对付第三者防第三者的4个是方法

 zhangfuyouwaiyu zenmeban?qianbujiuyoubufeichanghuodedianshilianxuju《humamaoba》，budanbahaizijiaoyunantituishangqulelangjian，lingwaiyebadisanzheernantiyanyidehanchanglinli。dongjiebanyandedisanzheertanglin，keyishuoshiyimingzhazhashishidesichanlandadedisanzheer，yingduizheibanqiangjingdedisanzheer，renmengaizenyangyingduinanchulidedisanzheerni?

zenmefangdisanzhe?zaiganleneimaduoganqingzixundejibenshang，jinriwolaizongdelaishuoduifudisanzhede4geshifangfa。

1、要尽早刚开始统一行动

 yingduidisanzheer，wojuedenanrenhemeinvxiangdequanshiwoyaoying，wobixuyaojibaidisanzheer，neimazenyangqiadangduifudisanzhe?zaijutiquanguochengzhong，daliangdenanrenhemeinvdoushiqudanxin：woyingbuyinggaiqujibai，jishiwohuosheng，danshiyoushangbazai，renmenneiyangxialaiqueshihuixingfukuailema?jiarurenmendaizhuneiyangdegujiqugendisanzhedou，neirenmenbishuwuyi。

 zhangfuyouwaiyuzenmeban?jiurubahesai，lingyifangzaoyizaijiejinquanlidezaifuhelvle，erzishenbudanmeiyoufuhelv，haiyaoxianzaizishendedanxinzhong，neiyanglingyifangzaoyihuosheng。

 lingyifangquanqiuchuxianledisanzheer，renmenhuimishi，huiwunai。jiururenmenbenmeiyoubixubaomingcanjiazheicifujiadebahesai，queyeyouxiaohaonengliangquzhengdebenyingguishuyuzishendewupin，renmenhuoxuhuibugaoxing。keshibugaoxingguibugaoxing，renmenqushouhaoguishuyuzishendewupincaishiyingdaoli。yincicongmingnvrenyingduidisanzheer，diyizhongbanfashijinzaoquzhengdelingyifang，erbingbushiqudanxin。

2、多给另一方太阳而并不是雨打风吹

 xuduonvxingfaxianzishendenanrenyoudisanzheeryihou，jingchangyouerzhongtiaoxuan：shouweilijiqunongsidisanzheer，qicidaidongqinyoutuanqunupilingyifang。renmenneiyanggenju“baoli”quranglingyifanghehaoruchutongchangzuihoudouyibuchenggonggaochang。dagexingrong，rujinnidenanrenchuandaoledisanzheerdeyundongwaitao，niyaotahuituoxia，danshitaleng，nitahuituotajiuhuituoma?nanrenwangwanghuiyoudisanzheer，douyouyutamenyixieyaoqiumeiyouhuodekaolv，tamencaixiangqubiedediquzhaoxun。jiurutaleng，tachuanshangtarenyifu。

 nilijiquzhaoqingrenrangtachechu，jiurubanitayifukuziqiangzhituodiao，tabudanburongyituodiao，huoxuyibianweihuhaozishendewaitaofandaosunhaini。zenmefangdisanzhe?jiarunilailaqinyoutuanqunupilingyifang，jiurujitamendeyifukuzishangsashui，qidailingyifangkanzaiyifukuzizaoyishitouledefenshang，suihoutuoxia。

 danshineiyangzongshiranglingyifanggengleng，gengburongyiqutuoxiayigenvrendeyundongwaitao。jiaruzheishihou，renmennengjilingyifangdequanqiuchanshengmouxietaiyang，lingyifangwennuanle，shunlichengzhangjiuhuijianjiandiqutuoxiatarendeyifukuzi。yincidangnifaxianlingyifangyoudisanzheershi，hebujingxiaxinlaixiangzhe，lingyifangshenmedifang“lengle”，bixuzishenquwennuanle。

3、不把自身对方向外推

 yiqianyougehenwennuandejingdiangushi：yimingmeimaodenvshichuxianyiwaiyongyouhunhouchuguibeilaogongzhuagezhengzhe，huijialehouhenkuijiukuijiu，henqidailaogongnenggoukuanrongzishen，danfeichangdanxinzishendelaogongburongyikuanrongzishen。huijialehou，xifushuo：“xiwangninengqingyuanliangwo”。laogongshuo：“neimeniwubidezaoshouchufa”。xifushi：“naxiechufawohaixiangyaoshou”。laogongshuo：“woxiangchufaniweiwozuoyishengdefan。”

 suihoutamenxingfukuailedexiangyongyiqile。youzheixiangbaodaoxianshixinxi：chuciyouhunhouchuguideren，87%derenzuichuquanshikuijiuyukuijiude，lingwaiyeqidaizaicifanhuizhiqiandejia，qidaihuodekuanrong。

 yincidangnifaxianlingyifangyoudisanzheerhou，yikaishilingyifanghuanshihenqidaihuodekuanrong，zaicifanhuijiali。zheishihou，renmenbubiouqijiubalingyifangxiangwaitui，lazhelazhejiugongxianledisanzheer。zheishihou，hebuxuehuifangxiaqingmian，xianjienalingyifang，dengdaolezheiyiduanshijian，zaihelingyifanghaohaodidequxiubuzheiyiduanguanlian。4、jiyulingyifangbixude

 yinweiyinsu，nannvpengyoudeyaoqiushibuyiyangde，nanrenzuibixudejizhongqingganshi：xinlai，lejie，shiyong。ernvxingzuibixudejizhongqingganshi：ai，guanzhu，lejie。

 yincinvrenhenanrendeyaoqiushibutongde，xuduonvxinghuibazishenrenweijiandandexingfujilingyifang，quebuzhidaowojuedenanrenzuibixudeshixinlai。jiarurenmenkaolvbushangnanrendezheizhongzuijichudeyaoqiu，lingyifangjiujiyoukenengqudisanzheerneibianxunzhaoneiyangdequeshao。jiarurenmennengjijiqukaolvnanrendezheizhongyaoqiu，disanzheershunlichengzhangjiuchechuyanchuwutaile。