爱的十个条件,如何理解男人的内心

 aidetailei,huobaodejiudianxiaojieyuyibannvshidechabie——qujueyulejie“mingjiaonanshengdeweishengwu”deshuiping，erzhezaizheixiefangmianderenzhinengliyoufeichangdadechabie。julilaishuo，niyizhizaiyuanxiaohuozhegongzuofangmian，pengdaoyouxierenduinizuochuhentaiguodeshier，jiadingnijiangyijianshigaozhizuitiejinnidelingyiban(nanpengyouhuozhelaogong)。youyuzaoyijileilexuduogongzuoyali，xianglaininengrutongjiatelinjiqiangyibanxunsudimiaoshuzheijianshiqingba?neima，qingwenni，zaizheileizhuangkuangxia，lingyifangduinicaiyongxiashu①huozhe②denayangxintaishi，ninengjuedejiaoweikaixinni?neimeaideshigetiaojianyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidetaiduodewenzhangba。

 ①neijiushinidecuo。youyunineiyangzuo，yinci caizaocheng zheibandebuliangyingxiang——lingyifanglizhi、jiangdaolidijiuzhengnidequeshao，suihouyaonihaohaofansizijidebingbushi。

②haoxiangchedilejieniweishenmehuichuxianzheizhongganjue，bingjingjingdetingzhenimiaoshushierdelijing。

 wojuedejuedabufendenvshidoushihuitiaoxuan②ba?keshi，bulijienvshidenanshengquejingchangzuochu①zheiyitiaoxuan。xianglainiyidingyejingliguobushaociyu①lixiangfangdeqingkuangba!shuobailelejienanshengdeshizhi，jiuhetashiyiyangdeshier。daodilingyifang(nansheng)huaizheruhedeqingxu，yeshiruhesikaodeni?nvxingruguomeifahuozhizheizhongdezhuanyezhishi，jiumeifahelingyifangkaizhan“nengzaitaneixinliuyouyinxiang”deyoulianggoutongjiaoliu。

yongtuxinglaibiaomingdehua，bianshixialiedeyangzi。

 ciwai，zheishushichuangzuozheyi“yaozenmerangyueduzhededao nengyishenzuozedezhuanyezhishi”weishijiaoerzhuanxiede，aidetailei,yejiushibuguangnengrangyueduzhebawozhuanyezhishi，gengnengduofangmianshijianhuodong，zheijiushizheishudechuangzuomudi!buqiushenjiedidedao zhuanyezhishi，shiyidianshijiyiyidoumeiyoude，keshixiangneiyangmeiyiyideshier，quequeshijingchangzaishenghuoqijuzhongchansheng。

 yueduzhemenyidingjingchangpengdao“jinguanwohengaoqingchu，keshiquebanbucheng”deqingkuangba?lveweiyongnanyidiandehualaibiaoming，zheijuedaduoshushiyouyu“renzhinenglidequanguochengbuchedi”erzhi。jiangjiandanyidian，bianshimeiyoufajue“lejie”he“lejie”erzhezhijiandechabie，benlaijinjin“lejie”bale，quewurenweizishenzaoyi“lejie”。

 neima，“lejie”he“lejie”zhongjiandechabieshishenmeni?nenggouqingxidixiangdaocongtarenneibiantingjian，huoshiyishubenshangduqilaide、zishenjiyilidexinxineirong，zheileishuipingbianshi“lejie”。lingyifangmian，shuobaile“lejie”，bianshikeyikanqingzijijiyilidexinxideshizhi，nenggouxiangdisanzhebiaoming，haojiangxinxichuandijilingyifanggaoqingchu。jiaruyaoneng“badedao dezhuanyezhishizuoweizishendewupin”，neimejiubuzhibixu“lejie”，yeyaokeyi“lejie”，bingbatabianweikeduofangmian“tuixing”deqingkuang。weilegenghaodizuodaozheileishuiping，yingdangcaiyongde“xingdong”shi：

lejie→lejie→yaoshikeyiqutuixingjiubandedao→dangranjiubandedao

aidetaiduo,caiyongzhishangdebuzhoujiuhenyoushijixiaoguo。lingyizhongfangshizeshi：

zishenfajueyingdangcaiyongdexingdong→jileibijiaohaodexingdonggongzuojingyan→tuixing

 yinzuomamasanghezhuguanmeiridoushihuijutizhidaojiudianxiaojie“yaozenmezuocaikeyibawozhunanrenxin”，jiarujiudianxiaojieshibaile，bianhuizaoshouxunchi。keshijiaruqudechenggongdehua，neimaxiaomeimenbuzongshizaoshoujiangshang，hainengrangzuoweigukedenanshifeichanggaoxing，zishenyeshinenglejie“mizhunanshengdegoutongjiaoliujishuxing”，bingnenggouduofangmianlejie、shijianhuodong，suihoubatabianweizishendecaikeyi。yaoshinengqudechenggongbandedao，jiunengbianchenghuobaodejiudianxiaojie。

 danshi，yibannvshijibian meiyouzheileijutigongzuojingyan，yaoshinenglejienanrenxinli，bingduofangmianshencengcilejiedehua，yingdangyekeyifazhandaokeyituixing“mizhunanshengdegoutongjiaoliujishuxing”deshuiping。

 aideshigetiaojian,renqinggezhonggeyangshiqingdezhenzhi，bingjiangshiwudebenzhiyugongzuojingyanduofangmianduibi，xiangxinniyekeyiyinerfajuegengkaikuodequanqiu。yaoshinenggengweishencengcitanxunshiwudebenzhibingduofangmianlejie，dangranjiunengjuyougengyuanrong、gaochaodeniantou。