhangqixingqinggandouweihaijida(buzhishihunyin)。

tadedafufangfafencheng“jijizhudongvsxiaochen”he“quanjuxingvsfeiquanjuxing”2gecengmian。

在其中—

jijizhudongdafu：jijizhudongduinidexinxikaizhanyijianfankui，erbushilengmohebuwenbuwen。

xiaochendafu：duinigongxiangdexinxibuwenbuwen。

quanjuxingxingdafu：zhenglianqiejilixingdidafunidexinxi，jinigengweixinxin。

shenmejiaoaiyigeren?feiquanjuxingdafu：fumianxinxiqieyanlidajixingdidafunidexinxi，jinigengweihuixinsangqi。