那遇到了第三者插足情形咋办

 zhuadaodisanzheyinggaizenmebandisanzheyizhibeipanduanweibiyizaoyifeichangdebufengcai，shijishangshijishangyedequezheiban，tarenzaoyishiyoujiazhongderenneiyangdangzuodisanzhedezhenshishenfenbujinshibiequlezishenyeshiduizishendebuzizhong。disanzhechazurendebenxingtanyu，dangyigerennanshengshiyechenggongdeqingkuangxiabianbufuheyuxiankuangle，jiexiaqudajiazhangwozhuadaodisanzhecongmingdenvrenyoushenmezuofani。

抓到第三者该怎么办

 lizhijiejue，bubichangshizhaolingyifangyoukuyounaolaichangshicongtadedeshenshangwanliunidejiazhong，jirantakeyizuochuzheiyijianshierbiranyezaoyigaohaoyingzhandetiqianzhunbeile，huoxutazhengdengnidelailinhaorangnizijizhinanertui。jishizheiyijianshierzuoweinvxingmeiyoucuokeshiyidanzaoshoulegongbudeyoukuyounaobiranyinlaidaliangdexianhua，dangranzuoweidangjuzhederenmeiyouyigerenkeyibimiande，jiajiahuhukeyoubennanniandejingneiyangdeshiershibubibianchengbierenfanhouchayudetanlunhuati，ruoshijiazhongyouxiaohaizhenduixiaohaieryanyehuichuxianyidingdeweihai。lizhijiejueliqingxixinxububizuochubuzhengquedefenbianhetiaoxuan。

追推本溯源

 shuodaodizheiyijianshiershiliangrendeyiwu，dandaliangdeshinanxingdeyiwu，yigebazhangpaibuxiang。changshihezishendelaogonghaohaodideliaoyiliaoyifazhuijiuyuanyin，hunyinshenghuodeyunyingkaodeshiliangrendexianghuxiezuo，bushiyigerendegushenyiren，jiranhunyinshenghuochuxianlenantijiuyingdanglijigaizheng，yifangdaozhiduoyudesunhai。yishijinyouxunzhaofabingyuanyinleyihoucaikeyiduizhengzhiliao，neimahunyinshenghuohaiyaoxunzhaocunzaidewenticaikeyizaiciweichixialai。jiarunihaixiangyaozheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo，nenggouhaohaodizhenxinchengyidehetaliaoyiliao，buguanzenyangzheiyijianshiershilingyifangdebuzhengquetadouyaojiyigejiaodai。

即然无法弥补只能舍弃

 jiaruyigerendexindouzaoyimeiyoule，neimahaicunzhequqiaoyoushenmezuoyong。shucijilingyifangjiyu，mudishiyaoxiangwanliuzheiyiduanzaoyifensuiledehunyinshenghuo，yierzaizaiersandeshizhehuandedebuguoshiyiciyouyicidepanbianheyiciyouyicidexinhan，huoxuzheiyiduanhunyinshenghuojiuzaoyizoulaidaozhongdian。zaoyuhunyinshenghuodezhongdianweiyidefangfabianshisheqizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuole，bicizaoyimeiyouzaiyiqidebixule，yicicidekuanrongbingbushinvxingdeyiweirenranggengbingbushijilingyifanggengjinyibudetandewuyan，tajinjinhaiaixizhezheiyiduantayunyingyijiudehunyinshenghuo，dangxinhancungou，yiqieyejiudougaigaoyiduanluomeiyoubixuhaiyoudaliangdejiuchanbuqing，hulvexianghushishidelumian。

晓之以情，动之以理

 henduorenhuidedaorichangshenghuoeryuwozhadehuoshengtamendoushiyouyigequshengdebaowu，neibianshidadeyishouhaolianminpai。yingduidisanzhebaichuehenhendexintaiyebukeyidedaodaliangdeyichu，qiangshijiejuekunnandezhongyao，bibushangyunyongbierendelianminlaijizijidedaodaliangjiyu，yuqinguzonghuoxuhainengzhuanbaiweisheng。

蛮横无理一点

 waiyoudisanzhedenanshengkendingshibuyuanyirangjiazhongderenlejiede，zhengshizaitadexinlihuanshizaiyizheiyijiade。zuoweinvxingfajuelezheiyijianshierxintaiyidingyaoqiangshiyidiangaozhilingyifangmeiyouxiayici，disanzhechazuyigerenyaoshiyouxiayicileyihoujiuhaihuijixuyouwushuxiayici，xianglingyifangbiaomingxiayicidebuliangyingxiang，jiarutahaizaiyizheiyijiazhongyidinghuiyouyidingdegulv。bubiyourouguaduanyebukeyiyourouguaduan，yourouguaduanjingchangshinvxingdetedianqidainvxingyekeyinachuwuqizhuangbeihaohaodiweihubaoyangzishendezhipeiquan。